Author: Gu Gu Editor: Li Jin
Publisher: Marriage and Family Magazine
id：hunyinyujiating99
Some time ago, Hu Die, with a refreshing attitude, appeared on the stage of the CCTV hit variety show "Summer of Yang Young".
In the show, the talent is displayed, and the high ponytail shape is cool to the audience.
Netizens sighed: Even in the talent-rich CCTV, Hu Die's charm is still unique. This is a kind of confidence that only women who have been pampered by years have.
Why are people surprised by the excellent state of The Butterfly? Because before, her married life was not optimistic about everyone.
In 2014, Hu Di met Lu Chuan when she was attending a gathering of friends. 6 months later, the news of the flash marriage between the two caused controversy among countless netizens.
In people's eyes, Hu Die and Lu Chuan are two people from different worlds. One is a CCTV host, quiet and elegant; the other is a film director, talented but uninhibited. Coupled with the 12-year-old age difference, the marriage is filled with an incompatible tone from the inside out.
In the following years, the details of the two getting along were frequently on the hot search.
During Hu Die's pregnancy, Lu Chuan did not accompany her to a maternity check-up;
After Hu Die gave birth to the child, Lu Chuan flew abroad and left her alone to sit in confinement.
All of this seems to confirm people's expectations for this marriage.
But judging from the photos that Hu Die occasionally posted on Weibo, the full sense of happiness almost overflowed the screen.
In fact, the feelings of Hu Die and Lu Chuan are not dull, just low-key. The love between the two of them has always been talked about by friends in the circle.
After 7 years of marriage, Hu Di said: "Marriage is mutual trust and commitment, and this is the reason for this. ”
So, how can a marriage that has not been optimistic from the beginning last and be happy under the management of two people?
It all has to start with Hu Die.
01
Born in Hanzhong, Shaanxi Province in 1983, Hu Die moved to Xi'an with her parents at the age of 6.
At that time, Hu Di, in her own words, was "raised by her father as a son."
Once, when she didn't finish her homework, when her father checked, she lied and said that the teacher had not arranged it. I thought I could get through the confusion, but my father called the teacher overnight to ask for verification.
Hu Die's lies were immediately exposed, and her father, who usually loved her, severely criticized her: "Lying is evading responsibility!" If you can't take responsibility for yourself, you can't stand in this world! ”
His father's words are still deeply rooted in Hu Die's mind.
Every festive season, parents will call friends and relatives to hold a family party, each time hosted by Hu Die.
Under the influence of this atmosphere, Hu Di won all the hosts or speech competitions from elementary school to high school.
Flowers and applause made her understand that all feelings of happiness in life must be fought for by herself, not by the hands of others.
In 2001, Hu Di was successfully admitted to the Communication University of China. At that time, she was sweet-looking, talented, and well-deserved school flowers, and every time she opened the small door of the mailbox, a pile of love letters was like a torrent that broke the embankment, and "whoosh" gushed out.
However, Hu Die has not been in love for 4 years, and all the time is spent polishing her hosting skills or interning at a local TV station.
Before graduating from college, Hu Di received an invitation from Beijing Television, and at the same time, she was given the opportunity to guarantee research with the first place in the comprehensive evaluation.
In order to compete for talent, Beijing TELEVISION and schools have done everything in their power. As soon as Hu Die hung up the phone from Beijing Television, she received another call from her mentor, and similar scenes would happen to her four or five times a day.
In the end, Hu Di felt that she had been in school long enough, and only by going to a new environment could she better challenge herself.
So since 2005, Beijing Television has added what the audience calls "the most beautiful female host", and her "Live Beijing" has soared by 36% in just two months.
Soon after, Hu Di participated in the CCTV host competition and won the first place in the group in the preliminary round.
Behind the smooth sailing is the independent personality cultivated by Hu Die over the years, as well as the strength of the full confidence.
And just when her life was about to take a new step, a phone call threw her into a dilemma.
02
The CCTV Host Competition is the highest level of host competition in China, no matter who can stand out in this competition, they can push their hosting career to the top overnight.
However, hu di received a call from Beijing TELEVISION station in a good situation after the competition: "Hurry up and quit the competition, or you will resign!" ”
Once Hu Die wins the ranking in the competition, then she will definitely join CCTV. Instead of losing this excellent host at that time, it is better to turn the pressure of choice to Hu Die, and perhaps keep her.
Hu Di hesitated at that moment. If she resigns, it will not only put her previous stable career into ruin, but also mean that she will not have any source of income for the next six months.
Participating in the CCTV host competition, although it can give her a bigger stage, she only participated in the preliminary round, and the competition in the future is becoming more and more fierce, and how far she can go is completely unknown.
After thinking about it all night, Hu Die still submitted his resignation to Taili. She understands that a person's ability to achieve her own life is not how much she can achieve on the platform, but how far she can go after she leaves the platform.
After resigning, under the pressure of high prices, Butterfly had to move out of the original apartment. Her mother came to Beijing to see her and found her living in a dark, damp basement.
That night, the mother and daughter shared a bowl of beef noodles in a small shop, and before the noodles were finished, the mother's tears "ticked" into the noodle soup.
The hardships of life do not affect The grace of Hu Die, on the contrary, the determination to break the boat makes her bloom with more full strength.
Hu Die won the championship of the CCTV host competition with her impeccable performance, and then received an invitation from CCTV and stood on the stage that all the hosts dreamed of.
Stepping out of the dark and damp basement, Hu Di finally harvested the willow dark flowers. Her career stabilized, but her family was worried about her life's events.
03
Like all girls, as soon as Hu Die graduated, she was urged by her family to get married early. Especially when her mother saw her living alone in the basement in Beijing, she hoped to have someone to accompany and take care of her.
But Hu Di knows that the only people who can take care of her forever in this world are not her parents or boyfriends, only herself. The sense of security that countless women expect through marriage is essentially self-sufficient.
In order to gain a foothold in the fierce competition of CCTV, Hu Die took over a number of programs such as "Chaowen Tianxia" and "Asia Today", so she got up at 4 o'clock every day and rushed to the station in advance to prepare for live broadcasting.
After the end of the hosting work every day, Hu Di returned home to practice reading, and often did not rest until the early morning.
Life is full of ups and downs, and Hu Di has always lived as her own ferryman. The title of "most beautiful female host" of Beijing Television has finally gradually become "CCTV beauty host".
And the love that has been stuck in the urging of her relatives also comes at the right time at the moment of her self-achievement.
In 2014, 31-year-old Hu Di met Lu Chuan when she attended a gathering of friends.
For directing "Nanjing! Lu Chuan, who became famous in Nanjing, was questioned at the time because of the box office failure of "The King's Feast", and the grandmother who raised him died of illness at the same time. At the party with a happy atmosphere, Lu Chuan leaned alone on the balcony in the cold moon, trapped in a person's sadness and unable to extricate himself.
However, at the moment of inadvertently looking back, he saw the figure of Hu Di in the crowd and the gaze that was inadvertently cast, and the entire chest immediately became hot, and the other party's smile was engraved in his heart, becoming a warm memory of countless memories in the years to come.
Regarding love, "Intimacy" says: You have to keep looking, but don't be anxious, two souls that are compatible, there will always be a day of encounter.
When Lu Chuan was warmed by Hu Die's gaze, Hu Die, who had been single for 11 years since college, was also deeply fascinated by Lu Chuan's talent in the conversation between the glasses of water.
However, the name Qin Lan suddenly stood between the two of them.
It turned out that Lu Chuan was filming "Nanjing! When Nanjing", he was associated with actress Qin Lan. The relationship ended in 2013, and both spoke about it in interviews.
After Hu Die interacted with Lu Chuan, some people with ulterior motives dug out a long-hidden relationship and forcibly concocted an emotional dispute between Hu Die, Lu Chuan, and Qin Lan.
For a time, the rumor of "CCTV anchors interfering in other people's feelings" was rampant, and Lu Chuan had to pull Qin Lan together to clarify, which gradually calmed down the storm.
During this period, no matter how much pressure Hu Di was under, she always stood with Lu Chuan.
The friend asked her, "Aren't you afraid that he really failed you?" ”
Hu Di said: "I am not afraid of being let down by anyone, I am only afraid of being let down by myself." Love is when you think it is worth it, you can bravely step forward, and when you think it is not worth it, you can decisively leave. ”
04
Hu Di and Lu Chuan survived the storm together, and then held a wedding ceremony on the romantic Island of Hawaii. The wedding was low-key and simple, with the two only inviting their own relatives and friends, leaving more time for each other.
After getting married, they didn't have the glue-like paint that people imagined, but they were busy with their respective careers.
In order to direct the documentary "Born in China", Lu Chuan spent most of his time in the UK, and Hu Die also added programs such as "News 30 Minutes" and "24 Hours", and the schedule was very full every day.
Soon, Hu Die became pregnant, and the news that she was accompanied by her mother every time she did a maternity examination was also spread throughout the Internet, and everyone blamed Lu Chuan, believing that he was not considerate of his wife for his work.
But marriage is like this, outsiders see what is giving, and what each other sees is cherishing.
Lu Chuan was far away in England, and although he could not always accompany Hu Die, as long as conditions permitted, he would fly back to visit her every two weeks, even if the time of stay was not more than one day.
In the days when Hu Die was in labor, Lu Chuan suspended the editing work of the entire film and brought the camera team of the crew to her side to record the whole process of the birth of the child.
In the past, childbirth meant more pain for women, but Hu Die made up carefully, she said: "My husband has made so many movies, and today he is making a documentary for me alone." ”
In such a way, others can't see it, but Hu Die sees it in his eyes and always gives the other party understanding and tolerance.
Teacher Shen Yifei of Fudan University was once asked such a question by her daughter: "Mom, does Dad not like you?" Why didn't he send you flowers every Valentine's Day? ”
Shen Yifei replied:
"He didn't send me flowers, but he made me feel loved elsewhere. In every marriage, we get along with specific people, not specific patterns. ”
Yeah, we're always used to putting marriage into concrete templates, as if it's only when one partner does something to the other that they prove they love each other.
However, happiness is not a formula, and not all predetermined conditions can be solved after they have been fulfilled. Only when you choose what you want and can bear what you choose, can you find happiness that suits you.
Just like Hu Die and Lu Chuan, although their busy careers make them give up many happiness in the eyes of the world, they do not affect their romance in getting along bit by bit.
Someone once asked Hu Die: "Your husband is a director, your appearance conditions are so good, and you are versatile, have you ever wanted to act in the past?" ”
Hu Di shook her head and said, "I love hosting, and he also supports me to host, which is why I love it." Lu Chuan also said: "It is precisely because we are fighting for our respective causes, so we can always bring each other wonderful things that cannot be seen in their respective worlds." ”
There is no greatest happiness in this world than the fact that the people around you who love you want you to be what you want to be.
Hu Die and Lu Chuan, although the cause of struggle is different, they have always rushed to the same direction. Hand in hand with each other, cultivate the imperfect marriage in the eyes of others into the most perfect happiness in their own hearts.