Wen | snow fell without dust
I believe that everyone has such a moment.
Although nothing major happened, it was anxiety and loss, and I felt that life was a chicken feather, as if a mess of wool was getting more and more chaotic. Everything is working against yourself, and the more anxious you are, the more powerless you are to change.
This is a fast-paced era, and we receive a lot of information every day, either actively or passively. Seeing too much, but not what we really need, causes us to become more and more anxious.
On the short video of the mobile phone, I saw someone wearing heavy makeup and showing off their newly bought big mansion, and immediately thought of themselves but for the heavy mortgage, when they were still running for their lives, they instantly felt that they had lost the motivation of life.
It was as if his life was a war of war.
In fact, often at this time, put down the mobile phone, close the eyes, let the mind be quiet for a while, you will find that the anxiety of life does come from the pressure of survival, but more of it comes from yourself.
As children, we laugh when we cry and cry; we as adults laugh and laugh but cry.
In the adult world, there are many troubles and few joys. Instead of worrying about living a day, it is better to live happily for a day.
You will find that often the simpler life, the happier people are.
When the heart grows bigger, there are fewer troubles, and only then can we live a sense of luxury.
In fact, the smarter the woman, the simpler the life.
At school, roommate Lei Lei was particularly prominent. Because no matter what time, this little girl is always smiling and giggling, and her body is full of positive taste of sunshine.
Her smile was full of innocence and ignorance, and we all thought it must be a flower from the greenhouse, and she grew up being loved by everyone, which is why she was so carefree.
But the truth blew us away, and when her mother visited her at school, her gray hair and calloused hands told us that the family did not live easily.
One of the most common words Lei Lei said is: "We must learn to be content and happy." ”
A few years after graduation, we all in the ivory tower have been baptized by society, becoming tired and numb, and when I see Leilei again, she is still no different from the cheerful girl in college.
Although her appearance may have matured a little, her eyes were still clear.
Several of our old classmates have envied Leilei and think that she must have a good life after graduation!
Lei Lei told her that in fact, she is also very hard now, and she is still trying to make money to buy a house with her fiancé, and her mother is sick and hospitalized.
We were all surprised, why do you look, not bothered at all?
Lei Lei smiled and said, "Everyone has troubles, but most of them are compared."
If you have a good life, comparing yourself with others will find that you are still inferior to others; if you have a bad life, comparing with others is to find that your life has completely failed. ”
If you don't have enough money, you will work hard to earn, and if you are not in good health, you will take good care of it, and there are always more ways than difficulties.
If you can't think of something, don't think about it; if you can't keep someone or thing, let it go.
No wonder the ancients cloud "the road to simplicity", we can hear each other, sometimes it sounds very simple, but it is not easy to really do it.
After meeting Lei Lei, I went home and revisited Wong Kar-wai's classic movie "East Evil west poison".
There's a line in the movie that I love:
"Everybody goes through this stage, sees a mountain, and wants to know what's behind it. I'd love to tell him that maybe after climbing over the mountain, you'll find nothing special. Looking back, you may feel that this side is better. ”
Although it is an old movie more than 20 years ago, it is still to the point today.
Most ordinary women have become puppets of desire, and when they are young, they try their best to climb over the mountains and explore the illusory treasures behind them, but after physical and mental exhaustion, they are empty-handed.
External fame and profit cannot bring you real happiness, but may make you lose more important things in life.
In the end, I found that simplicity was the most advanced pursuit.
Life is not "The Biography of Zhen Huan", some women calculate this and that, but they do not know that they are also being calculated by others.
Obviously, they can get the maximum happiness simply, but they choose to be complicated, and then lose the original goodness in their hearts.
It seems to be smart, but in fact, it is too stupid to make your life more and more complicated.
I don't know if you have such a moment, obviously you have worked so hard, but you feel that life is getting more and more unsatisfactory:
Obviously, the more money you make, the more you feel poor, and you will be anxious when you see the luxurious life of others;
Obviously, there are more and more clothes in the cabinet, but when it comes to important occasions, I always feel that there is no clothes to wear;
Obviously, there are more and more friends in the mobile phone, but the people who want to pour out their hearts late at night can't find one...
We live so vulgarly that we make all sorts of meaningless additions to life.
The more advanced women live, the more they know how to subtract for themselves.
Sanmao is such a smart and advanced woman, she once wrote this sentence in the book:
"I cry when I like to cry, and laugh when I want to, as long as it's all natural. I don't seek profundity, I only seek simplicity. ”
A woman who is as free as three hairs, chases after what she wants, and falls in love with no one who regrets it. Her and Jose's love is so simple and pure that it has become a love template that everyone envies.
Therefore, it is better to be like a three-haired one, and strive to live as a simple woman,
Life is like a journey, you and I are passing by, carrying too much will only make the shoulders too heavy.
Living is simple, put aside the baggage, the acid of life will eventually become sweet like honey under time.
Author: Snowfall Dustless, Writer, Emotional Counselor. If you encounter any emotional distress, you can send me a private message, and I will help you analyze and help you solve it.