Liking and true love are both the most beautiful emotions in the world, and at the same time the happiest feelings, but there is actually a big difference, especially for men. Having heard such an understanding, it is more or less that liking only occupies the "love" part of "love" and lacks the concentration of "love".
It seems that the emotions are the same, in fact, only that strong affection can completely bind the two people together, not only with chai rice oil and salt every day, but also with life, old age, illness and death.
So having a strong desire to be close to her, and not being able to help but want to be nice to her, these are not enough to prove that the emotion in the heart is love.
Truly falling in love with someone is a belief, a determination, or an emotion that is still inseparable after exploring many mysteries.
We can't say that liking is fake, but the most precious feeling between two people must still be love. So for men, what is the difference between what they like and love?
"Men really fall in love with a person, just like a person": the most obvious difference is five points!
1, like is desire; love is to restrain desire.
Liking is an emotion, but such emotions are often mixed with more of a person's desire part, or purely by the other person's appearance and posture, and the desire part that awakens oneself by other beautiful characteristics. When two people are together, most of them are indulging their own behavior and only enjoying the passionate romance.
It is like when two people are together, there is always a feeling of desperate and greedy taking, to a great extent to satisfy the desire part of themselves. So the essence of liking is often desire, you can like a person, you can also like a lot of people, and love is to reject many people for one person.
There is also a special feeling of pity behind it, so that there is more restraint on the self, afraid that she is sad and sad, and will always put her feelings first.
2, like is half; love is to send all.
In the case that I have 10 pieces of sugar, taking the initiative to divide 5 pieces of you is like, and then there is no more, because I also like to eat, and I also have to consider myself. But if I see that you like to eat, then I would rather endure the like and desire, secretly leave all 10 pieces of sugar to you, and deceive yourself to eat it.
Men really have such feelings, like I listened to a friend said, every time I buy clothes for myself, I am reluctant to buy clothes, always look at the price first, but if the wife likes a dress, after seeing the price, the wife herself is also hesitating, he does not have the reluctance to himself, even if the wife does not want, afterwards will secretly buy it to give to the wife.
Without affecting family life, he can spend all of his 100 yuan on his wife, although the wife will want to save the money.
3, like is the heart; love is a kind of determination.
What's it like to like it? When you see each other, countless thoughts will immediately arise in your mind, as if you are in a cloud, and the corners of your mouth are unconsciously raised. Therefore, with the people you like, you always have ripples in your heart, but you have to pretend to be calm, in fact, your heart has already set off a wave of waves, passionate years.
In fact, it is precisely because of being with the person you like, that feeling is so wonderful, so wonderful, but it will make you feel uneasy, there is a feeling of unreality.
But what about love? It was to see each other, maybe there was no idea, but you can really feel an unprecedented sense of steadfastness and steadfastness, especially at ease, as if a ship docked on the dock, duckweed found a home feeling.
4, like is attraction; love is mutual fulfillment.
I once read a sentence that goes like this: "Willing to change yourself for the sake of the other party is true love, and you don't want to change yourself from beginning to end, at best, the other party loves you." Can be compromised, can be concessional, willing to try the original hate, have such a heart, in order to maintain feelings. ”
So the biggest difference between liking and loving is to see if you are willing to change yourself for the sake of the other party, if you are not willing, or always ask the other party to change, then in this relationship, at best, the other party loves you, and you just let and accept the other party's love.
If liking is a pure sexual attraction, then love is a long-term process of change, a process of mutual perfection, through self-change to complete each other, and for the development of two people's feelings, make some required changes, long-term future.
5, like is possessive; love is a sincere blessing.
If you like a person, you always have a strong desire to harvest and possess each other, so as to make some unbridled and wild behavior, which is very normal and common to people. But behind these behaviors, more is the inner obsession fueling the waves, not the real love.
For example, Chernyshevsky once said, "What does it mean to love someone?" It means being happy for his happiness, doing everything that needs to be done to make him happier, and getting joy out of it. ”
So love is a blessing and a joy, a very natural emotion that arises from the depths of the heart, without the slightest reluctance. Some people may say that such love is bitter, but there are always people who can make fun in suffering, and can still find happiness and happiness in a very bitter environment.
So to see if he just likes you or really loves you, it's enough to see these five points.
If love is only the transformation of like, then in the process of liking to love, there should be a sense of return to the truth, more and more simple, more and more ordinary, more and more determined.
Unlike when I just had the feeling of liking, the emotions between two people are mainly manifested as sparks and sparks, which is really like the years when passion burns. It's like a glass of red wine, although it is sour and sweet, it makes people intoxicated, but the body will not be able to stand it after a long time.
So later, the inner emotions slowly changed, no longer as strong and hot as at the beginning, into a cup of boiled water.
Although it will feel tasteless, it can withstand all the scrutiny and contemplation of time, and make you feel more and more inseparable, for what life really needs.
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