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"Goodbye Lover", which was rated as the "best variety show" by netizens, ended.
These two months this show really earned everyone's tears, as the program's observation guests, Li Weijia in the finale, but also spit on themselves, we several observation guests, and finally formed a "storm crying group" well!
However, paper towels are really not earned in vain.
In the final finale, Zhang He and Guo Keyu both chose to get out of the car, and when Zhang He put on a coat for Guo Keyu, Guo Keyu threw himself into Zhang He's arms and cried, once breaking the defense.
And Wang Qiuyu Zhu Yaqiong, after 18 days, chose to hug goodbye, let go of the past, and start a new life.
The last couple, Kk and Tong Chenjie, also chose to get off the bus and jointly decided to make further efforts for the marriage, relying on each other for life and death.
In the final finale, each pair gained a lot. Although it is very reluctant and the show ends, the truth of the marriage they left us can accompany us forever.
01
Guo Keyu & Zhang He
Even if you are divorced, you can get back together because of love
Guo Keyu is an actor, at the age of 18, she first starred in the movie "Red Cherry", she won the best actress at the Shanghai International Film Festival, and she and her ex-husband Zhang He slowly became acquainted with each other after the crew met.
After getting married, she chose to return to her family. The current state of the relationship between the two is: ten years of marriage, one year of divorce.
In the first program, a meeting between the two was very cramped, and when Zhang He looked at Guo Ke, Guo Ke's eyes were evasive. Although evasive, it is amazing that this pair of them is actually the most familiar and understanding of each other among the three couples.
When Zhang He needs to wash his hair in the middle of the night, Guo Ke will help him prepare water and clearly know his living habits.
In the process of painting for the other half, the works of the two are strikingly similar, and even Teacher Ni Ping sighed.
In a game session in which Teacher Shen participated, the answers of the two were also strikingly similar. It was very happy that others had similar answers, but the two of them had similar answers, both of them were avoidant and confused.
In the final love 36 question session, many of the two people's views and answers also showed striking similarities.
However, the most surprising thing is that neither person is very likely to express their love directly.
In the game session, Guo Keyu needs to express to Zhang He "kiss, hug, and hold high".
In the expression of love, she herself is very cramped and uneasy, and after Guo Keyu finished expressing, Zhang He also expressed her very unaccustomed.
In the final love 36 question session, Guo Ke asked Zhang He whether he had considered remarriage.
Zhanghe replied, "No."
In the usual game session, Guo Ke also carefully asked, do you have a feeling of love? Zhanghe replied, "No."
And the amazing thing is that Zhang He also carefully asked Guo Ke whether he wanted to remarry, and Guo Ke's answer was also very firm, impossible.
See, even the temptation and rejection are cautious. And this kind of acting out of "I don't feel, I don't want to remarry", duplicity, but also let the two people in the final decision, have too much entanglement.
In the final decision, Teacher Zhang got out of the car first, and Guo Ke did not get out of the car. When she didn't get out of the car, she had a lot of rational thinking: "You must think clearly, you can't give others the illusion" "He has rejected me before."
However, the subconscious mind is ultimately powerful, and the body's desire for love eventually triumphs over reason. Teacher Shen also said that they are one of the relatively few types of love at first sight.
Guo Keyu got out of the car and was willing to choose to continue.
This step is really extremely difficult for Teacher Guo Ke, who has always been careful.
Guo Ke's brave appearance of getting off the bus is really touching, she makes us believe that even if we are divorced, even if we have been hurt in our feelings, as long as we believe in love and bravely face ourselves, we can rekindle new hopes. Bless her, and bless all women who have been hurt in their feelings, the courage to love more.
02
Wang Qiuyu & Zhu Yaqiong
Divorce is not the end, perhaps the beginning
The pair of Lao Wang and Ya Qiong can be said to be the most heart-wrenching couple to watch.
Ya Qiong is a super girl, likes to sing, and is now working as an artist director, Lao Wang is a screenwriter, the two have known each other for 19 years and have been married for 6 years. When they came to the show, the two were in the cooling off period of divorce.
This is not the first time they have divorced, they have been divorced once before, but they are remarried again. In the final decision of the finale, neither Lao Wang nor Ya Qiong chose to get off. (Getting off the bus means that you want to continue the marriage, and not getting off the bus means you don't want to continue)
In the 17-day divorce choice, Lao Wang initially wanted to keep Ya Qiong, and later, after seeing Ya Qiong's resolute willingness to divorce, Lao Wang also chose to divorce.
The night before the final decision, Lao Wang did not sleep all night, thinking on the windowsill all night until dawn.
The Lao Wang in life is a very rational person, while his wife, Yaqiong, is a very emotional person who needs a lot of emotional responses from her husband.
And these, Lao Wang could not give. It was already very uncomfortable to give, and he even had a lot of accusations against Ya Qiong, telling Ya Qiong a lot of truths, and telling her that these were meaningless. Therefore, Lao Wang also fell under the nickname of "nono king".
On the day of the wedding, there was no sense of marriage ceremony, and he also scolded his wife "you are so ugly".
The game session says "I like Ya Qiong very much" (the real meaning is that I don't like Ya Qiong singing very much, and Ya Qiong is a woman who loves to sing like her life)
In daily life, when Yaqiong is eager for a link and asks for a hug, he will say "only hold for one minute", and when the minute comes, he will pat Yaqiong's shoulder and signal that her time is up...
And all of this has become an indelible pain in Ya Qiong's heart.
Lao Wang is a real person, the energy in life is used in the career, he believes that living a life, material life is more important. And Ya Qiong, the need for emotional response is relatively large, what she needs is that Lao Wang can have more recognition and companionship with her.
Two people's views on marriage are not the same, and the expectations of two people for marriage are also different, which is also the fundamental contradiction of their feelings.
Fortunately, during the 18-day journey, both people became aware of and explored themselves. In the final love 36 question session, Yaqiong said: I look forward to the future life, no matter what, I must be beautiful, and Lao Wang also realized his problem, because he has never seen what Yaqiong really wants.
In the final decision, Neither Lao Wang nor Ya Qiong chose to get off the car, but in the preparation for the future, the two people still embraced deeply.
This hug is the embrace of two people's emotional relief. Not getting off the bus does not mean the end of the relationship. On the contrary, it is a new beginning.
In life, we are often in a hurry to repair a marriage, hoping that we can be happy immediately and immediately.
However, the first step in breaking the cocoon and being born again is to shout stop, to be in the same place, to first have an awareness of your relationship, and to have an awareness of yourself, to see what is wrong with yourself.
Only when there is a process of awareness first can there be new possibilities.
And Ya qiong and Lao Wang have achieved this awareness, praised their awareness, and looked forward to their new beginnings.
03
Tong Chenjie &kk
Divorce is not the solution to the problem, awareness of love is
Tong Chenjie and kk, they can be regarded as a pair with a relatively stable emotional state in the show. Just look at their divorce options in these 17 days.
In the first few days, when she first came, Tong Chenjie was emotionally unstable, and she was still dissatisfied with her husband's drinking, and then chose to divorce on the 6th day, which was also the day when kk drank.
And kk's side, the 9th and 10th two days of choosing to divorce, it was also because Tong Chenjie gambled with her because of drinking.
In the selection game session of the program, Teacher Shen analyzed their emotional state:
They are more contradictory on the issue of presenting the core of the relationship between husband and wife, and this just exposes the reason why they came to this show: husband kk always drinks, and Tong Chenjie does not want children because her husband drinks too much.
The problem of drinking is actually superficial, and the more essential reason behind it is that Tong Chenjie is worried that KK cannot be a good father and cannot assume the responsibility of children.
Teacher Shen also gave advice on this issue: whether Tong Chenjie can be with kk for 12 years, because for a child, the key time to affect his life is also in the first 12 years.
This suggestion made Tong Chenjie, who was sober in the world, think deeply, and in the final choice, she chose to get off the bus and was willing to continue her marriage with KK.
On the other hand, kk also realized his own problems, he was willing to go one step further, improve his work and rest, bring more companionship and love to Tong Chenjie, and finally chose to get off.
In their final decision, there is also a small episode, kk got off the car first, and after the time, Tong Chenjie delayed the time to get off because he thought about things, the car drove away, and kk has been chasing. The way he chased the car made many people cry.
In the end, Tong Chenjie woke up and chose to get off. The two men hugged each other tightly again.
Sure enough, the love that runs in both directions has meaning. The party who has been over-giving will always be tired one day, and when he is tired, it is also the easiest time to spend the marriage and feel tired.
Conclusion of the Online Writers Group:
After watching "Goodbye Lover", my biggest feeling is moving. I was touched that every relationship can be reborn and rejuvenated after experiencing pain.
We all long for a happy marriage, and the reason why we do so is because many people's marriages will go through tribulations.
As the saying goes, no matter how happy the marriage is, there will be 100 thoughts of divorce and 50 times of wanting to strangle each other.
But the secret to a happy marriage lies in the 101st reconciliation and the 51st forgiveness.
A good marriage, like a snow lotus blooming on the cliffs of the Tianshan Mountains, grows in extremely cold places, but has a tenacious tension of life. May your marriage and mine be like a snow lotus, even after experiencing wind and rain, it can still shine.
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