Life is always full of gaps. Some people say that people's lives always have to go through countless twists and turns, it is impossible to calculate which is more to gain and lose, and the joy and sorrow may be the whole of life, so the first voice that people make when they come to this world is crying. The feeling is frustrating.
Marriage or career, but whenever there is a gap, the world always has to think of ways to fill it back. Naturally, some gaps may be easy to fill, but there are some gaps that you may not have noticed when they exist, but when you do, they are so big that you can no longer fill them.
I remember the first time I listened to Cai Qin, listened to her sing "Gap", and felt a lot of emotions. There is a kind of vicissitudes that read the world. If you had not experienced the ups and downs of life, you would not have such a calm interpretation. In 1984, Cai Qin, because of the movie "Green Plum Bamboo Horse", met Yang Dechang and quickly fell in love, and a year later the two were happily married. Newly married Cai Qin, she thought she had found the perfect career and love. However, the world is unpredictable, ten years, but ten years, and their marriage has come to an end. A turn, but it turns out, in the depths of time, emotions have long been full of holes, it is not said that it is a dead sheep, but it does not want to talk about who is right and who is wrong, perhaps, ten years of time, at first, there is only a small gap, but it is not expected, the gap of ten years has finally accumulated into an abyss that cannot be filled. In the song, Cai Qin sings, "The gap in the soul, use time to fill." "I just don't know how much time it will take to fill such a gap."
There are some gaps that didn't exist in the first place. It appears only because we are excessively striving for perfection. Everyone, no matter how high or low the position, rich or poor, always dream that their life can be perfect. Therefore, every festive season, it is about reunion, the marriage of the newlyweds, and it is about happiness and happiness. People in the world are always used to comparing, even if there is no best, they want to find better. As a result, it is easy for our eyes to focus on others. Envying the perfection of others, envying the happiness of others, this kind of comparison and desire, but tearing open a new gap in their own lives.
Nothing in the world is intact. You have wealth, but you don't necessarily have health; you have beauty, but you don't necessarily have love. In Gu Long's novel, there is a "flower without flaws", literary martial arts, manners and etiquette, and the end is flawless. But he is not happy, for the sake of his so-called "perfection", he can not love the people he loves and do what he wants, so he loses more. In fact, even the mythological description of heaven and earth is more incomplete than complete, Nuwa patches up the heavens, Jingwei reclaims the sea, and it is about to fill the gap that can never be filled.
Consummation may be possible, but it cannot be forced in the end. Relative to the consummation of the short, the gap is eternal. More often, we have to get used to the gap, and the habit will be lost at the same time. And the acceptance gap may also be another realm of life. There is a metaphor that says that everyone is originally a notched apple that has been bitten by God, but too many people pay too much attention to the perfect image of the apple and ignore the taste of the apple itself. In fact, life is just such a process, suffering and joy are the taste of life, and imperfection can also create a different kind of beauty. Su Shi Ciyun: People have sorrows and joys, and the moon has clouds and sunshine, and this matter is difficult to complete in ancient times. It seems that the ancients as early as nine hundred years ago have already figured it out.