Some sisters, after falling out of love, feel that the sky has collapsed, and they can't live without each other. Of course, on a perceptual level, I understand this emotion, who hasn't lost love? It's normal not to be able to walk out for a while. But rationally think about it, you really can't live without him?
The various differences experienced from childhood to adulthood are not too many, and most of them are just sad for the first two days. I once felt that I would not fall in love with anyone after falling out of love, and I felt that I would not be happy again without him. But to be honest I was sad for 3 months, what to do after that, the days were full of taste, and now in retrospect I only think I was funny, for a man, isn't the next one more fragrant? The pain of losing love is not that you have lost this love object, but that you can't bear the period of time when no one talks about WeChat and no one cares.
I used to think that the empty window period was too terrible, especially when you deleted the other party's WeChat, the huge psychological gap when this person disappeared from your life and may not have contact for a lifetime, which is really uncomfortable. But I tell you, 3 months, at most half a year, you have survived, you will find that suddenly cheerful, life reappears in front of you with a new look, you will feel that you have been born again, life has changed from a vicious face to a gentle and lovely look. Many of the gains and losses, the emotions of worrying about the stomach have become the inner stability and ease, you will find that the empty window period is nothing, single but really fragrant! Ha ha
Here I would like to say two more words about the empty window period, in fact, the empty window period is a very critical period for us girls, it is a very important and precious stage for our self-growth and spiritual independence. During this time, we can have plenty of time for self-exploration, to learn from failed feelings, to better understand ourselves, to understand our own inner needs and the traits necessary for a man who is truly suitable for him. Those who seamlessly enter new relationships immediately after the loss of love, the essence is afraid to face the empty window period and avoid self-growth, because you are afraid to face the real self, afraid to see your own vulnerability and failure, not enough time to think about why you failed, not enough time to review, to digest and grow, and eager to prove your charm by finding the next goal, filling the inner hole. But in this case, the feelings you catch are like a life-saving straw, and there is a high probability that they will end in failure. So you will only continue to repeat this cycle, until you really start to think, start to stop and reflect on yourself, in order to jump out of the strange circle of feelings.
Therefore, if you are in the empty window period at this time, you don't have to rush to find another person, and don't be anxious. What you need to do is: take a deep breath, relax, let yourself relax and live gently, don't be nervous, life is still long, don't rush this moment, everyone has their own rhythm of life. Be yourself, try to learn to truly love yourself, and constantly explore inward, be self-satisfied, not dependent on anyone, and be financially and spiritually independent.
When you have lived yourself to perfection, all those who are perfect will come ❤️ to you.
