People will always suffer some injuries, whether physical or mental, but every injury is a growth. There is no need to fear hurt, because if it hurts, you will understand it, and you will become stronger.
When you are betrayed for the first time, especially after you have paid 100% trust, the other party will give you a reward that makes you carry the black pot and clean up the mess, perhaps you will have such a thought: no one in this world can be trusted. After that, you begin to be defensive about everyone, and although it is a little tiring to live like this, you do see the faces of many people and protect yourself from many harms. Your ability to recognize people will become stronger and stronger, but the only one who believes most is always yourself, and you will no longer easily trust others completely.
When you first compromise to do what you don't want to do, you will understand that not everything can be done at will, and some things even if you don't want to do it, you still have to be forced to do it, and it takes a lot of effort to do it. While you can do well, you won't be happy. The more you compromise, the more you will learn to find a balance, make yourself complain less, and even learn to have fun in the pain. You will find that sometimes compromise is not a bad thing, just as the so-called "step back from the sea and the sky", in order to maintain a good relationship, appropriate concessions are necessary, but not beyond your bottom line and other criteria.
When you first leave your parents to live independently, you have mixed feelings. You have both a desire for freedom and a reluctance to your parents. You must get used to the unfamiliar environment and lonely life in a short period of time, encounter difficulties must be solved by yourself, and you cannot reveal half a sentence to your parents. Over time, you will develop a habit of reporting good news and not worrying, not to be strong, but not to want your parents to worry about you. You will feel more and more that the courage in your body has become heavier, because you have to bear not only your own life, but also the old age of your parents. When you survive that time when your heart is fragile, you will cultivate a stoic heart so that you will not be defeated by the tests of life, at least so that you will not escape the difficulties.
When you are maliciously slandered for the first time, you will be amazed at why someone would say such a vicious word and come up with such a ridiculous guess. Those harsh words that stab you like a sword may make you afraid to associate with others, because you will involuntarily guess whether the people who are smiling at you will say bad things about you behind your back, and may make you collapse. It's just that, when you get through a while, you'll find that the people who slander you are jealous of you, and that their behavior is nothing more than venting their jealousy of you and maintaining their poor self-esteem. Therefore, you don't need to care, do what you should do, make friends with excellent people, and will bring positive energy to your life.
Every time you experience a hurt and a blow, you will usher in a growth. There are some hurts you can't escape, you can only face and bear, but you have to remember the lessons of these hurts. Because you can't let yourself get hurt in vain and make yourself a fool again. Growing up will always have some pain, don't be afraid, just take these pains as a preventive injection for you, which will make you more and more resistant to injury, and will not be stabbed as easily as before.