"Good Book Recommendation" This small universe with strong energy is the source of our strength...

In the 1950s, a group of anthropologists, communicators, and psychopathologists observed that the onset of schizophrenia seemed to be closely related to the marital conflict of their parents. Once the parents quarrel fiercely, the children will fall ill and use the illness as a fire extinguisher to maintain the stability of the family.

This is the idea I recently read in a book I read, Family on a Hot Pot, which helped me systematically construct my understanding of family therapy. I will recommend it to you today.

Traditional individual psychotherapy starts with the person who has "problems", while family therapy believes that solving a person's problems does not require in-depth analysis of the individual, but only needs to change his interaction with the people around him. The family is a small universe, with its own powerful force, problems arise, people do not have to and should not fight alone, but together with each family, from the overall perspective to solve the problem.

Many of the ideas in the book can be thought-provoking, and a few excerpts are casually excerpted:

#About The Family of Origin #A person who was strongly attacked by his parents during his childhood will be depressed and constantly struggling for the rest of his life.

If there is a seed of divorce that was planted in advance, it is likely to be planted in marriage before the individual has formed an independent self.

#About the relationship between husband and wife # Even families who choose to divorce after treatment can gain the courage and ability to face separation and subsequent life through treatment.

The case-fictional presentation of the book is also very meticulous, a middle-aged couple and their three children, their mutual use, unintentional alliance and power struggle are clearly visible. The injury of the closest people and the positioning given by the safest place may be the deep source of injury and trauma that inadvertently brings you, soberly perceived, carefully tasted, and deeply mourned, in order to win a comfortable space for yourself and gain the courage and ability to follow up in life.

A book worth revisiting.

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Author: Yang Qingxiao, psychological counselor, early childhood education instructor, former media person, former senior editor of the well-known mother and baby platform. Long-term recruitment visits ~