Jimu news reporter Zhao Pengshu
What makes college students who are accustomed to seeing experts and scholars wait for a lecture more than an hour in advance? What made medical graduate students who had just come out of the lab and didn't have time to take off their white coats rush to the scene? What kind of lectures can cause sensation and heated discussion in a double first-class university?
The answer is a marriage class.
On October 29th, the marriage and love class for college students jointly organized by the Hubei Marriage and Family Research Association and the Graduate School of Huazhong University of Science and Technology was held in the No. 1 teaching building of Tongji Medical College of Huazhong University of Science and Technology, which was warmly sought after by students.
The graduate student's white coat did not take off and rushed to listen to the lecture
The evening lecture is scheduled to start at 7 p.m., but before 5:30 p.m., as soon as the door of the large classroom opens, students will come to "occupy the seats."
Near 7 o'clock, the large classroom with a capacity of nearly 200 people was already crowded, and even the aisles and back empty spaces were full of students who came to listen to the lessons.
A medical graduate student who had hurried from the lab and had no time to take off his white coat was crowded in the aisle. He listened very carefully and took notes from time to time in his notebook. In the interactive session between the experts on the stage and the students off the stage, he also enthusiastically took the stage and drew a mind map on the blackboard to ask questions.
When he asked "from strangers to lovers, do you need to go through the stage of being a friend first and then sublimating", the expert replied on the spot: "If there is an opportunity, of course, it is directly to the lover, otherwise it is possible to miss the opportunity." ”
This answer made the "white coat" boy laugh shyly, and also caused a round of applause at the scene.
Then, the students in the audience bravely raised their hands and asked their doubts about love:
"Teacher, can falling in love be applied to distance to produce beauty?"
"Teacher, do you think there is a pure friendship between men and women?"
"Teacher, how do you think you can maintain a long-distance relationship?"
"Teacher, the boys in our graduate school are usually three points and one line in the dormitory, the canteen, and the student laboratory, and there are few opportunities to contact girls, how do you think we can better start a relationship?"
The experts present explained the questions raised by the students one by one in detail.
The lecture, which was scheduled to end in an hour and a half, was not completely finished until ten o'clock that night, and the students were still in a heated discussion as they walked out of the large classroom.
The classroom was packed
Marriage experts explain the true meaning of love on the spot
"Don't know how to love, lack of ability to love" is a prominent problem facing many young people in today's society. The college period is precisely the most important time period for young people to "practice love".
At the beautiful age of youth, who does not desire sweet love? Whether it is boasting in front of his brothers that "his girlfriend has no game incense" or vowing to "not fall in love" in front of his sisters, the reality of the marriage class scene showing that no one wants to escape the "law of true incense".
"I hope that through the love class, I can better have a healthy view of love and love skills, and teach us how to handle romantic relationships reasonably." Although I am still single, this course will be very enlightening for my future. College student Xiao Han said.
The main speaker of the marriage and love class, Professor of the School of Public Health of Tongji Medical College of Huazhong University of Science and Technology, President of the Hubei Marriage and Family Research Association, and senior psychological counselor Wang Zengzhen, said at the scene: "Many of the problems of the students who come to me for psychological counseling every day are related to love. I hope that through the marriage class, I can help students solve some problems and confusions, and finally get a happy marriage. ”
Professor Wang Zengzhen, the main speaker of the marriage and love class
In the lecture, Wang Zengzhen quoted eric Fromm's "The Art of Love" and told the students that love is a positive emotion, first of all, it should be "give", not "get", "loving a person is not only the initial passion, but also the common growth of two people." Share joys, interests, and sorrows with loved ones, and accept the 'original side' of the other person who may not be so perfect. ”
Let people who know more about love pass on more positive energy
"College students' marriage and love class is an indispensable course for college students." In the evening, Zuo Liyu, the initiator of the college students' marriage and love class, the director of the marriage and love professional committee of the Hubei Provincial Marriage and Family Research Association, and the founder of the Hubei Shuobo Marriage association, said in his speech, "We in the 'College Student Marriage and Love Class' of the Hubei Provincial Marriage and Family Research Association, together with college students, study and discuss the various marriage and love difficulties of college students, and come to a unique conversation about 'love' and say 'love', I hope you like it." ”
She analyzed that the university is a sacred temple for imparting knowledge and culture, and is an important stop for students to improve their self-cultivation, cultivate professional qualities, and prepare to enter the society. College students are about to enter the society, they will become the elite of society, the pillar of the country. On the road ahead, social relations, family relations, gender relations, etc., are the reality they have to face, and marital happiness is an important part of life and work.
A person with a happy marriage is always full of love and positive energy in his heart, and his psychological capital adjustability is unlimited, it is easy to succeed in his career, and it is easier to become a person who has made great contributions to society and mankind.
At the same time, college students are an important talent reserve group in society, and their concept of marriage and love not only reflects the value orientation of individual life, but also represents the development trend of marriage and family in the future society.
She believes that having "the ability to identify love, the ability to express love, and the ability to maintain long-term love" should be an essential quality for contemporary college students.
Therefore, before entering the society and the workplace, in the university campus, students receive professional marriage education, which is essential and very important.
Everyone was listening carefully to the lecture
Marriage education into prestigious schools will bring demonstration effect
"Since 2010, I have been proposing marriage and family education on campus at various marriage and family work conferences held across the country. Today, I finally stood in this classroom with my classmates to discuss the topic of love and marital happiness. Zuo Liyu said.
Zuo Liyu has been engaged in marriage and love services for 20 years, witnessing people's different views on marriage and love in this period of time, and has also achieved thousands of beautiful marriages through professional services, and has also encountered various marriage difficulties. At the same time, Zuo Liyu is doing special research on the marriage and love topics of master's and doctoral degrees, and specializes in marriage and love services for masters and doctors, paying special attention to the marital status of college students.
Zuo Liyu, founder of Hubei Shuobo Marriage Association
Because of this, she has been committed to promoting marriage and family education into the campus. In March 2021, a member of the National Committee of the Chinese People's Political Consultative Conference suggested at the meeting that marriage and love education should be set as a compulsory course in universities, which made Zuo Liyu feel very pleased.
What made her feel even more relieved and encouraged was that this marriage and love class entered Huake and received a warm response from the students.
"This shows even more that what we are doing is very necessary, the direction is right, and we will definitely stick to it and go to more colleges and universities." Zuo Liyu said that through special lectures and simple explanations, the marriage and love class helps to strengthen the respect, integrity and sense of responsibility of young people for emotional life, and helps students "understand love better".
The successful holding of this marriage and love class in a university such as Huake also provides a good model for the marriage and love class to enter the university.
At the scene of the day's activities, Zuo Liyu also distributed a college student marriage questionnaire to the students present to understand what college students wanted to hear about the "love course". Zuo Liyu and experts from the Hubei Marriage and Family Research Association will join forces with more social welfare figures to let the "College Students Love Classroom" enter more colleges and universities, share marriage and love knowledge with more college students, and enhance the "ability to love".
Source: Jingchu Network