You can't give a child a million school district housing, but you can give your child the background of a happy life

Author: Main Creative Group Fireworks March

Happy Children's Day!

I once saw a heart-wrenching message in the background of the public account:

"In fact, every year I don't like the arrival of Children's Day, other children have their parents to play with him on Children's Day, my parents can't come back from abroad, I feel more lonely."

You can feel the loneliness and loneliness of children across the screen.

Children's childhood is passing away, and Children's Day is also decreasing.

Children's Day is an exclusive holiday for children, and what children want to get may not be just a gift or a big meal, but a sense of holiday ritual given by parents, and the company.

A ritualistic Children's Day is a true embodiment of parents' love for their children.

The sense of ritual of Children's Day is the background of children's happiness in life

In this regard, I especially admire my college classmate Chunhe.

Although Chunhe and I live in the same city, we are usually tired of work and have few opportunities to meet. At the end of the same day, I asked her to go shopping.

She was embarrassed to say, "It's a pity that there is something very important this weekend." ”

I looked surprised, thinking something big had happened.

Unexpectedly, she said: "It's not almost Children's Day, this weekend I will prepare for my son's Children's Day with my child's father." ”

After listening to her words, I was a little surprised, it turns out that some parents have to prepare a week in advance for a meaningful Children's Day for their children.

Chunhe on the other end of the phone continued to talk:

"Since my son was in kindergarten, every June Day, we have accompanied our children to spend the holidays.

This year is especially important because my son is about to enter junior high school, which may be the last Children's Day we have for him.

The child's childhood ends before he knows it, and we have to leave him with a good memory.

So, this weekend, my husband and I are going to choose gifts for our son in advance, and we have to write her a letter secretly. ”

Chunhe's words shocked me, and I also decided to give my daughter a good Children's Day.

The famous book "The Little Prince" has a sentence:

"A sense of ritual, which makes a certain day different from other days, makes a moment different from others."

In the ordinary day, Children's Day is that special day.

If you want to give your child a happy childhood, start with a ritualistic Children's Day.

The good memories of Children's Day can become a source of happiness and security for children, and no matter what happens in the future, children will have more expectations in their hearts, but also a hope.

Childhood without Children's Day is a child's lifelong flaw

Barbara Fiese, Ph.D. in psychology, and her team have been studying "family ritual inheritance" for more than 50 years, and their findings are:

The sense of ritual in the family will soak into the flesh and blood of the children, making them full of a sense of belonging, security and purpose, so that they do not feel lonely on the long road of life.

And once the ritual sense of the festival is missing, although the child can grow up on time, the good memories of childhood will be greatly reduced when they grow up.

And these deficiencies cannot be remedied by the child for the rest of his life.

I remember a story I saw in Tieba :

The girl's parents are in business, and the conditions at home are much better than those of their peers.

But because her parents were busy with business all day, they couldn't even remember when Children's Day was, let alone spend the holidays with her.

Whenever Children's Day approaches, she is extremely envious.

Although the conditions of Fa Xiao's family are not as good as her family, Fa Xiao's parents remember their daughter's holidays and do not fool every Children's Day.

On the eve of Children's Day, parents with small hair ask their daughters about their wishes.

Therefore, on Children's Day, Fa Xiao will receive gifts from the heart, go out with their parents, or eat a hearty lunch as a family.

One year on Children's Day, the parents of the little hair saw the girl in a daze at the door, so they invited the girl to play in the countryside.

Seeing the three members of Fa Xiao's family talking and laughing, their happiness, the girl resented her parents even more, why couldn't her parents accompany her for Children's Day, even if it was only for a few hours.

The sad feeling of losing Children's Day in those years did not diminish with the passage of time, but became stronger when she encountered difficulties.

The girl loves her parents very much, but she always feels that there is something missing between her and her parents, she wants to be close to her parents, but she can't devote herself wholeheartedly, and this sense of alienation never disappears.

Children's Day, without a sense of ritual, builds a high wall between children and parents, allowing children to want to get close but unable to emotionally mingle.

Writer Lin Xuanxing said: "The exploration and review of ritual sense again and again is the recognition and determination of love again and again. ”

The sense of ritual created by parents with their hearts is to express love to their children with actions:

Child, you are precious, you deserve the most sincere love of your parents, and you deserve all the good things in the world.

For children, a happy Children's Day is actually very simple

In fact, spending a happy and meaningful Children's Day with children is not as difficult as imagined.

It doesn't cost much money, it just requires the attention and care of parents.

As psychologist David Elkinder said:

"The most important thing children need to know is that they are important to their parents and will always be surrounded by love no matter what happens."

Parents may wish to start materially, spiritually and ritually to paint a happy background for their children's childhood.

1. Give children spiritual companionship

The teacher's girlfriend said that the parents of the class she led signed up to watch the June Day parade organized by the school.

In fact, parents are not forced to come at all, but parents would rather take leave on this day and lack the attendance award to accompany their children for the holiday.

Friends learned the thoughts of parents, they all think that they are usually busy with work, lack of some companionship and care for children, Children's Day is an exclusive holiday for children, they want to overcome all difficulties to accompany their children to have a happy holiday.

Yes, since it is a festival exclusive to children, there is only one day a year, and parents hide their busy figures and devote themselves wholeheartedly, which is an expression of love for their children.

Even if you are busy with work during the day, you should take some time off on the night of Children's Day, even if it is to spend an hour with your children to play a parent-child game, watch a movie, or go to the park.

2. Give children material surprises

I still remember the story book "Hulu Baby" that my parents bought me on Children's Day when I was a child.

Although the book no longer exists, I will never forget the content of the book, and I will not forget the surprise and happiness that my parents gave me back then.

Children's Day gifts can be beautiful clothes that children have been waiting for a long time, a book that children especially like, or handmade works done by parents and children together, and so on.

A small gift is a small luck created by parents for their children in ordinary life, a carrier of children's good memories, and proof that children are deeply loved.

3. Give children ritual attention

In a kindergarten in Zunyi, Guizhou, there is a dance brought by dads every year on Children's Day, and dads need to train half a month in advance.

The fathers adjust their working hours in advance, and after kindergarten, they enter the kindergarten to practice.

Even though some of the movements are uncoordinated, some are slightly clumsy, some are funny, but the dads are dancing hard and the painting style is very cute.

The kindergarten teacher said:

"In order to give the children a ritualistic Children's Day, the fathers were very cooperative, put aside their shyness and bravely stood on the stage, setting an example for the children."

In fact, the ritual sense of Children's Day is not to have a grand ceremony, which is time-consuming and costly.

The sense of ritual can be a word, a small action, a small activity, which is enough to show that Children's Day is different from other days.

Parents pay attention to the ceremony, so that children can reap the vision of Children's Day.

I love this sentence:

"A children's day full of rituals can give children a real sense of existence, let them truly feel the feeling of being loved, and face life with enthusiasm."

Children's Day is a special holiday, the more parents pay attention to it, the more children can feel love.

May the children all have a happy Children's Day and become a good memory when they grow up.

May parents cherish their children's holidays and do their best to leave a warm color in their children's childhood.