Some people have a high IQ, but their emotional intelligence is particularly low, they can't talk or do things, and people around them don't like him, which is very unfavorable to the development of their careers. There are also people with low emotional intelligence, who are better at drilling bulls and horns, have poor ability to resist setbacks, and make a mess of their lives. Therefore, many parents now attach great importance to the cultivation of their children's emotional intelligence.
Perhaps IQ will be more affected by heredity, but the child's emotional intelligence, under the attention and guidance of parents, can really be gradually improved.
A person's emotional intelligence is very complex, it runs through the bits and pieces of life, reflecting a person's ability, but also reflecting a person's cultivation. High emotional intelligence is like a person giving a pair of wings to a child, so that he has a faster growth and progress speed than others, and moves towards a successful life.
Children with high emotional intelligence speak appropriately and know how to consider the feelings of others, and children with low emotional intelligence speak without covering their mouths, and it is easy to provoke the other party to be unhappy and disgusted. So we have to teach our children to speak well. For example, to treat the help of others to say "thank you", do the wrong thing, say "sorry" in time, often praise others, etc., over time, the child will develop the habit of speaking well.
Some parents in the education and criticism of children, always regardless of the occasion and time, as long as they think, will scold and criticize the child, completely arbitrarily educate the child, such a parent, I believe everyone has seen.
Really, even the youngest child will have self-esteem, and the child's self-awareness is much stronger than adults think. Children's self-esteem, in their eyes, is bigger than the sky.
Children with self-esteem can more identify with their own value and do everything in life with confidence and vitality. No matter how much you hate iron, you can't say harsh words, you can't say absolute words, and you can't beat and scold children in public.
Parents want to cultivate their children's high emotional intelligence, take their children to play in these places, and their emotional intelligence will also improve little by little.
There are many children in welfare homes, and children can play with children in welfare homes. Children in welfare homes are more mature and understand things earlier, and can teach their children a lot of truths, which are told to him from the mouths of people of the same age, but make it easier for him to listen. And it also allows babies to learn to thank their parents. The conditions of some welfare homes are not very good, so that children can understand that their lives are so good is difficult to get, will cherish well, help to cultivate children's hearts.
The above places are all places where children can be trained to become excellent, and if parents have the conditions, they can take their children to play.
Mom and Dad take their children to other children's homes to play.
Timidity, recognition, and fear of people are all manifestations of low emotional intelligence. In particular, some only children do not have a partner at home who can play together. If neighbors or friends have children of similar age, they can often take the children to play together.
Go to other people's homes to find friends to play, as a small guest, children can not only enjoy the fun of playing with friends, but also learn some etiquette for treating people and things. How do others entertain themselves, and what should you do when your friends come to your house?
Mom and Dad take their children to playgrounds and parks to play.
Little kids love to ride on carousels, bumper cars, Ferris wheels. Then take the children to the amusement park, you can develop the children's intelligence and emotional intelligence. There are many projects that children have never seen before, and will be full of curiosity, which will not only stimulate children's curiosity, but also make children full of dreamy imagination. Children's imagination can be cultivated, and there are many writers who are very rich in imagination. And the amusement park has many children of the same age, and they can also play together, so that the children's communication skills have been improved.
When children are together, it seems that they are playing this one thing, but children can learn a lot. For example, some children are selfish at home, but they can't do it in places like playgrounds and parks, and the toys in public places are shared by everyone, they have to queue up, they have to abide by the rules of the game, and they have to learn how to work with others. Through these exercises, the child's lover will improve little by little.
For children, the criticism that makes them most sad and afraid is not scolding, but the parents' non-acceptance.
Although this method seems to allow children to obey, it does not make children realize their mistakes, but makes children feel that they have made mistakes and parents no longer like themselves.
Criticize the child, let the child know that I accept you unconditionally, and all I don't accept is your behavior. Every child who makes a mistake wants his parents to love themselves as always.
Let your child often attend adult gatherings with mom and dad.
People will have negative emotions, not to mention a child, the child's ability to control emotions will be a little worse. But children with high emotional intelligence know when to lose their temper and when not to lose their temper. First, we need to help children recognize emotions. For example, I am sad that you hit me. Recognizing emotions is a long process for children, but with more such practice, children can not only express their own feelings and emotions, but also have a clear understanding of the emotions of others. Parents should not say anything to their children, but should understand their children as much as possible, so that their children's emotions can calm down as soon as possible.
Gatherings between adults, if it is not a formal workplace, parents can take their children to see it together. How parents get along with their friends at parties is also a good education for their children. Seeing more people and dealing with others can also overcome the difficulty of communication between children and people, and the psychology of being afraid of people. Children are more likely to see the world, which is very good for improving emotional intelligence.
Boys with high emotional intelligence can be said to be a small warm man, and often make people feel warm. Girls, too, will be sweet enough. We can usually guide children to think on the other side. Many mothers sometimes feel very tired, but they still have to go out to play with themselves, and they do not know how to understand their parents, so such children are somewhat ruthless. If parents remind their children to think differently, it can help them perceive the emotions of others and improve their emotional intelligence.
In addition to taking children to the above places to play, parents should also do the following two points to improve their children's emotional intelligence:
Mom and Dad spend more time with their children at home and give them a sense of security.
Mom and Dad are busy at work and don't often spend time at home with their children. I think the companionship of parents is a necessity for the growth of children, and a child with the company of his parents from an early age can accumulate enough security in his heart and maximize his child's nature.
The love of parents makes children cheerful, confident and lively, which is also the performance of children's high emotional intelligence. Parents restrain and discipline their children, so that children understand the rules, talk about civilization, and have good living habits, which is also the basic condition for children to get along with others in the future.
Parents cultivate the good habit of reading, which can also help children improve their emotional intelligence.
Books are a good thing, everyone's life is inseparable from books, the role of books is very large. Parents should take their babies to places with more books, such as libraries, bookstores and other places. The babies are very curious, full of curiosity about some things, and have a strong desire to explore. Children can find answers in books, not only can get a lot of knowledge from books, but also gain self-confidence. There are many books with illustrations and so on, and children like to read them, which can enrich children's brains and learn in happiness.
There are customs and customs of different regions in the book, and there are also many people's feelings, and reading books can make people increase their knowledge and make people understand. Parents guide their children to read more meaningful books, so that children can increase their insight, distinguish between right and wrong, and be a person who knows how to read. Buying books for children and reading for parents and children, and taking children to the library to read independently, are all good choices.
Life is education, and children's emotional intelligence is honed from life.