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Why do people always cry when they get married?
I bit my chopsticks into deep thought.
Until I saw the following farewell quote from unknown sources:
The Earth is alienating the Moon little by little, and it is said that every million years will be strange for a second, and as early as 2.5 billion years ago, we began a long separation.
It is very emotional, but it is very common in life.
For example, right now, my next door is my cousin who has drunk too much and is crying, and his sister is married today, and they feel that their family has lost someone.
It's like when my brother got married, my younger siblings and the family brushed and cried together to the point of not being able to help themselves.
I watched him cry, and then I stared at him and smiled, like I was watching a TV series.
He was usually mature, steady, and confident, but today, through drunkenness, through his sister's marriage, he was crying brightly.
I don't know how old this brother is now.
His future, his past, his fear and depression, all erupted in unison at this moment.
Fear of loneliness, fear of parting, fear of change, this is our instinct engraved in our bones.
But, the parting itself, can only be a story of sadness flowing against the river?
The movie "Leeds and the Blue Bird" brings us a new way of thinking.
01
Parting is imminent
The girl Kasumi is unusually cold in the eyes of others, and is always a cold style of a domineering president.
But in fact, he is a social fear level ten player, super introverted and inferior.
She had only one friend in the world, and that was Leeds.
Leeds is a friendly and welcoming girl who offers to invite Lonely Kasumi to join the band.
The kasumi, invaded by loneliness, could not resist this enthusiasm and became a small shadow of Liz.
Only attend events invited by Leeds and only play with Leeds.
Leeds was the only light source in her life.
In order to be able to be with Liz, Kasumi worked hard to practice the instrument.
I volunteered to fill in the form for the college entrance examination, and only wrote a name and handed it in.
Because she didn't want to graduate and didn't want to be separated from her best friends.
Therefore, he also refused to fill in the volunteer form.
You may also delude yourself into thinking that this way you will never have to be separated.
Until the teacher found her and said that she could recommend entering the music university.
She did not immediately agree, and it was only after hearing that Leeds was going to enter the Music University that she finally decided to apply for the Music University.
Kasumi will never be separated from Leeds.
Just like we used to be, we never wanted to be separated from the person we liked, but we had to go through one separation after another.
When I was a child, every New Year's Festival, my aunt's younger siblings would come to my house for a small gathering, and we would sleep together for two whole days at night when we made the floor.
When everyone left, my brothers and sisters didn't want to leave, and I would hide in the corner and cry secretly.
That was the initial realization of the pain of parting.
Later, after experiencing more and more, after various lives and deaths, I finally gradually accepted loneliness.
But still don't want to understand: why is there such a cruel thing as separation?
02
Bind each other
On the eve of graduation, the orchestra has one last performance, which is a final farewell.
As the main force of the orchestra, Liz and Kasumi chose the play "Leeds and the Blue Bird".
Leeds and the Bluebird is a musical adaptation of a fairy tale.
In the story, Liz is a lonely girl.
One day, a girl with blue hair showed up on her doorstep, homeless.
Leeds took the girl back to his home and lived together.
The arrival of the girl makes Leeds no longer alone.
It's just that When Liz discovers that the girl will sneak away at night, she pretends not to know.
The girl's prototype is a blue bird that is always going to fly away.
Liz was often worried that the blue bird was leaving and that she was left alone, and she did not have the courage to break through the window paper.
The end result is: Leeds let the blue bird fly away.
After reading this story, Kasumi felt very similar to his relationship with his friend Liz.
But she couldn't understand, since she liked it, why should she let the other party leave, she could sacrifice herself, she could be together for a lifetime.
During the practice, Kasumi and Leeds never played together.
It is because Kasumi feels that he wants to follow Liz, so he unconditionally and willingly follows the rhythm of Leeds.
But she didn't know that this also put a lot of pressure on Liz.
03
Mutual achievement
The ensemble didn't play together, and Liz scratched his head in worry.
What to do?
When I first met Kasumi, I just thought she was a lonely girl and invited her to play with her.
I didn't expect to be able to become a very good friend.
Because Kasumi doesn't like to talk, Liz needs to consider her ideas from Kasumi's point of view, and then put forward ideas that seem like her own, in order to achieve Kasumi.
It's just too tiring to do so.
A few years ago, Leeds couldn't stand it and abruptly quit the band once.
After relaxing for a while, I came back again, because there was a "screaming" kamaid behind me.
The same is true here, Liz heard that Kasumi did not volunteer to apply for the exam, and after having a music teacher special recruitment, he took the initiative to say: I want to apply for the conservatory university.
Kasumi happily filled in this only wish.
However, no one knows, Liz also handed in the form without volunteering, but no teacher came to her.
Because she wasn't good enough.
Both Liz and Kasumi felt that the other was their own blue bird and did not want to let each other go.
But in fact, they themselves are each other's blue birds.
Think about it in a different position, and everything will suddenly open up.
I felt sad before because I felt like I was going to lose. I feel happy now because I want to send the other person to become a better self, which is the payment of love.
In this way, Kasumi showed his true strength and continued to work hard for the music school, and Liz also made his true self.
All good feelings are actually mutual achievements, mutual love to each other.
And the reason why I feel the pain of parting is because I see myself as the lonely little girl who needs companionship.
Why can't she be a little princess full of strength and courage surrounded by the blessings of love?
Saying goodbye and looking at it from another perspective is also ushering in a new life.
It is precisely because there is a new life and a farewell that there is a steady stream of future.
In the movie "Truman's World", Truman can obviously live peacefully in that fictional world until he is old.
But instead of doing so, he deeply understood that the most important thing in life is experience.
Experience the value that transcends everything.
He wants to experience true freedom, true cruelty, true love and hate.
Only by truly living can there be true love.
There's no way to fool yourself.
So, he finally said: If I never see you again, then I wish you a good morning, a good afternoon, and a good night.
The deep meaning of this sentence is: I am willing to accept the farewell, it heralds new changes, I am open to accept the new gifts brought by life, it does not matter if you are not willing to accept, I wish you a good life in your own world.
At this time, do you have a new view of parting?
cousin?
Oh, slept.
Well, then good morning, good afternoon, and good night.