When your career, love, and marriage are not satisfactory, when you are angry because you are not treated reasonably financially, when the person you love the most betrays you and regards you as a stranger, when you are depressed because of your physical defects, simple women may wish to comfort themselves and create a peaceful, open-minded, and calm psychological atmosphere.
You have to comfort yourself
Linda is divorced, and this marriage, which is so happy and happy in the eyes of others, disintegrates. The husband could not withstand the temptation of extramarital affairs, and overnight he changed from the most loved one to a stranger.
After being thrown out of the original track of life, Linda just hid at home at first and wept, crying at night and insomnia, languishing during the day, always doing why over and over again. She was accompanied only by a long and helpless mania. At that moment, the sky seemed to fall.
Unconsciously, she had a little white hair on the top of her head. Faced with the white hair that should not be there, Linda is very unworthy of herself. She thought: Why should I be so miserable and let him enjoy life? Leaving me was his fault, and I had nothing to lose, and it should be him who regretted it. It's not that he doesn't want me anymore, it's that I have a chance to find someone better than him to love myself. So Linda made up her mind that she had to change herself.
Linda no longer refuses the outdoor sun, and often takes her daughter to sit in the park, read books in bookstores, and climb mountains and walk in the fields in the suburbs. The sky is so vast and vast, the mountains are so clear and beautiful, and the sweat of field labor shows a thriving scene. Linda sniffed these breaths and lived, and she thought: The important thing is that I live seriously.
Linda's self-consolation, allowing herself to come out of the mistakes of others in time, no longer stagnant, her sudden enlightenment is the choice of wisdom.
Think of the good in everything
Aesop's fable has a story where a fox cannot eat grapes and says that grapes are sour; If you can only get lemons, you can say that lemons are sweet, so you no longer feel distressed. In fact, this is still very similar to Ah Q's "Spiritual Victory Method". Psychology then interprets facts with some "rationalized" reason, and turns malignant stimuli into benign stimuli in order to seek psychological self-consolation, called "sour grapes and sweet lemons" psychology.
Yes, women often need to comfort themselves with this "sour grape and sweet lemon" mentality. The so-called reason is nothing more than "self-justification", but it does have the effect of maintaining psychological balance and realizing psychological self-help. The evaluation title in the unit cannot be one for each person, so it is not worth it to think about the tea and not to think about it. This time can not be evaluated and the next time, besides, no title is also the same competent, there is a real performance will not drop the price, why play for a false name? Lovers have broken up, or good, married to such a ruthless and unrighteous person, maybe it will be unlucky, early with him "bye-bye, is not to avoid the trouble? Two hundred yuan was lost, and the year-end award was not issued, "go to the wealth to avoid disaster."
A long road of life, who can say that they are all the way to flowers, all the way to the sunshine through the rice? Who can say that they will not suffer setbacks and blows in the future? In the face of such and such unsatisfactory, always blindly indulging in sorrow, will only make yourself scarred and tired. So, lovely women, let us have a little bit of AQ spirit, at least in the most difficult and frustrated times, these seemingly self-deceptive little tricks, often bring us unexpected results, to avoid some unpleasantness.
For example, when you have a house, but see that people have already lived in a villa, in and out of the luxury car to accompany, at this time we can think that there are many people who do not have a house, some people even live on the street, the psychology will be comforted, and we feel that life is not so hopeless...
