James Fallon is a well-known American neuroscientist who has been studying psychopaths for 35 years and is well known in the industry. Although in the eyes of outsiders, he is sometimes a fat man who "loves to remember revenge and be careful with his eyes", no one will associate him with "murderers".
But a study he accidentally took over led him to discover his "perverted genes." Fallon was invited to analyze the brain scans of homicide suspects and hoped to summarize the commonalities of these criminals. By chance, Faron found that his brain scan was almost the same as these "murderers"!
The arrow points to a faron brain scan
At first he didn't take it seriously, but then his mother told him about the family's secrets: on the family tree of Faron's father, more than 400 years of bloody violence were recorded.
Since his grandparents killed their biological mother in 1673, there have been several cold-blooded murderers in the family at regular intervals. And according to the time calculation, Falun should be the next killer!
But why, instead of perpetuating the family curse, Faron became a renowned scientist?
After Faron's in-depth research, he discovered a completely new theory of psychopathy, the "three-legged stool theory", that is, the three factors of perverted criminals:
1) Prefrontal cortex function of the frontal orbital cortex and the prefrontal cortex, including the amygdala (related to brain damage); 2) There are many high-risk mutations in the gene (the most famous of which is the "warrior gene"); 3) Experienced mental, physical, or sexual abuse in early childhood (another way of saying that they witnessed or experienced a lot of violence).
Obviously, the first 2 factors are related to the innate inheritance of "crime genes", but the third article is completely due to childhood traumatic events.
According to psychologist Professor Xu Yan, these vicious events "will break the child's sense of security, satisfaction and self-worth, which in turn will lead to a biased reaction in the child, which may last a lifetime."
The elegant, bloodthirsty Professor Hannibal in the movie "The Silence of the Lambs" is a good example. Because he was abused by his stepmother in his childhood, he grew up hating women, killing them indiscriminately and choosing to "peel" their anger.
What is even more frightening is that if the "naturally perverted" criminal gene is stimulated by the acquired childhood experience, there is basically no possibility of salvation.
But don't worry, not all "natural perverts" will become bloodthirsty. Just like Faron, under the care of his mother, he still became a normal person, thank God!
The example of Faron corroborates the kuwaiti writer Munir Nassouf:
"Maternal love refers not only to the mother's love for the child, but also to the child's love for the mother."
But conversely, if the mother cannot give the child the love she deserves, the child's love for the mother may turn into hatred.
The master of psychology Freud said: "A person who is completely liked by his mother will have a feeling of being a winner throughout his life, and this message of success usually leads to real success." ”
He believes that the child's personality is basically fixed at the age of 5, and there is little change after that. Therefore, the early upbringing of parents plays a vital role in the child's life.
So, how exactly should parents love their children better?
In the book "Becoming a Better Self: 30 Lectures on Xu Yan's Personality Psychology", Xu Yan, professor of psychology at Beijing Normal University and former president of Chinese social psychology, provides us with a useful combing.
Democratic parenting is the most conducive to the growth of children.
According to the research of psychologists, the parenting type of parenting can generally be divided into three types: authoritarian, laissez-faire, and democratic.
Authoritarian parents are very strict with their children, even a little rough, believing in "filial piety under the stick". This kind of parenting will make children form two extreme personalities: inferiority and cowardice or brutality.
Laissez-faire parents will resign themselves to all of their children's demands and will not have a sense of authority. Children who grow up in such families have no sense of responsibility, are indulgent in behavior, and learn not to be responsible for themselves and others.
Democratic parents will use encouragement and guidance for their children. Not only good at listening to the voice of the child, but also giving the right guidance at key moments.
"Children who grow up in this family environment will form some positive personality qualities, such as liveliness, happiness, directness, self-reliance, politeness, good communication, easy cooperation, lively thinking, etc."
You may ask, if you have a childhood injury, you can't have a better life? The answer, of course, is no!
Professor Xu Yan said, "Past events are not the determining factor in the current behavior... Personality continues to develop after childhood, and this development may continue throughout life. ”
What we have to do is to "activate the independent construction of personality."
First, recognize that adult life experiences can both solidify early personality patterns, but more often than not, can change them.
Second, the impact of childhood on everyone varies from person to person.
As a child, was an unassuming little girl, and her stiff, authoritarian father would strike her down and even reluctant her to pursue higher education. But the 9-year-old girl said to herself, "If I can't be pretty, I'm going to make me smart." ”
In the end, fought all the way and received a doctorate in medicine from the University of Berlin. You know, that was a few decades ago, women could get an education, all the way to the beginning of the Doctorate.
Like Tara Westover, the number one in Bill Gates' annual recommended book, author of "When You Fly Like a Bird to Your Mountain."
Coming from a religious family that insisted on "not going to school and not seeking medical treatment", she never entered the classroom before the age of 17, and was hit by the words of her father and brother, violently abused, and became a doctor of history at Cambridge University by virtue of her innate enthusiasm and self-study.
"The past was a ghost, illusory and unaffectable. Only the future has weight. ”
Let Professor Xu Yan conclude with his words:
"A person with a strong heart can block the negative effects of childhood, rather than accepting the shackles of childhood."
Bless you: You are you, not a prisoner of the past, but a new hope.
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