Author: Qing Zhi
There are two explicit clues in the book "Dream of the Red Chamber": one is based on the rise and fall of the four major families of Jia Shi Wang Xue, and the other is based on the tragic story of the love marriage of bao Daichao and the three people. As an important emotional clue in "Dream of the Red Chamber", the emotional entanglement of the three Bao Daichao is the highlight of the book.
In "Dream of the Red Chamber", Baoyu and Daiyu love each other, even if finally Daiyu dies and Baochao marries Baoyu, in Baoyu's heart, the loved one is still Daiyu, and Baochao has not been able to replace Daiyu's position in Baoyu's heart after all. Like Daiyu, Baochao is also a woman with both talents and looks, but why has Baochao never entered Baoyu's heart?
In the final analysis, it is not because Baochao is not excellent, but because Baochao and Baoyu are not in harmony with the three views and do not understand the heart, while Dai Yu and Bao Yu are in harmony with each other and have the same heart. The love story of the three bao dai chao tells us a truth: in love, the three views are in harmony, and it is very important to communicate with each other.
Jia Baoyu is the "Demon King of the Mixed World" in Jia Province, who is intelligent and wise, but he is obedient and rebellious, and he likes to hang out in the rouge powder pile most often, joke with girls or read and write poetry and songs, and he dislikes reading sage books and composing eight strands of literature the most, and he is even more disgusted with the career economy. Jia Baoyu is a typical feudal rebel, in his heart, yearning for equality, freedom, love and beauty. Such a treasure jade is obviously incompatible with the era at that time and the surrounding environment.
The second time, he had this evaluation of Baoyu through Lengzi's words: "Although he is mischievous, he is smart and obedient, a hundred are not as good as him, and it is strange to talk about children... There is no doubt that the future will be ghostly. "Sixty-sixth time, borrowing the mouth of Xiao Wei Xing'er also has an evaluation of Baoyu, in Xing'er's eyes, Baoyu is a person who is clear on the outside and turbid on the inside, has a good skin bag in the air, in fact, there is no use, neither learning literature, nor learning martial arts, not good at sociability, only like to hang out with girls, there is no appearance of a master at all.
In the eyes of ordinary people, Baoyu's words and deeds are grotesque and incomprehensible. Although there are many people around Baoyu every day, these people have never really understood Baoyu and read Baoyu. However, there is one exception, this person is Lin Daiyu, who has been with Baoyu since childhood, and is a green plum bamboo horse.
Bao Yu was most afraid of hearing people persuade him to take the "right path" of studying and becoming an official, but it was not fear, but disgust.
The thirty-second time, Xiangyun came to Yihong Courtyard, just when Jia Yu Village came, Jia Zheng ordered someone to ask Bao Yu to accompany the guests. Baoyu grumbled as he dressed. Xiang Yun persuaded Bao Yu to change his temperament, not to mess with the girls all day, and even if he did not want to study and take the exam, he should often communicate more with those who were officials and socialize more. When Bao Yu heard this, he immediately turned his face cold and issued an eviction order. The attacker on the side said that Bao Chao had also persuaded Bao Yu once before, and Bao Yu had a cold face at that time, ignoring it and leaving, and Bao Chao, who had not finished speaking, was red in the face and was very embarrassed.
Baoyu has always been gentle and amiable to these sisters and sisters on weekdays, and has never lost his temper, but when Baochao and others persuaded him to take the road of studying and becoming an official, Baoyu immediately turned his face.
In the final analysis, it is because Baochao and Baoyu have different ideas and different views.
When the raider praised Bao chao's generosity and mentioned Daiyu, Baoyu immediately said that Sister Lin had never said such an, and if she had also said that he would have been separated from her.
Dai Yu and Bao Yu grew up together since childhood, and never persuaded Bao Yu to read the sage books and take the official career, she was not because Bao Yu did not like it and did not persuade, but in her heart, she did not want to persuade Bao Yu to take the official road. Dai Yu is a person with her own independent world view system, she yearns for freedom, love and all beauty. The books Dai Yu read, her understanding of life is not linked to the theory of jing shi ji guo, so she is not as keen on official fame and fortune as Bao Chao.
In fact, what Dai Yu thinks may not be exactly the same as what Bao Yu thinks, but Dai Yu can understand Bao Yu's thoughts. Both Dai Yu and Bao Yu regarded each other as confidants, because in the environment at that time, no one understood their thoughts and behaviors, and only each other was the one who truly understood and truly understood each other's thoughts.
The so-called "heart-to-heart communication" means that you can read each other's meaning without saying it explicitly, and this is the case with Bao Dai and Bao Dai.
The thirty-fourth time, Baoyu asked Qingwen to send two handkerchiefs to Daiyu, Qingwen did not understand her meaning, Baoyu smiled: "You can rest assured, he naturally knows." Qingwen came to XiaoxiangGuan, Dai Yu asked Qingwen what to do, Qingwen said that Bao Yu asked her to send two handkerchiefs, and said that it was homely. After Dai Yu listened, she thought about it for a while, and then she realized that she immediately understood What Bao Yu meant. Although the two did not say it, they already had a common understanding of each other' hearts, and Bao Dai and Bao Dai had reached an agreement on the spiritual level and formed a consensus.
The reason why the love story of Bao Dai and Bao Dai is recognized by so many people is not precisely because their love is pure, sincere, and fit?
Good love must be the same as the three views and the same heart.
In "Dream of the Red Chamber", Baochao and Baoyu finally became husband and wife, but neither of them changed their minds because they got married, and Baoyu and Baochao still disagreed with each other and had difficulty in understanding their hearts. In the end, Bao Yu became a monk, and Bao Chao's "golden jade good fortune" was in vain.
There is no doubt that the combination of Baochao and Baoyu is a tragedy, and the root of this tragedy is because Baoyu and Baochao have different views from beginning to end, and their hearts are not clear.
Bao Chao is a very good woman, she is a good woman, understands poetry and painting, not only young and beautiful, but also knowledgeable, intelligent and capable, in her body, there are many shining points. If the person BaoChao met was not Baoyu, but a person who was consistent with her three views and had the same heart, I think her married life should be very happy.
Unfortunately, the person BaoChao met was Baoyu, this Jia Baoyu who was completely on the same channel as her in thought. Therefore, the tragedy of Baochao was already doomed from the moment she chose Baoyu.
Therefore, good love must be based on mutual love, the three views are in harmony, and the hearts are connected. Two people can have different temperaments, different hobbies and specialties, and different living habits, but if two people have different views and different intentions, then this road of love must be difficult and difficult to last.
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