This is the 2733rd original of the Why Podcast, with a total of 2770 words and takes 7 minutes to read
Some people do things in a down-to-earth manner, spending their hard-earned money to buy cigarettes and asking others to smoke, but they are disliked by the other party for not being good enough. And that's not all, but he also had to call his subordinates down: How can you make your boss smoke such a broken cigarette! In the future, I have to try to make the boss smoke a good cigarette!
The implication is that I think this person is not well mixed, and the subordinates have not paid tribute to the boss to smoke, and the management is not good. But on the other hand, the person who says this is like his own person, and his character is not good. So go your own way, stick to your own principles, and don't be distorted by bad circles.
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Recently, the details of the Wenzhou "maritime nest case" were exposed, and the suspect spent 40 yuan one day to buy a pack of Chinese cigarettes and asked others to smoke. The others looked down on the smoke and called his subordinates over and said the above. The suspect's mentality suddenly collapsed, and he felt that he had been in vain for so many years.
In fact, from Uncle Bo's point of view, one is the circle, and the other is the heart. Mixed workplace, don't listen to what others say, especially if others pity you, the person who speaks is digging a pit to make you jump.
You don't know if someone else's good cigarettes are bought by themselves, or if they are really like the other party said that others are filial piety. It may be a deliberate innings just to lead you astray. The root cause of this nest case is that the overall atmosphere of the unit is not good, and the staff compares with each other, which eventually leads to imprisonment together.
In the movie "1921", Chen Gongbo pays attention to enjoyment, is controlled by materialism, and finally becomes a big traitor. In the recent news, a staff member of the Finance Bureau has been rumored to the whole network, to the effect that in this year, men are prostitutes, and prostitution is a plus for men. So don't mix with this rotten person, it's easy to be distorted by his circle.
Uncle Bo once said in "Knowing People and Knowing Faces": Look after your husband, know who he is interacting with. Once there is a person who is fooling around, it is likely to bring the people in the circle to bad. On the contrary, people with good human nature also affect those around them.
People need to be strong in their hearts and need to learn to judge, and not everything has to go with the flow and go with the flow. When fighting corruption, there was a unit that also had a nest case. But there was one staff member who was alone and unblemished. Afterwards, someone asked him, how can he get out of the whole body?
He said: It's very simple, what to do after work, don't mess with them. The other party asked: What if you are excluded because of this? He said: If you are excluded, you are excluded, but if you know that it is a road of no return, and you still want a road to go black, and you want to find an official and a half-job, is it not to find your own death?
Therefore, do not seek benefits from rotten interest groups, because those interests are dug pits, and whoever wants to share a piece of the pie must be paid for it. Just like in the underworld movie, people who want to join a society must keep some incriminating evidence in the hands of the organization, such as killing individuals in person.
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When one pursues worldly success, one must first clarify whether the success you are pursuing is long-term or short-term. Many people think of sprinting as a growth run, thinking that they can always run at this speed, but in fact, they are overdrawn. In the words of Wang Shi running a business, a person who is accustomed to doing a business with a profit margin of 200% is not willing to do a business with a profit margin of 20%. Long-term development, maintaining a growth rate of 20% is already a very remarkable thing.
As Warren Buffett proposed compound interest value investments, the business has always snowballed in value, only through long-term continuous investment. Don't think linearly in a single dimension, rely on a strong heart and correct values. Don't always want to get benefits, the benefits of the world are often others eat and wipe out, leaving the black pot to others.
So you can't just listen to what others say, but keep your heart at peace. Some people see high worship and low stepping on the ground, and always feel that people are divided into high and low. The more this is the case, the more only short-term benefits and brilliance can be obtained. If you want to interact with successful people for a long time, you often need to show great power the poorer you are. Many things have to be heard, and you can't be afraid of the end.
Don't just look at the position, look at the trend, and add one: you have to admit your destiny. Some big bosses have an unbalanced mentality, and ask Uncle Bo: I am such a big boss, I still have to bow to the small clerk, and my heart is uncomfortable. Uncle Bo replied: Often only one head can be occupied in the face. You earn money, you have a rizi, then when you should bow your head, don't care so much about face.
The little clerk didn't get that much profit, you have to make people feel comfortable and get face, so he may pinch you for the sake of face, which can also be understood. What I am afraid of is that you want to have a face in it, and if you don't give people this face, then people may give you some color to see, and serious it will also provoke a senseless disaster, there is no need.
Many times, as different industries, the peasants, industry and commerce need the state to use means to balance each other. The three industries of scholars, farmers, and workers tend to earn less than businessmen and make low profits. At this time, it is no longer possible to let the merchants gain both money and face, otherwise the people in the three trades of scholars, peasants, and workers will stop working and turn to business.
This is the logical starting point of China's "heavy agriculture and suppressing business" for thousands of years, not to mention that professions like actors have high incomes and attract people's hatred, so it is necessary to strictly control them administratively. If in today's society, businessmen have both face and inside, what is the difference between that and the business giants of Western capitalist countries secretly manipulating the political and economic trends of the country? So domestic businessmen, all kinds of efforts to do charity, in exchange for social status.
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Back to the question at the beginning of the article, what if this situation really happens? Uncle Bo thinks that first, the circle is different, and there is no need to be strong. The other party smokes a good cigarette and blows a cow, we don't have to compete to be the protagonist, do a good supporting role. People don't want to be the protagonist, let the other party be the protagonist or look down on themselves is nothing, the key battlefield is still at work. You have to be able to say one thing or the other at the meeting, and that's the real victory.
But some people may say that smoking is worse than they smoke, and I can't feel bad. Uncle Bo felt that to do revolutionary work, we must first have confidence in ourselves. It's not that you have to take a loan and buy a good car and a good house in order to lead others. Feeling that if you can't suppress the other party economically, you can't lead the other party's ideas, and in the final analysis, your own confidence is insufficient and your position is unstable.
The second is to throw away the idea of overly taking face. The other party demeans you, perhaps the most fundamental purpose of which is to disgust you. Speak and listen, the left ear goes in and out of the right ear, and if you listen to it, forget it. Privately think about the day when you get it back in something else, which is called a smart person. It may be that the other party is rich, or it may indeed be a corrupt person, it does not matter.
So man has to confess his destiny. As a businessman, if you have a son, don't ask for face. On the contrary, with face, don't be greedy and want to be greedy anymore. The father has been poor all his life, and the son has become a corrupt official, which is actually a reflection of inner instability. When people are young, they have spent a lot of money and drunk a lot of wine, but they are not easy to have problems in middle age.
Because I have experienced it, I know that money is a bastard, and that's all. To know what the other party is because of what gives you face, so you can calmly accept a logic: people go tea cold. In fact, it has nothing to do with you, it has to do with the money in your pocket and the power in your hand.
Materialism is often, enjoyed without approval, not enjoyed will be diligent. For example, buying a bag, you may buy one or two is quite satisfied, buy three or five to feel not so happy, but also have to find a place to put, then you have to change the house. This is what economics calls diminishing marginal benefits.
If you mix with a group of yacht people, you will look down on your own car; but this is not a game of airplanes, a year's fuel money is enough to buy a yacht, materialism is not endless. Therefore, people still have to do things steadily, and the biggest people are only three meals a day, and they can only lie on one bed at a time.
If you have been to the Forbidden City, you will find that the emperor's room is not large, because the ancients paid attention to gathering qi, and the room was large and was not conducive to gathering gas. If you have not eaten or seen it, your inner emptiness will produce greed.
This wind of pleasure is effective. In a unit, what the leader likes, often the people below will follow suit. In a family, parents are extravagant, and children have nothing not to waste. For example, a certain secretary who was killed in the anti-corruption campaign appeared to be very simple, but his ex-wife and daughter squandered it and finally implicated the secretary. There is no impermeable wall in the world, so be strong inside, manage yourself, don't let others dig a pit, and you will be stupid and jump into it.
The second half of the episode talks about how to distinguish between the other party's truth and falsehood, and how to distinguish whether what you are doing is right or wrong.
Written in the end: living as face and living as a child is in the choice, but also in the opportunity. There is a saying circulating on the Internet: children make choices, adults all want it. In fact, it is not so simple, if you want to get real profits, you know that you are in and out, if you blindly emphasize fame and fortune, the winner eats all, and often ends up in a group attack.
--- Hu does not return
This article is excerpted from the What to Do Podcast - "The Game of Strategy" column
Author: Wen Bo
Edit: Hu Bugui
Review: Pony