Text | Huang Yingxiong · Anchor | millet
Source: Ten Point Video (ID: sdvideos)
People can't count how many rounds of bright moon on her roof, Nor could she count the thousand brilliant suns behind her walls. - "Brilliant Thousand Suns"
How many attempts do people have to try in their lifetime to find their own direction? Take a spin in time, drift with fate to the distance, and meet all the beauty unexpectedly.
From the ghost horse spirit in the original "File Ice March" to the simple beauty in the later "Strange Life", "Miss Wallflower" Aya has been trying higher life challenges.
Entered the entertainment industry at the age of 18, gave up variety shows to study acting abroad at the hottest time, chose to be a mother when the performance was just on the right track, and came back to do a documentary when the child was 4 years old.
In the face of the baptism of wind and rain, she seems to tell us: You are bold to move forward, and the years have their own gifts.
The woman reached forty, but it was a new journey. We can still have the passion and bravery of the age of twenty.
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Half seawater, half light
Each of us has different degrees of inferiority because we all want to make ourselves better and live a better life. However, few people take the initiative to talk about "inferiority", especially the glamorous entertainment industry actresses.
This time, Aya said her "inferiority" frankly.
In the book "All the Tears That Have Been Shed, They Will Turn into Diamonds", Aya records her own growth experience.
Her childhood was spent in low self-esteem, and her father was 25 years older than her mother. Because of her father's advanced age, she feared that his father would leave at any time. Because of her lack of outstanding appearance, she often endured the ridicule of her classmates.
From a comedian to a temperament goddess, it took her nearly 20 years to complete the transformation. The entertainment industry is more of a place of self-discovery to her.
"Entering the entertainment industry at the age of 18, I quickly tasted the taste of red. At the same time, you will also see a lot of comparisons and competitions, and you will have a lot of emotions in your heart, such as jealousy, criticism, anger, and so on. But then I slowly discovered that the most important thing is how you have to face it, and what kind of person you have to choose to be. ”
Now she will think: Why should people have inferiority?
"How many people on earth, everyone is so different, even if the twins look exactly the same, the personalities can be completely different. So everyone has their own beauty, everyone has their own good, and your inferiority is because you only look at the good outside, and you forget that you are good. Especially women, I think women must know how to love themselves, and that beauty will really bloom. ”
There are thousands of kinds of beauty. Knowing how to appreciate the beauty of others, but also to accept their own shortcomings, such a person can be called real beauty.
"Strange Life", the man who touched the elephant
Aya has posted two historic microblogs documenting two major decisions in her life.
She wrote on Weibo in 2006: "Leaving I guess is a new departure for me.
That year, she gave up the momentum of popularity in the entertainment industry and went to the United States to study. At the time, she was surrounded by almost all opposition. Aya's mother feared that the audience would forget about Aya who had left. His partner, Wu Zongxian, also has different ideas, and he feels that Aya needs to hone more in the university of society.
In the face of the persuasion of family and friends, Aya is still determined, and she hopes to bring back a different version of herself from abroad.
After returning from a study tour, people met the intellectually elegant Aya. On the "Kangxi Coming" program, his friend Xiao S couldn't help but say, "You're going to hit hyaluronic acid!" This time, her beauty was unleashed from the inside out, making it impossible to ignore.
She is no longer the ugly duckling with low self-esteem, but she is not willing to be a swan with an outstretched neck, only a single tone, and she wants to challenge herself to a different version.
On September 22, 2018, Aya wrote a letter to herself on Weibo:
Aya, 2018, is about to start your four-character life. You are still curious about life's doubts, but you are more honest and open to yourself than before... Sincere communication between people must have a strange encounter to open themselves, right?
This year, she was 40 years old. She made the most surprising decision of her life, and a variety show called "Strange Life" was born.
Xiao S, Chun Xia, Dou Xiao, Song Jia, Park Shu, Mao Buyi, Fan Xiaoxuan and other ten stars all helped.
They wept for a dead elephant in Zambia and ran after a tornado in the uninhabited wilderness of the United States.
After the program was broadcast, Douban netizens gave a high score of 9.2. This is rare in the history of variety shows.
All achievements are accompanied by a stormy baptism. Before the launch of the show, Aya had been brewing for 10 years and planning for half a year. When she sent the plan to Xiao S, she was also worried that she would be rejected, but she did not think about it but received strong support from Xiao S. Even if they want to go far away from Africa, they hope to present their true selves in the show.
However, just when the show was filmed in the 10th episode, Aya received the news that her friend had died in a car accident, which became her biggest regret in her heart.
"Life really doesn't everything happen the way you want it to, it just has so many sad things, it's a kind of coexistence of pain and pleasure." 」
Ayaben is a person who values friendship, and after the death of her friend, she has a new understanding of friendship and life and death.
"Everyone you see, you have to treat them well."
Giants collapse and baby elephants are born
Everyone has a giant in their life, and that is their own father. The Father's love is like a mountain, and it also hurts.
Aya's father only had Aya at the age of 50, but died during the rise of Aya's career. This gave Aya a big blow. She was coping with everything on her own, and at the same time, she was caught off guard at the age of 24.
To Aya, the father is a giant and a guardian. Recalling the past father-daughter relationship, no matter how busy my father is, he will ride a motorcycle home for 1 hour after work to make dinner. If he came home early, he would wait for his family to come home before going to bed, and he would get up early every day to make breakfast.
"As long as the family and the music are happy, the rest are small things." This is a phrase that fathers often say.
His father's personality deeply influenced Aya. He is dutiful to his family, and he is gentle and amiable to his neighbors.
At his father's farewell ceremony, many neighbors attended, the hostess of the breakfast shop, and the employees of the car repair shop. Aya lamented the capacity of her father's bosom, as wide as the sea. The father is dead, but the father's love has always remained in the heart.
Aya hid a thought about her father in her heart, but on the way to study, she still couldn't help but cry, and she cried for two days. After crying, she decided to be really strong. Fathers should be happier that they have a strong daughter.
Later, Aya had a daughter of her own. She tried to get along with her daughter as a friend, equally and honestly. She would stop for her daughter's "mom" and let her daughter know that there was always someone listening. For the healthy growth of her daughter, she is willing to give everything.
It turns out that people's wishes, we always say in our hearts, I hope to be thinner, I hope to make a lot of money, what kind of life I want to live, what kind of object I want to make.
But when you have a child, you will find that in fact, the original wish can be so simple, I only hope that this person grows up healthy and healthy, happy and peaceful, everything else, that is, you want me to become fat, it doesn't matter how you want me, as long as he is well.
Daughter, wife, mother, is the three-fold identity that most women cannot avoid in their lives. In the transformation of these three, the woman also completes her own meaning of life.
The death of her father and the birth of her daughter made Aya begin to look down on many things.
No fear of age, gratitude for the years
In 2018, Aya ushered in her 40 years old, which may be a frightening thing for an actress. However, Aya accepted the imprint that time had left for her.
"I think women have different beauty at every stage, and an elder once told me, Aya, one day when you laugh and have crow's feet, you will actually be very beautiful, and that sentence touched me very much, because in fact, wrinkles also represent our life experience." 」
Now Aya is mature and calm. She embraced herself calmly and wisely, embracing the world.
"Don't fall in love with yourself in the mirror, you don't want to be obsessed with yourself in the mirror, but you have to make yourself the love itself." 」 This is a quote from The Art of Love, and it's Aya's favorite quote.
True beauty requires a process of introspection. We all have to practice slowly to become what we want to be.
"My motto in life is that whether it is a good experience or a bad experience, it is actually a very good experience in the end, because often we will learn from the worst experience." 」
Time is speechless and calmly coping. No matter what age, you will carve yourself like a work of art, eliminate the parts that are not good enough, and get the gift of the good years.
All roads lead to the other way. All of them are on a journey to discover beauty.
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