Author: Number One Emotion
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What is happiness for the elderly?
Some people say that it is already very happy to be able to enjoy the old age, but this seemingly simple thing is still impossible for some people to achieve.
Why is this happening? For the elderly, falling into the "old and helpless" must not be a coincidence, in fact, they are all caused by their own hands, and they are completely blamed on others.
To be honest, now everyone has a certain concept of what needs to be prepared for entering the old age, such as pension money, health, houses, etc., and it is obviously a particularly easy thing to achieve a peaceful old age with these.
An uncle in his hometown is now in the situation of "old and helpless", and it is reasonable to say that his career is also successful, but in the end he still lost in his pride and complacency.
Because of his pride, he chose to betray the marriage, feeling that he had the ability, and his wife was no longer worthy to be with him, so he came together with the strong woman who had been in business.
Who admitted that this matter did not happen long before the family knew, the wife made a fuss and divorced him, for this reason the family's loan business was stopped, the business could not be done, and was directly summarized by the bank as "Lao Lai".
In the end, the wife chose to divorce and got all the property, and the uncle could only get out of the house alone.
Not only that, but the children were also full of hatred for him and did not associate with him, and their parents also felt that it was a shame, and their mother scolded him and was hospitalized with anger.
The saddest thing is that the reason why the lover approached him was to value his career, and now that he had fallen to such a point, he had long been hidden and had never been in contact with him again.
That year, the old uncle was almost 50 years old, in the end there was nothing left for himself, and now he has entered the old age of life, which can be called the situation of his wife and daughter, no one pays attention to his life, and he has also fallen into the dilemma of "old and helpless".
So, what kind of person will be "old and helpless"? Psychology: Two characteristics are difficult to avoid!
Once people are blinded by achievements, they are prone to embark on a road of no return, such as embarking on the road of "extramarital affairs".
Just like the old uncle mentioned above, because he feels that he has a certain achievement, he has nothing to worry about, and feels that the wife of the chaff is no longer worthy of his career, so he chooses to embark on the road of extramarital affairs.
It seems to have been satisfied for a while, but it has also paid a heavy price, not only the career has fallen into crisis, the family is also fragmented, and in its fifties, it is necessary to start from scratch, obviously it will eventually fall into the dilemma of "old and helpless".
Once people have nothing to worry about, they often become less sober, and once they are involved with extramarital affairs, no matter how strong you are, you have to pay for it.
To tell the truth, people who betray their families are often selfish, because they don't have family in their hearts, otherwise they wouldn't hurt their families in this way.
If a person always chooses to make trouble with his family because of his selfishness, even if it is not because of cheating, it will also cause a gap in each other's hearts, and in the long run, he will inevitably "hate".
The old uncle in the above article has a "hatred" with the children, in fact, when he chooses to betray, he is already doomed, sooner or later he will fall into a situation of separation with his family, and in the end it is bound to fall into a situation where he has nothing to rely on.
People's selfishness is often a manifestation of peace of mind, but this kind of behavior is very harmful to the family, so serious that it will indeed affect the relationship with the family, once the relationship deteriorates, when you are old, there will be no one to serve you, and the old man will become a foregone conclusion.
People are old, and it is necessary to leave a good way out before entering the old age, but don't forget to have a good relationship with your family, especially don't take the road of "extramarital affairs", otherwise it will be difficult for you to come back to the opportunity.
The reason why people fall into the dilemma of "old and helpless" is that they do not maintain the happiness of a family, nor do they have a good relationship with their families, if you can avoid these two points, I believe that no matter what they encounter, they will not be "old and helpless".
Author: No. 1 Emotion, Quality Emotional Counselor, Freelance Writer, Platform Contracted Author. If you like my article, you can give me likes and comments.