Why are more and more young people reluctant to have babies?
Obviously, this has become a social problem, so it is frequently searched. Not only is the government paying attention, but also those who have not yet determined their fertility attitudes, and those who are pregnant are also curious: Why do others marry and do not want to have children? These are the questions I think people who have children know best.
Yesterday on Weibo saw a zhihu netizens shared their family parenting story, watching I was scared, can't bear to read, comments are even more let my heart pull cold.
Because this netizen's child is an autistic child.
She first said that she had an almost perfect pregnancy, everything went well, but gave birth to a child with autism. Then I talked about the hardships of their parenting, and I looked at the part quickly, because it was really hard, and I was very heartbroken to see it. Netizens finally said that although it is very hard, they love their children very much and will always take care of him. When I saw the ending, I silently prayed for them in my heart, hoping that fate would take care of this family.
The beginning of the story makes my heart very heavy, how can I be so good during pregnancy that I will give birth to an autistic child? Is there a way to prevent or predict it? Can it be treated? What hope is there to give to such a family? The comments of netizens answered a series of my questions.
Whether or not a child with autism will be born is a matter of probability, this probability is very small, but a grain of ash of the times, falling on the head of an individual, is a mountain. The unbearable lightness of life can be encountered by anyone, depending on whose luck is worse.
So, maybe I'm going to have an autistic baby?!
This realization made me take a breath of cold air. I have always expected my child to be an angel baby who has absorbed our strengths, is a beautiful and easy to carry. But he is at risk of congenital autism. At that moment, I was really scared and scared, unable to accept the certainty behind this possibility.
Netizens first said that there was no problem during their pregnancy, they or she, must have faced very terrible doubts and blames because the child has autism, right? Husbands and elders will first wonder if it is the mother's responsibility that the child has problems. Even if family members learn after consulting a doctor that this is a matter of probability, others will feel that giving birth to an autistic child is the couple's own cause. Only those who truly understand the disease can give them some understanding and sympathy. Are these understandings useful, and will these sympathies be a form of stress? Is this really still important to them?
Autism can vary in severity and severity, and existing treatments are often incurable for children with severe symptoms.
Friends told me that childbearing is very hard, but the children are cute and fun. I think that having fun with children is probably the most important reason why many people have children, because the joy of parenting makes us choose to bear the pain of parenting. If a child has a disease that can never be cured and can never take care of himself, how desperate it should be for parents!
The netizen's child seems to have more serious symptoms. She was already strong and she said they would always take care of him. But how long has this been going on? The end point is that parents are too old to take care of their children, right? At that time, they could no longer take care of his later life, and the only thing they could do for him was to prepare enough money to send him to a nursing home. Caring for a baby who needs to be fed and urinated on for a year can feel very hard, but what if it is a lifetime of caring for an adult who does not have the ability to take care of himself? If the child is autistic, I probably won't be happy for the rest of my life, right? I can only pray that this grain of ash of the times will not fall on my head, and the next time I go to the obstetric examination, I must ask the doctor about the autistic child.
That is to say, if there is an autistic child in the family, basically all the pressure can only be carried by the family itself...
I said to my husband, do you know that autism cannot pass the obstetric examination, and there is a certain probability that we may have a child with autism.
He didn't want to say: Our children can't be autistic.
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It is this attitude that makes people despair.
Now I just want my child to be a healthy child with normal intelligence and sound limbs.