NetEase Cloud Music has such a popular comment: "I finally spent half asleep and half awake waiting for him to return to WeChat." Now I have no expectations, so I am not disappointed. I can get a good night's sleep. ”
I think of this paragraph because I received a letter today. She said she felt her boyfriend had changed. She is no longer as keen to share her life as she used to be, but indifferent and perfunctory.
She said she had been waiting for news from her boyfriend and set him up as a top, star and strong reminder, but the WeChat prompt that belonged to him never rang.
Finally, she asked me if I should give up.
I didn't answer her directly, but I know the girl still loves her boyfriend, so it's hard to let him down, not care about him, and give up on him like this.
Have you ever had a time like this, with countless conversation topics, but then they were all speechless. They were reluctant to say goodnight before. Now the news was like a stone sinking into the sea, without sound.
01
There is a clue that any relationship is separate because love does not disappear suddenly, but little by little.
Talk less and less, chat more and more perfunctory. Chatting with you before is the most important thing. Later, everything is more important than you.
So whether he loves you or not will give you answers in your fewer and fewer chats.
02
Our love, from persistence to perfunctory, from fresh to speechless, from tacit understanding to strangeness, is not so obvious, and it is difficult for me to continue to persevere.
In fact, sometimes, giving up is really instantaneous.
As the saying goes: "The most honorable way for adults to say goodbye is my last message, you did not reply, I did not tacitly send it again, then I will see you again on the lake." ”
So, let's break up.
03
When you see a man who treats you like a treasure, when you remember that he is on his way to your southeast and northwest, when you see him loving you, you know he really doesn't love you now.
Those perfunctory "uh-huhs" hide his indifference, his indifference and indifference to the relationship.
Because in his eyes, you don't matter anymore.
04
No one is indifferent in front of someone you like, so whether you're perfunctory, lazy, or indifferent, it's because you don't care.
Don't care about your joys and sorrows, don't care about your food, clothing, shelter, or even what you say, don't care if you're sad because he doesn't care.
You know, the person who loves you will never be able to bear to see you sad. There has never been a straight man in the world. He doesn't know how romantic and passionate, but the flame in his heart doesn't want to warm you.
05
Mr. Qian Zhongshu once said a very touching love sentence:
"I didn't bring a car when I went out today. I saved the car money and bought it. Of course, I have money to buy fruit, but I save money to buy it. It seems I really gave it to you. ”
I believe that you once loved me so much, but sadly, you have changed, maybe you have matured, but once you also fell in love with such a naïve me.
The desire to share needs to be perpetuated through response. Wishful thinking will not last long after all.
Because I like that person, I'm willing to talk a lot of crap with him, turn boredom into fun, and share seemingly ordinary but lovely slices of life with him.
Those conversations that don't have a special purpose are actually about maintaining a connection between two people.
If it wasn't for sharing with a loved one, no one would care what shape today's clouds are, whether today's milk tea has pearls, and whether today's takeaway doesn't have chopsticks.
Sharing things that seem meaningless is really just hoping that the other person will participate in their own lives.
But when did you find that your desire to share began to decrease?
I guess this starts with you telling him a lot of interesting things and only getting a faint "okay, yes, well, okay".
So even if I miss you again, I'll hide my desire to share and not want to take the initiative anymore.