In the book "The Little Prince", the little fox once said to the little prince: You tame me, and when you tame me, the world will be different for me. When the wind blows through the wheat field, I will think that your hair is yellow like wheat, and the scenery around you has meaning to me.
Seeing the final scene of the movie "Mai Qiu", the wind blows through the wheat waves, and the married person walks through the wheat field. The mother of the heroine Noriko said to Noriko's father: We Noriko don't know what happened. I suddenly remembered the conversation between the little prince and the fox above, and I thought that the family was such a domesticated relationship.
"The Little Prince" says that building a relationship is an important thing, and important things need us to spend time. Family relationships are relationships we've built all our lives. In building relationships, we domesticate ourselves with each other, carve each other into our bones, and become more and more tacit, more and more like ourselves.
The film tells the story of a Japanese family, the 28-year-old leftover girl Noriko is questioned why she is not married, colleagues laugh at her as a strange person, her parents are anxious to marry her out, and the girlfriends who play together are also playing with her because of marriage.
A colleague introduced her to an object, and the family began to discuss around her object, but without thinking about Itachi, she temporarily agreed to marry a neighbor with divorced children.
This is a film full of details, it is simple, but full of the warmth of home. In this film, I found the meaning of home.
In the movie, Noriko's parents go to the museum together, and the movements of the two people are exactly the same, even the rhythm of stuffing bread into their mouths is the same. When Noriko decides to marry a divorced neighbor, her parents disagree, and when she gets angry, the two of them kneel on the bed, the same movements, the same expression. At the end of the movie, when the two people sit together and drink tea and discuss their daughters, the actions of the two people are also so tacit, and the woman says to the man: I am happy in this life.
I think this is the meaning of home, grinding and domesticating each other in time. Unconsciously, they carved each other into their bones. Then, with full memories of life, say happiness.
In the movie, Noriko suddenly and temporarily agrees to marry a neighbor, and her girlfriend does not understand this matter. Noriko used to be a staunch unmarried person. For colleagues to call weird, it is just a smile. But just because of a sentence, I decided to marry, and the contrast between before and after is incomprehensible.
Girlfriend asks her if it's because of love? Noriko said no, she didn't know what it felt like, she only used a metaphor. She said, "It's like you're looking for a needle and then suddenly you find a needle next to you and pick it up, it's so natural, there's no feeling."
I think men are suitable for Noriko, are familiar, and are in the right position. Noriko's parents once lamented: If there is no Noriko, there will be a lot less joy in the family. Noriko's position in the house is a pistachio, and in the movie shot, Noriko is smiling and wearing a smile in this home. She would make fun of her unsmiling brother, she would please her sister-in-law, and she would tease her nephew.
Psychologically, each of us plays a different role in the family script. Noriko's role and position is to make this home full of joy and be the lubricant. This is The location and face of Noriko at home. So, when she heard the neighbor's mother-in-law, she wanted her to be a daughter-in-law. She suddenly found her own position and value, her marriage is not looking for a lover, she is looking for location and value.
Marriage is not a simple love story, it also represents the formation of a family. Home is a safe haven for a person, and a person who is looking for a home will care more about her value and meaning in home.
It is each person who plays their part in their home position, which also forms a unique way of getting along and atmosphere in a home.
Having seen many home movies and some home TV series such as "Please Answer 1988", I have always asked myself what touched me, what moved me?
I began to think, I thought of human beings from the beginning to live as a family group, its essence is to cooperate with each other, to resist external harm. In ancient times, people were too small to face many difficulties. Home gives this difficulty the strength and security to solve. Home makes people get rid of loneliness and have more understanding.
In the movie, Noriko's choice, the family began to disagree, feeling too wronged Noriko. The emotions of the family are beginning to be sad, and I think this is the meaning of home is to care for each other, silently bear, and even the emotions are in the same frequency rhythm.
With the rapid development of modern civilization, we can live well alone, and the sense of personality has also germinated. The germination of a person's personality consciousness is bound to be aggressive, and it seems to be irreconcilable with the tacit understanding of home. This has led many people to choose to be older leftover women and not to get married. But when they are sick and in difficult times, they want to have the warmth of home.
This seems contradictory, and I think this is also the reason why the elderly leftover women of the Kiko class refuse to enter the marriage late. But I believe in the real home, it is a kind of freedom. It allows you to be yourself independently in ordinary times, and someone who is willing to understand you and bear it with you when it is difficult.
Ozu, the director of this film, once said of his film: I always say that because I am a tofu maker, I only make tofu. One person can't make too many kinds of films. Even though my films all seem to look the same, I'm always trying to express something new in every film. I am like a painter, always painting the same rose.
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The director's words seem to be talking about a movie, and he is also talking about a family. Each family seems to be composed of some people, but they are different families, and the people inside are different.
The little prince said: There are thousands of roses in this world, and they look the same. But that rose that belongs to you is different. I would say that there are thousands of homes in the world, but the home that belongs to you is different.