In this life, people will inevitably encounter all kinds of unfortunate things, the so-called unfortunate things are to make themselves feel unhappy, feel that nothing has been achieved, feel that the years are faltering, and feel that they have been repeatedly frustrated.
The ancients often said that people have four major unfortunate things: the loss of relatives, the failure of the gold list, the loneliness of the countryside, and the poor cave house.
In layman's terms, it was originally with relatives, suddenly one day found that relatives were scattered, and then posted a notice to find people; originally felt that they were very hard, must be able to enter the university, the result of the college entrance examination for a few days, the body suddenly unwell, the exam questions will not be done; after graduation to go to a strange city, life is not familiar, make friends can not make friends, late at night people are very lonely; it is difficult to like a person, and then married, when in the cave room, the object said to sleep in separate beds.
When these unfortunate things were encountered by themselves, the feeling was particularly bad, especially uncomfortable. Today I saw a dress, very beautiful, can buy or not to buy, and finally bought, the result of the next day this dress price reduction. At that moment, he felt how unfortunate things always fell on him, this society was too unfair.
Unfortunate things always come one after another, so what to do at this time? Do you just let these unfortunate things continue to happen? In fact, unfortunate things happen to ourselves, and we need to think about it: Why do these unfortunate things happen to us? Could it be that he was born unlucky?
When we encounter unfortunate things, our hearts will inevitably be unhappy and unsmooth; but can we find some valuable points in the unfortunate things? These valuable things can make you feel taken advantage of. Once a person takes advantage, a sense of pleasure will arise in his heart.
For example, when we were out and about to take a taxi home, we found that our mobile phone was out of power and our wallet was not with us. At this moment, I feel that I am too unlucky, how can such a thing happen to me, why do I not check the battery of my mobile phone before going out? Why not bring a power bank? Why not bring some cash? But can we solve the problem at this moment? There is no way to solve it at all, except to complain and complain to make yourself more uncomfortable.
But if we think about it in a different way, the state is completely different. Now that I have no money and no electricity on my mobile phone, since I want to take a taxi, I can stop and ask the driver who passes by if I can take myself for a ride. If you want, then everyone rejoices and cultivates your ability to take the initiative to seek help; if you don't want to, it doesn't matter, you continue to beckon and stop, and cultivate the ability to persevere.
If you really can't get a car, then you can choose to run or hike home, exercise your physical fitness in the process, and hone your willpower; in short, your goal is to go home, and it is rare to have such an opportunity to exercise yourself, why not enjoy it?
You can also take advantage of such an opportunity to make a summary review and reflection: the next time you go out, you must fully charge the mobile phone in advance, bring a charging treasure, and bring cash, so that you can go out with peace of mind and will not encounter such a thing as today again. This is the ability to cultivate re-disk optimization.
When we think backwards like this, what seems like an unfortunate thing becomes a good thing, and we can constantly think about new methods and new ways out of this unfortunate thing, so as to let ourselves grow.
Human growth is often not achieved in good times, but in adversity or bad luck.