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In the "Question to the King of Chu", it is written: "There are phoenixes and fish with fish, and there are also soldiers." The saints of the husband are magnificent, transcendent and alone, the people of the world, and the deeds of the subjects? ”
There are phoenixes in birds, carps in fish, and gentlemen in men. All excellent people will exist beyond ordinary people, and their words and deeds are not something that others can empathize with.
When people reach fifty, they have certain achievements in all aspects, but life has to face the fact that it is going downhill. Instead of fighting hard, it is better to be safe in this world, and to receive it when it is good.
Stepping back from the heights and returning to a peaceful life, you are prescient.
"Flowers are not red for a hundred days, and people are not good for a thousand days", only by knowing the progress and retreat can we be calm.
May you, at the age of fifty, from now on, be alone and learn to make yourself happy.
02
Walk alone and enjoy solitude.
There was a huge bird egg mixed in a duck egg.
It took the mother duck a long time to hatch the bird. Over time, the "bird" that jumped out of the bird's egg did not look like a duck at all, and was considered an ugly duckling by everyone.
All the ducks bully the ugly duckling, and even the mother duck dislikes it.
One day, the ugly duckling escaped into the pond and was spotted by two passing swans. They exclaimed, "What a beautiful swan." ”
It turns out that the ugly duckling is not ugly, it just joins the less appropriate group.
There is a word that stands out from the crowd. That is to say, when a person is particularly good, there is no friend, and the people around him will appear "shorter", if he has to be friends with the people around him, then he will be demoted.
The writer Mader said, "It is terrible to endure loneliness." When you see people who enjoy solitude, you are not afraid at once. ”
When you are over fifty, you should see what is special about yourself, and then tell yourself that you should retire from the workplace and be rejected by all the circles, and don't be afraid. A person is alone because his heart is strong and he can regard loneliness as a kind of enjoyment.
Life, as the poet Li Bai said: "Raise a glass to invite Mingyue, and the shadow into three people." "What loneliness is there? Everyone can be friends with themselves and embrace nature.
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Stay away from socializing and return to family.
Fifty-year-olds, in the workplace, have to face all kinds of parties, and even have to be alone and deal with customers.
Colleagues fight meals, leaders organize dinners, colleagues feast, accompany customers to dinner... As long as you don't refuse, there are meals every day.
Reality tells you that older people, at the dinner table, are not very popular, and most of them appear as "companions". In particular, some people who have retreated to the second line and go to the dinner party will be hated by the host.
You can't bring anything to others, which means that you have lost the "use value", and it is better to simply mix a meal than to go home and eat.
Whether a person is happy or not is not how lively he lives, but whether his small family is very happy. There is tea to warm, someone to read, someone to accompany you through the dusk, such a life, is what you need.
Friends or colleagues are driven by interests and have to communicate. Since your career has reached the ceiling, quit all kinds of "bureaus" early, go home, and be a good "grandparent".
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Read and exercise, recharge your batteries.
Reading can inspire the mind, and exercise can bring health.
Many people think that as long as they are in good health, they will be happy in old age. In fact, good health is part of health, and there is also a part of happiness and fullness of spirit.
I think that a man who is as strong as an ox, but who speaks wildly and complains is unhealthy.
Some old people, who can clearly walk like a fly, but force others to give up their positions and seize the young people's sports field, their behavior is very shameful. Such an old man has a cancer in his heart.
The ancient Roman orator Cicero said: "Books are the food of youth, it makes the old man happy, it is also a decoration of prosperity and a refuge in danger, comforting the soul." It is a seed of happiness in the family, and it is not an obstacle outside, but when it comes to traveling, it is a companion at night. ”
In the second half of life, while getting older, it becomes better: less complaining, more understanding; less ignorance, more wisdom; less temper, more peace. Keeping the body and mind happy anytime, anywhere, the spirit will be more exuberant and the body will be more comfortable.
Of course, reading and exercising are your own business, and you need to be able to withstand loneliness and withstand the test.
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Sit still and think, let go of internal friction.
The ancients said: "Meditation is often thought of oneself, and small talk is not about other people." ”
Many people, when they get older, become nagging. No matter who you meet, you must say a few words and tell others some truths.
"Ginger is still old spicy", the old man always thinks that he is experienced, always worried about young people taking a detour. For everything in front of them, they are not accustomed to it, and they think that it is against the law.
Tolstoy's wife kept everything in the house in order and helped organize the manuscripts. However, she has been nagging, has a strong desire for control, and wants her husband to do what she thinks.
Later, Tolstoy could not stand his wife's nagging and ran away from home several times. People think that their marriage is a tragedy.
Man, understand the fact that everyone is unique, and even your loved ones cannot live according to your ideas and will not fully understand you.
People over fifty, not only in action to be "independent", but also in the spirit of "independence", respect for the people around them, let everyone play their own nature, reduce interference.
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There is a line in the movie "A Generation of Grandmasters": "In this life, people must see sentient beings, see heaven and earth, and see themselves." ”
Along the way in life, I have seen all sentient beings, and I have broken through the fame in the heavens and the earth, and the rest of the time, I have to be myself.
Life is like a bus, there are people on and off the bus along the way, but there are very few people who accompany you to the terminal. So, everyone has to learn to walk alone.
For the rest of your life, you will be alone, don't cater to anyone, don't restrain anyone, have social interaction, be casual, get along with your family, and you can only be okay with each other.
In the past, life is all smoke clouds, learn to sit in a corner, watch the clouds cirrus clouds, and wait for flowers to blossom and thank you.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.