Starring Liu Tao, Li Guangjie, Ying'er, Hu Ke, Tao Xinran and other urban family dramas, "Growing Up with You" ushered in the finale as scheduled, and this drama has been a constant topic from the beginning of the broadcast to the present. The drama mainly tells the story of the challenges and growth faced by 4 middle-aged families.
Due to the inconsistent concept of parenting, the relationship between Su Xing and Xi Bin was in crisis; Li Yunyun learned that Gu Jiawei was going to sell Weiyun Educational Institution under Gu Jiawei's long-term disregard and oppression, and Li Yunyun finally stepped out of the house and prepared to divorce her husband.
Shen Xiaoyan chose to divorce and not leave home for her son, and had to endure the laziness and irresponsibility of her ex-husband. Shen Xiaoyan, who has not been cared for a long time, is silently cared for by the convenience store manager, and learns that Shen Xiaoyan has divorced, the store manager boldly pursues, and the two have feelings for each other. It was at this time that her ex-husband Li Xiang remembered the benefits of Shen Xiaoyan and was determined to rekindle the relationship.
From the surface, it seems that He Jinghua's family is the most calm and quiet, except for a rebellious daughter and a mischievous son, there is no big storm. But in fact, as a second-married family, a huge mine was buried from the beginning, that is, He Jinghua's parents.
He Jinghua, who is married for the second time
He Jinghua, an indigenous shanghainese, senior accountant, proper white-collar worker. Is the only daughter, the mother's family is solid, now live in the big house is the parents down payment to buy, the parents themselves also have a house, in Shanghai, this big city, can afford to buy two suites of the family can not be underestimated.
He Jinghua looked at it as a love brain, had his first marriage when he was young, and as a result, he met a scumbag, except for leaving a daughter and a past that could not be looked back, and left nothing.
Although He Jinghua, who was spoiled and habitual from a young age and could not do anything, divorced with his daughter, he did not suffer too much, because of the help of his parents.
In the quarrel with Zi Ning, it is not difficult to know that Zi Ning has been taken care of by her grandparents since she was a child, and He Jinghua did not pay too much attention to Zi Ning's growth, causing Zi Ning to rebel.
It is reasonable to say that a single mother with a child will be more cautious when remarrying, but when He Jinghua met a poor and white young man Jiang Bo, he insisted on marrying him despite his parents' opposition.
Jiang Bo, who "does not do the right thing"
Jiang Bo, in the words of He Jinghua's parents, is a rural "soft rice man" who does not do business, has no education, and has no ability.
Jiang Bo's real conditions really can't be compared with He Jinghua. First of all, I am a foreigner, no Shanghai hukou, college education, no decent work, usually at home to do makeup live broadcast.
He Jinghua's parents did not agree to their daughter marrying him, and after marriage, they looked down on him. He never treated Jiang Bo as his son-in-law, and openly and secretly ridiculed Jiang Bo for not being capable, idle, and not doing the right thing.
Because he cared about this family, and He Jinghua bore him a son, Jiang Bo did not care about the gossip of his father-in-law and mother-in-law, did not explain or pay attention. Perhaps under the influence of his parents for a long time, He Jinghua once lost his mouth and said that Jiang Bo had nothing to do at home all day, which made Jiang Bo very surprised: it turned out that his closest people also thought so.
Therefore, when Jiang Bo proposed divorce, not only He Jinghua panicked, But also He Jinghua's parents panicked, they did not understand why Jiang Bo, who had always been non-rebellious, wanted to leave this family so desperately, and they even kidnapped morally, thinking that Jiang Bo was too ignorant of Entu to repay, and his precious daughter married a "soft rice man" low, he should have a low brow and a good eye for a lifetime.
"Nosy" parents
Is He Jinghua a low-married person? I don't think so.
Although He Jinghua's external conditions are indeed better than Jiang Bo's, Jiang Bo is not what they call "useless". He loves He Jinghua and treats Zi Ning like his own daughter. He is willing to take care of the family's diet and living, so that He Jinghua continues to enjoy the life of two fingers without touching the spring water of the sun, giving her a massage and making soup for her.
Although there is no work that has made He Jinghua's parents put gold on their faces, in order to support his family, he also works hard to broadcast live and go out to pick up work to make people makeup. Everyone lives a different way, and it's not a decent job every day from nine to five.
Such a Jiang Bo is He Jinghua's best choice, if there is no parent to mix from it, the two will not go to the point of divorce.
So after Jiang Bo ran away from home, He Jinghua also broke up with his parents, blaming his parents for forcing Jiang Bo away, and his parents also felt that they were wronged, and spent 15,000 yuan to buy a bunch of supplements for their daughters, and they were angry with their daughters.
Are He Jinghua's parents aggrieved?
As a parent, saddle up for their daughter, take the child, do housework, the result is thankless, from this aspect alone is indeed a bit of a grievance.
But in the final analysis, such an outcome is also self-inflicted. Throughout, in their daughter's house, they did three things wrong:
First, you should not interfere in your daughter's marriage.
He Jinghua's parents have to take care of everything about their daughter, and He Jinghua's first unfortunate marriage, The levee also has this possibility: in order to resist the discipline of his parents, he hastily married. Just like Zi Ning forcibly kissed Xi Bin in front of He Jinghua in order to resist.
He Jinghua dragged his daughter to marry the young Jiang Bo for the second marriage, and his parents were also picky, never treating Jiang Bo as his own family, calling and calling, sneering and sneering.
He Jinghua was also in the long-term brainwashing nagging of his parents, and he was at ease to enjoy the care of Jiang Bo, and never seriously considered the relationship between the two: it seemed that Jiang Bo should be a cow and a horse, working hard and complaining.
Second, you should not look down on your son-in-law
He Jinghua's parents have always believed that Jiang Bo is not worthy of his daughter, a rural baby from other places, college education, no ability, not even a job as a child, the door is not right, so at the beginning did not agree to his daughter marrying him.
Even if his daughter married him, He Jinghua's parents never looked at Jiang Bo squarely, only treating him like a nanny and drinking, whenever He Jinghua's parents came to the house, Jiang Bo was like sneaking out to breathe.
As Jiang Bo himself said:
Who do I dare to throw my face at? I tell you, I have been in this family for so many years, I swallow my breath every day, I am suffocated, I am fast, I can't afford to know, then I can always hide! I'm like a turtle, I put my head every day, I shrink into the shell, I'm afraid of who to mess with, who is not happy, what are you doing now, I can't hide from it, can't I hide? You have to pull my head out and chop my head off to death before you're happy, aren't you?
Third, we should not interfere in the education of our children
In fact, Although He Jinghua's family is married for the second time and has two children, in fact, among the four families, He Jinghua is the most comfortable one, and he does not have to run around for life like Shen Xiaoyan, does not have to rely on her husband to live like Li Yunyun, and does not have to be excluded like Waking up.
The premise of all this is that her parents did not visit the house, and every time her parents visited, the family must jump.
Next generation of pets, facing the 6-year-old Jiang Siyuan, chasing after the feeding, once He Jinghua wants to educate the children, always intervene, the little Jiang Siyuan has developed a character that is not afraid of heaven, and He Jinghua and his wife are also bitter.
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Of course, film and television dramas still pursue great consummation, Jiang Bo wants to divorce He Jinghua, watching his daughter become increasingly decadent, as a parent, yu can't bear it, but also reflect on his own problems.
Writer Ling Lan once said a sentence:
"The best relationship is to keep your distance close."
Deeply.
As a parent, the depth of love, the depth of hatred, the original intention must be good, this is beyond doubt. He Jinghua's parents just want their daughter to live well and help her as much as possible, but she has done bad things with good intentions.
Not properly maintaining a comfortable distance from the daughter and son-in-law's family led to a series of intricate emotional collisions.
If Su Xing and Xi Bin are an enviable couple with an enviable equally matched husband and wife relationship, then He Jinghua and Jiang Bo, who are married for the second time, are a kind of husband and wife relationship that complements each other and supports each other, and if there is no parental turmoil, the two may not be worse off than others.
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