"In just four days, the British prime minister is gone, the credit is gone, and even the European Championship has lost to Iceland, which has a male population of only 150,000, which can be described as an all-round Brexit success."
More interestingly, on the second day of Brexit, a Google search showed that the first popular question british searched for was "What does leaving the EU mean..." and the second was "What is the EU?" "Seeing the second book into France is also stunned, the United Kingdom joined the European Union in 1973, this actually has to be checked, I feel that the people of the island country want to do things well and have talent.
There is just such a funny anthropologist, every day there is nothing to hit people on the street, chat, wonder how the British brain thinks of doing things, in order to write a book "British words and deeds unspoken rules", summarizing the british daily behavior of various unspoken rules of words and deeds. After the publication, some people believed that she leaked the little secrets of the British, and some people believed that she referred to all The British as Englishmen in order to be partial. But there is no denying that everyone thinks that this book is very interesting.
See what the elegant English gentleman really thinks?
Weather.
The author said that the British people have social rigidity at their roots and are not good at dealing with each other. Of all the natural events in the UK, the weather is the most variable, so the British didn't hesitate to choose this topic – the weather makes us always have something new to complain about.
If the weather does not change, the people of the island country will begin to be anxious.
We expect the weather to change frequently. If the weather is unchanged for many days, we will even feel uncomfortable, and after three consecutive days of rain, we will start to worry that if the flood snows for more than a day or two, there will be a snow forecast on the radio, and the whole country will come to a standstill.
The British also suffer from "endless weather syndrome", which is very pretentious, even if the temperature is only 27 degrees, they have to shout. You have to agree unconditionally no matter how they evaluate the weather, but you can't judge their weather at will. And they have always despised what a big blizzard, a big tornado in the United States. Of course, Americans hate their mannerisms.
chat.
In britain, if you go up and ask people what their names are and what they do, it is very easy to cause disgust and rejection. Unless you have an intimate relationship with an Englishman, such as you marry his daughter, the British won't want to know your name or tell you their name until then.
Why do foreigners often complain that the British are cold, conservative, unfriendly, and stand by. In other cultures, reporting basic personal information – your name, the occupation you make a living, whether you are married, whether you have children, where you live – is not a big deal: in Britain, the process of squeezing out such information is like pulling out a tooth, and every little problem is met with our instinctive defenses and counterattacks.
The British like to guess at other people's career inquiries, that is, let you keep guessing his profession until the guess is correct. The key is that guessing right is more fun.
When the other person's career is finalized, in general, you have to show a certain degree of amazement, although sometimes it is expected, sometimes you are actually very annoyed with the profession, but there is no way, this is etiquette. After that, there's always an awkward pause because you're racking your brains to make up a reasonable assessment or a proper question about the profession, and he or she'll try to respond to you with something that's both modest and funny, and equally unusual.
Reverse compliment principle.
You have to start with a direct compliment, such as, "Oh, I like the haircut you cut this time." ”...... The reverse compliment rule requires people to respond to the above compliments in a self-denying and derogatory manner, that is, to make a "reverse compliment". For example: "Oh no! My hair is actually terrible, it's curled up too much...
Class code of language.
British culture has a more sober class consciousness, which has also led to the spread of localism and is encouraged... There are plenty of voices opposed to integration into Europe, let alone integration into any global monoculture.
Class divisions in Britain have little to do with money and little to do with occupation. Language is paramount. A person who speaks with an upper-class accent and uses upper-class language is often regarded as an upper class.
Similarly, a man with a lower-class accent who calls his couch a settee and his lunch is called a diner, is a lower-class man even though he is worth millions and lives in tall country houses.
Residential rules.
The British are extremely particular about housing decoration, but when inviting others to see, they do not like to praise, and even very disgusted. It feels so divided.
When visiting people's homes, commenting on the furnishings around you without permission is considered incorrect, and if you add praise, it is even more considered to be very ''bad'', or even completely rude. It is said that a duke, after visiting his new neighbor, was so angry that he scolded: "Actually praise my chair, shameless!" ＂
Queuing rules.
The British people's queue consciousness has arrived, and they want to go to the rhythm of the queue when they see the queue, but on the other hand, it is interesting that the British are the easiest to cut in line, because the British are socially rigid and unwilling to point it out to their faces.
The essential goal of queuing is actually fairness. As Mikesh puts it, "A person who is in line is a fair person." He cared about his own affairs; he lived and gave space to others; he gave others opportunities; he waited for his rights to be realized while fulfilling his obligations; he did almost everything that an Englishman had believed in all his life. ”
Can't be overly welcoming.
Even in schools known for their most rigorous academic ethos, over-effort "bookworms" or teachers' "darlings" are dubbed nerds, nerves, nasty ghosts, smouldering, etc., and are unpopular among students and ridiculed. Students who are actively studying hard, who love a subject, or who pride themselves on academic effort, carefully hide their true desires and disguise themselves as tireless, cynical, and indifferent.
Money is taboo.
Money is a dirty word in the language of the British, they have taboos about money, and there are taboos about making money, and if you happen to be good at making money, it is best not to let people pay attention to this fact. You have to downplay your money-making success story as much as possible, and pretend to be ashamed of your wealth.
It is clear that a large part of the British taboo on money is out of sheer hypocrisy. The British are as ambitious as the rest of the world, greedy and selfish, and love money as if they were destined, but there are more and stricter rules that constrain us, forcing us to deny, to hide, to suppress these desires.
mean.
Observe the typical British protests, and you will find that the deafening cries of the people are nothing more than the following two: "What do we want?" Progressive reform! What do we want to change? Step by step! ”
Eventually, when you run into any problem, whether the bread is charred or the Third World War is about to break out, you learn to respond with "always so", with the typical three expressions of anger, restraint and omniscience, then, congratulations, you are really a full-fledged Englishman!
After reading these, you will find that although this book is about the British, why are the rules in it not universal?
Not good at sociability, no words to say; demeaning yourself, complimenting others; pretending not to care about work and study; rich people also have to pretend to be poor..., life is everywhere. The British humor, equality, and rule-abiding are hard to see.
Brexit is a big deal, life is also a big deal, learn from each other's strengths and complement each other's weaknesses.
Title: The Unspoken Rules of The British
Author: (English) Kate Fox
Translator: Yao Yunzhu
Publisher: Life, Reading, and New Knowledge Triptych Bookstore