Some say that if a man is willing to spend money for you, at least prove that he has you in his heart. However, just because men spend money for you doesn't mean they really like you, sometimes just to meet their own needs.
If a man really likes you, it will usually be manifested in some details, especially these three aspects, which is difficult to hide. If you have such a man around you, most of them can prove that he really likes you, cares about you, and don't miss it again.
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The man is willing to change his original sense of order
What is a sense of order?
In the book "Interpreting Human Nature", the author Camilla mentions that the sense of order is a person's original principle and way of doing things.
If a person is willing to do something he does not like for the sake of the person he likes, this is actually a compromise and a form of love.
For example: After you are with this man, he changes his habit of playing games. Or maybe he goes out with friends 3-4 times a week, but after being with you, he becomes less fond of parties and he's willing to spend more time
Accompany you, this is a change in the sense of order.
When a man is willing to give up his original sense of order for you, he must really like you. Only someone who really likes someone will be willing to get along with you, and he will be willing to change.
And all this change and willingness is ultimately based on love and tolerance. He's only happy to accept it when he loves you, and he doesn't want to see you sad, sad, or angry. Therefore, he is willing to change his original order for you, willing to compromise for you, which is how he loves you.
Another example: watching the TV series "Parental Love", there is a clip, after Jiang Defu and Anjie married, colleagues quickly gave him a nickname "three wash husband", Jiang Defu did not like to wash before going to bed when he was not married, and after marrying Anjie, he did not like to wash, but he still did it. Although he occasionally complained, he accepted it. Hence the name "Three Wash Husbands".
This is love, tolerance and love for a person, in fact, hidden in this sense of order. If you want to know if this man really loves you, these details can be seen clearly.
As explained in The Interpretation of Human Nature, these silent, everyday sacrifices are trivial expressions, but they embody generosity and love between people.
02
Rich or poor, willing to spend money for you
Although money is not the standard by which everything is measured, if he is reluctant to spend money for you during your time together, or always complains that you spend too much money, it is mostly because he does not like your performance.
Watching "Children of the Qiao Family", Sanli's husband Wang Yiding, when the two were not yet married, he was willing to give his passbook to Sanli for safekeeping, which is actually the embodiment of love.
In that era, they were all ordinary people and their lives were not rich, but Wang Yiding was still willing to give all his savings to Sanli, which was love and trust.
Between husband and wife or lovers, if a man or woman is willing to spend money for you, it is most likely because he has you in his heart. Because I love you, I am willing to give for you.
Just like Qiao Sanli bought a bp machine for Wang Yiding in the play, even if they are not rich, she is still willing to pay for Wang Yiding. This is love.
Although love cannot be measured in money, if a man is generous to himself and is very calculating about you, it can only prove that he does not really like you.
Liking a person is hidden in such details. Whether you are poor or rich, he is willing to buy you what you like, or what is useful to you, which is love.
03
Willing to communicate with you actively and not shy away
Nate Bagley, a dating expert, once said that intimate couples embrace conflict and focus on growth rather than happiness.
A man who really likes you, who really wants to give you a sense of security, who is willing to actively communicate with you, she will not avoid, but will embrace conflict, because in his view, such an opportunity is actually an opportunity for the two of you to get closer.
Therefore, when a man chooses not to run away and actively communicates when you encounter conflict, cherish such an opportunity.
One of my girlfriends, who separated from her husband last year, had one of their biggest problems when they were separated was that men were reluctant to communicate actively.
His girlfriend has given his ex-husband many opportunities, but he has always been reluctant to communicate, but has adopted an evasive attitude, thus putting the already weak foundation of long-distance marriage into trouble.
Speaking of positive communication, this also reminds me of Zhao Mosheng and He Yichen of "Why Sheng Zhen Mo". At the beginning, when they first got married, the estrangement in He Yichen's heart did not completely disappear, and Zhao Mosheng was also ignorant of how to enter the marriage.
Shortly after the marriage, when He Yichen's adoptive parents came over, He Yichen did not take Zhao Mosheng to see them, Zhao Mosheng chose to actively express his opinion, she said: Are you sorry, let He Yichen understand how he should do it.
If a person really likes you, he may be aware of it, but when you ask a question, he will definitely choose to respond positively to you, rather than letting you guess his mind.
It is not easy to establish a relationship, and it is even more difficult to meet someone who truly loves each other, so once you meet, you must cherish it. Conflict is not terrible, what is terrible is avoidance and non-response.
If you have such a man around you, he is willing to break his sense of order for you, willing to spend money for you, and willing to actively communicate with you, then choose to cherish it.