Sentence/Still Moon
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The 32-year-old rural doctoral man and the 28-year-old Beijing local girl fell in love for four years, and before returning to her boyfriend's hometown in Henan, although the girlfriend was mentally prepared, she finally returned to Beijing in advance.
Lin Yiling, a Beijing girl with a lively and lovely personality, has a stable job. Parents work within the system and are pampered for their only daughter.
Lin Yiling's boyfriend, Song Qijiu, is from rural Henan and has two older sisters. At the age of 32, he has just graduated with a Ph.D. and works in a research institute. The salary is not high, only one-third of the girlfriend's salary.
They fell in love on a college campus, when he was doing his PhD and she was in graduate school. The simple and kind Lin Yiling, attracted by Song Qijiu's Swen and erudite, fell deeply in love with him.
During the four years that the two fell in love, Lin Yiling, who never knew what a sad taste, was full of sympathy for the hardships and difficulties of her boyfriend's childhood life, and even bought toys for her boyfriend to make up for the lack of his childhood;
When she learned that her boyfriend's money in the card had always been only a few hundred yuan, never exceeding a thousand yuan, Lin Yiling's heart was full of pity.
When she thought that if there were only a few hundred yuan left in her bank card, she would be so flustered that she couldn't sleep.
Lin Yiling is not a gold worshipper, because she herself has never lacked money, and naturally does not attach great importance to money. For her boyfriend's financial strength, she never made a move to embarrass her boyfriend.
The two went out to play not to visit Wangfujing Street, not to go to the movies, nor to eat Western food and drink coffee. Instead, go to the countryside, or hike, climb, or go fishing, or see the scenery. Anyway, it's all places that are close to nature and don't have to spend money.
After being with her boyfriend for a long time, Lin Yiling has also slowly changed some of her habits: buying clothes no longer patronizes brand stores, but locks her eyes on Taobao; usually spending money can also save money, completely without the rich women's style of spending money in the past.
And boyfriend Song Qijiu is even more big data tuning to appear in front of his eyes must be discounts, promotions of the lowest price of the whole network.
The two lived in a simple rental house, which was inconvenient but very grounded. It is also more able to feel the fireworks of the people's lives at the bottom and realize the difficulties of their lives.
I have to say that this state of life is a life scene that the boyfriend is familiar with and likes; but for Lin Yiling, it is fresh, strange, and somewhat helpless.
But the two have love support, coupled with young, with strong energy and curiosity about life, what kind of life to live feels like an experience, but feels that it is a test of their own willpower.
The sweet days always pass quickly, and four years have passed, and the boyfriend who graduated with a doctorate is engaged in economic research in a research institute, but the salary is not high, and he cannot support him to complete his life dream. The girlfriend, who has been working in the bank for several years, earns three times the income of the boyfriend, so that Song Qijiu has to rely on his girlfriend to pay for many aspects of his expenses.
However, only when a beautiful love enters marriage can love survive for a long time. Talking about marriage involves the participation of two families, and to become a wife and husband, you must let the other parents approve and accept.
It is said that the ugly daughter-in-law will eventually see her in-laws. Lin Yiling is also mentally prepared to be a good daughter-in-law and have a good relationship with her mother-in-law.
However, good wishes can easily be beaten back to their original form by harsh realities. In Lin Yiling's subconscious, her boyfriend's hometown should be like the countryside on the outskirts of Beijing.
The parents of Song Qijiu, who were far away in their hometown in Henan, learned that their future daughter-in-law wanted to see them, and even whitewashed the walls of their homes, installed air conditioning, and even changed the dry toilet at home.
It can be said that the old man has tried his best, but when Lin Yiling stepped into the yard of her boyfriend's house, she still stepped on a foot of.
At night, Lin Yiling wore a down jacket and was wrapped in a quilt or cold, while her boyfriend's room was not air-conditioned, and her nose was frozen red in the morning.
The boyfriend can accept it, but Lin Yiling can't adapt, the key is that he can't take a bath yet. Lin Yiling's request is not wrong, she grew up so big, this is how she lives.
And Song Qijiu's parents are not wrong, the ancestors have lived like this, and they have also cultivated such excellent sons. They don't understand, why do people in the city have to be so particular? So many things?
At that moment, Lin Yiling couldn't take care of so much, the Spring Festival was not over, she was going to leave her boyfriend to return to Beijing by herself.
After four years of love, they both have many good memories. But after the trip to their hometown, the two still had waves in their hearts: in the face of the cruel reality, how far can this love go? Can they still hold out?
In this regard, many people are not optimistic about the love affair between the two young people, believing that they have no future. Some people even ridiculed their love as a "love story between a country turtle boy and a Beijing girl", and relatives and friends around them also advised them to break up...
No wonder Hu Xiaowu of Nanjing University once pointed out: "Individual class attributes, family background, regional differentiation, and urban-rural differentiation in the youth marriage market have become important reference indicators and elements of the marriage market... There is a trend towards intensified development. "Door-to-door pairs" are back in the mainstream.
In fact, love and marriage are two concepts. If it is said that love pursues spiritual fit, it is the ideal state of Yangchun White Snow. Marriage, then, is the real face of the triviality of chai rice oil and salt after removing the mask, and the real state after each other's integration into life.
In marriage, if a person constantly makes sacrifices for another person, and even in order to accommodate the other party, he has to give up his preferences and his own pursuits, and blindly give in to compromise, then such a marriage loses the original intention of love: spiritual independence and equality in personality.
For individuals from two different classes and different growth environments, their positioning and pursuit of life, marriage, and life must also be different. The resulting contradictions will be particularly prominent in the long married life. Sometimes, small things can become the fuse for the dissolution of the marriage, and even become the last straw that crushes the marriage.
Many times, marriage is also an investment, and the pursuit is to maximize profits. In fact, whether a couple of lovers can smoothly move from love to marriage tests them not only love, but also how to make a difficult transition from ideal to reality. Are you optimistic about the future of this couple?
I am Jing Yuehe, grateful to meet, grateful to read.