When we like a person, we will try our best to please each other, so that the other party cares about themselves, which is the common sentiment of people. In the face of love, if in order to please each other, like a slave to pay humbly, so that the taste of the feeling is no longer worth nostalgia.
But there are always some people who are overwhelmed by love, confused, and thus act irrationally.
Seeing such an incident on the Internet, a young man in Wenzhou, Zhejiang Province, has been kneeling in the rain to "admit his mistake", which has attracted the attention of passers-by.
Only to see him wearing a green vest, gray shorts, the most eye-catching thing is that there is a green hat at hand, what the green hat means, everyone naturally understands.
Two printed A4 pieces of paper were placed in front of the man, one was a dense confession book, the other was a beautiful photo of his girlfriend and a group photo of the two.
Excerpts from the Confessions
I was wrong, you let my ex sleep in your house several times and I shouldn't be angry
I was wrong, I shouldn't have asked you about our future possibilities
I was wrong, I shouldn't have asked you to put the photo at home
I was wrong, I shouldn't have told you I missed you and loved you
You say you like younger than yourself, you say you have kids, I don't mind, so do my family
It turns out that the man and his girlfriend are "sister-brother love", the man's girlfriend has been divorced and has a child, the girlfriend has broken off the connection with her ex-husband during the period of his relationship, the man said a few words to his girlfriend in a huff, and did not expect that the girlfriend actually gambled and ran away from home.
Since the girlfriend left home, the man can not contact the girlfriend, all the contact information has been blocked, the man asked all the relatives and friends, still can not find the girlfriend, had to make this decision.
From the man's confessional book, it can be seen that the love between the two is different from ordinary people, the girlfriend and his relationship with him also brought his ex-husband back to live with, pedaling two boats, obviously taking the feelings of the two as a child's play, or maybe the girlfriend does not care about him at all, but just uses him as an alternative to dispel loneliness.
The man's confession book caused heated discussion among netizens, some netizens said that the girlfriend may just be playing, people's hearts are still on the side of the ex-husband and children, but the man did not expect to move the truth, it is really stupid.
Some netizens said that this guy is obsessed and pitiful, but it is a pity that he loves the wrong person.
From the words of the confessional book, it can be seen that the man loves the lowliness, and has paid a lot for his girlfriend, but he still can't change his girlfriend's sincerity, or even disgust.
Can't put the two people together at home, can't set the two photos as mobile phone wallpaper, can't say to the girlfriend that they love you like you... These very normal requirements between lovers are not allowed, it can be seen that this woman does not love men at all, and what surprises people is to take her ex-husband to live at home, and even ask her boyfriend not to be angry!
These unreasonable demands of the girlfriend, the man thinks it is his fault, from the confessional text, as if he is the third party.
Love makes the man dizzy, confused, he kneels in the rain to admit his mistake, begging his girlfriend to turn back, do not know that such a kneeling will lose the dignity of men, and such wishful thinking love is not infatuation, but stupid to the extreme.
In love, if you pay for a person who does not love you, even if you pay more, the other party may not be able to see it, and even take your efforts for granted, because he has not put you in his heart at all, and his heart has no place for you, and naturally he will not feel sorry for your efforts.
Just like the kneeling man mentioned in the text, he can see his true feelings for his girlfriend, but in order to save his girlfriend from losing himself and the bottom line, for a woman who does not put herself in her heart, begging for feelings like a slave is not worth it!
There is a very classic saying: "People who love you, reluctant to pay, people who don't love you, no matter how much you pay, it will be in vain"
So, your love, your efforts should be used for the right person, what is the right person? That is, he will feel sorry for your efforts, will cherish your love, will also respond to your same love, and will not make all kinds of unreasonable demands to embarrass you.
Since we love, we must love a person who is worthy of love, pay for someone worthy of love, even if you are tired, you are willing; paying for someone worthy of love will be able to feel happiness in giving.
Pay for those who deserve love, even if there is no happy ending, there is no regret!
Two people in love are equal, and if one person loves humble and the other person is always looking down on the attitude, such feelings change taste.
The humble person who loves always wants to touch the other party with your efforts, but a person who will only enjoy your tolerance and pay will not hurt you, will not read your good, will only put forward more unreasonable demands without a lower limit, but whenever you do not meet his wishes one day, he will kick you away.
Humble love will only make you miserable, you never know how many unreasonable demands the other party has waiting for you to meet, you look up at the other party like a slave and wait for orders, trembling and worrying about whether you can make the other party happy.
Humility is not the way lovers get along, true love is that both sides are equal, respect and love each other, and true love can bring both parties spiritual pleasure and happiness.
If you find yourself blindly accommodating and forbearing in love, humbly pleasing the other party, and the other party takes it for granted, it can only mean that the other party is not your good person and is not worthy of your love.
Learning to stop losses in time is not worthless love is a kind of wisdom, learn to let go to give yourself the opportunity to start over, to believe that in this vast world, there is always someone who regards you as a treasure and feels sorry for your efforts.