I believe that when most people discuss this topic, many people will say that there are seven passions and six desires, there are relatives who are difficult to decide on housework, there is a gap between rich and poor, there is too much to pay, too little to get, etc., open up the topic to explore. But today, to explore this topic from another aspect.
We all know a phenomenon that everyone has a heart and a head. If a person's heart is good, then his head is filled with positive energy, and he must do everything worthy of his conscience and put moral character first. Such a person knows how to be self-motivated, not to strike at random, not to pick faults, and even capable people, will find out everyone's advantages to play, form a team, each play their own advantages, everyone is equal, no one can do without whom, just like the five elements of Chinese medicine, one is destroyed, almost every one will be destroyed slowly.
The other is that if a person's heart is evil, such a person is prone to selfishness, self-centeredness, himself is on top, cannot bear a little grievance, and treats the dignity and role of others improperly. The benefits come first, and the disadvantages are thousands of miles away. As long as you can make money, pit abduction is not a word, if there is such a person in the family, can not see their own harm to the family, but also feel their own grievances, always put the emotions first, if it is a parent, the more to protect their children, if the child makes a mistake, the more the more this mistake will always be in the heart, can not let go, torture themselves, torture the family.
Many people say that their hearts are good, why do they still let the people in the family be hurt? Because many people mistakenly think that their wrong way is good, then others cannot accept it and regard it as good. Do good deeds for yourself, others still take it for granted, and even complain, resulting in troubles. Because you don't know the other person, you think it's good, but you don't take into account the other person's feelings, which just hinders the other person's needs.
Just like many parents, do not let their children do anything, afraid that their children will be hurt, do not let their children suffer a little grievance. When children are freed from the protection of their parents, in the face of the real society, don't say that they have no ability to fight the country and the mountains.
Why do I have such thoughts ? Because I have also had troubles, by seriously facing the social reality, I have not been trapped by the troubles and resolved the troubles. Because behind the troubles is a thing or a word, or an attitude, a look, resulting in their own heart does not feel safe, or they want, through efforts not to get, on the surface, should produce troubles, from the cause of the troubles, to be able to completely solve the problem.
Just like many people start a business, it is easy, and many people follow and fail. The same language, the same words, but different interpersonal relationships, different psychological experiences, so that different choices have emerged. It's like a bench, on the stool your stool is the largest, it can withstand 100 bricks, but his heart can withstand two hundred bricks. So when 100 bricks are full, you are angry, give up continuing to work hard, complain in a dissatisfied life, resulting in the escalation of contradictions, the heart can not bear 100 bricks, but this contradiction is far greater than 100 bricks, resulting in many people dare not face real life, there is a negative psychology, long-term repression, leading to a variety of diseases. This is also why many people let go of their mood after getting seriously ill, and later recovered, and many people are afraid of being engulfed by serious illness after getting serious illness.
There is only one reality, there is no absolute fairness, no effort, to complain, let the body produce burden energy, whether it is wealth or health, will definitely go downhill. The real belief is not the brilliant achievement after success, but the determination to stand up and make a comeback after failure, as long as life is still there, the faith must be there. Because it is full of faith, it can secrete a lot of hormones that are beneficial to the needs of the body.