preface
In 1966, 27-year-old Hu Yousong married Li Zongren, who was 48 years older than her.
The huge age difference has not affected their married life, and as the daughter of the well-known movie star Hu Die, Hu Yousong can be regarded as giving everything in this relationship.
Regarding Hu Yousong's performance, Hu Yousong's stepson Li Youlin said frankly: "I like Hu Yousong more than Guo Dejie, she is a member of our Li family." ”
Unfortunately, less than 4 years after marriage, Li Zongren died of illness, in the face of a short married life, in the face of the 48-year-old age difference, does Hu Yousong regret marrying Li Zongren?
From "Plum" to "Pine"
Before meeting Li Zongren, Hu Yousong was already a "well-known figure" in the mouth of the people, and the reason for this came from her mother Hu Die.
Hu Die, for the older generation, is not a very unfamiliar name, she has been interested in acting since she was a child, became a student of the Chinese Film School at the age of 16, and became engaged to fellow actor Lin Xuehuai after graduation.
Just when Hu Die thought that he had a happy family life, Lin Xuehuai caused the family business to fail due to his own reasons, and for the happiness of the rest of his life, Hu Die chose to sue the court to interrupt this wrong marriage.
Later, Hu Die met her future husband Pan Yousheng through the introduction of a friend.
Pan Yousheng is a responsible man, in order to solve the thorny incident encountered by the film company, Hu Die met Du Yuesheng, a well-known big man in Shanghai at that time, under the recommendation of the boss, Du Yuesheng showed a good impression of Hu Die at the reception.
In the face of Du Yuesheng's appreciation, Hu Die felt very embarrassed, and later it was because of Pan Yousheng's timely appearance that Hu Die got out of the predicament, Pan Yousheng's wit and bravery, so that Hu Die decided that he was a person who could pay for life.
Later, it turned out that Pan Yousheng did not disappoint Hu Die, and Hu Die did not look at the wrong person.
In this story of Hu Die and Pan Yousheng, there is also a small episode, that is, the appearance of Dai Li, but later Dai Li died in a plane crash, and the story of him and Hu Die ended here.
In 1949, Pan Yousheng died, Hu Die has been out of shadow for 10 years, Pan Yousheng's death has brought a lot of blow to Hu Die, she has lost her past happiness, lost her beautiful smile, and left only sadness and loneliness.
Faced with the current situation, Hu Die chose to retire, completely returned to the family, concentrated on raising her children, and her son later lived in Canada.
Hu Yousong is Hu Die's daughter living in the mainland.
Hu Yousong's original name was Hu Ruomei, and Hu Ruomei, who took her mother's surname, never knew who her biological father was, she only knew that she was born in Shanghai.
Regarding her biological father, Hu Ruomei has asked Hu Die many times, but no matter how Hu Ruomei asks, Hu Die has only one answer: "I don't know".
She has lived with Hu Die in Nanjing and Shanghai since she was a child, although she doesn't know who her biological father is, but Hu Ruomei has not lacked the love of her elders since she was a child.
Compared with her peers, she has the opportunity to choose beautiful clothes and the opportunity to ride in a car, for which Hu Ruomei has been more mature than her peers since she was a child, and her vision is wider than her peers.
As for Hu Die, Hu Ruomei said frankly: "I don't remember much about my mother, she has been busy filming, and suddenly my mother came back as soon as I opened my eyes, many times like this, I was very surprised, and then I got used to it." ”
From Hu Ruomei's words, it can be seen that she is dependent on Hu Die, she also wants to be like other children, and she also wants to have an ordinary childhood with her mother's care, but she has an actor mother, and the beautiful phenomenon is just imagination after all.
Hu Die is busy at work, but why did she later separate from her daughter in the north and south?
In order to allow her to recover as soon as possible, the doctor suggested that she send the child to live in the dry north for a period of time, Hu Die couldn't leave because of work, so she had to entrust the child to Zhang Zongchang's wife Shen Wenzhi and let her take her to live in the north for a period of time.
Shen Wenzhi is not a virtuous person, she is not good to Hu Ruomei. After Hu Die, who was in Hong Kong in 1951, learned of this, he came to Beijing and wanted to take his daughter to Hong Kong with him, but was opposed by Shen Wenzhi.
Later, Shen Wenzhi not only squandered the property left by Hu Die for his daughter, but also kicked her out of the house. After the founding of New China in 1949, Hu Ruomei had grown into a big girl, and she changed her name to Hu Yousong.
Compared with plum blossoms, she hopes that she is as resolute and upright as the pine and cypress, and she also hopes that she can have the perseverance to face any difficulties like the pine and cypress.
After graduating from middle school, she came to Beijing as a nurse in a hospital, in this hospital, she met the man she liked, she and he were both medical workers, but unfortunately they did not go to the end, the failed relationship made Hu Yousong grief-stricken, and even threatened to swear: "I will never get married!" ”
There is a saying that goes like this: "When you feel hopeless, it's actually a turning point, and when you feel very happy, maybe there will be a crisis." ”
Hu Yousong's emotional turnaround is a man named Li Zongren.
A happy life after a long absence
In 1965, before returning to the motherland, the acting president of the former national government, Li Zongren, had not had time to live a stable life, his wife died of illness, Li Zongren could return from United States, without the help of Premier Zhou, after learning that Li Zongren's wife died, Premier Zhou planned to reintroduce him, but unfortunately Li Zongren did not have a good feeling.
So, how did Li Zongren meet Hu Yousong?
That day, Li Zongren's secretary Cheng Siyuan received a call from a friend who had changed the script for Hu Die, and he told Cheng Siyuan that Hu Die's daughter Hu Yousong might be suitable for Li Zongren.
Soon, Hu Yousong's photos and materials were sent to Li Zongren.
What was Hu Yousong's first impression of Li Zongren?
She said: "I imagined that Li Zongren must be quite tall, but he is not tall, but he has a military temperament and speaks very loudly. ”
So what was Li Zongren's first impression of Hu Yousong?
Hu Yousong revealed: "He likes my appearance very much, so he is very happy to see me, he told Cheng Siyuan that I like big eyes, when eating, he has been serving me vegetables, I want to leave after eating, he is reluctant, I can see that he likes me very much." ”
Li Zongren's liking for Hu Yousong lasted for a long, long time.
In 1966, under the care of Premier Zhou, Li Zongren and Hu Yousong held a simple wedding.
Regarding this relationship, Li Zongren also bluntly said: "The difference between us is 48 years, I didn't expect her to marry me." ”
In fact, Hu Yousong also has her own considerations for marriage, she knows Li Zongren's social status, and being with Li Zongren means that her future is guaranteed, and with Li Zongren, she doesn't have to work in the hospital, and more importantly, she can get rid of Shen Wenzhi completely.
When Hu Yousong was 27 years old, he married 76-year-old Li Zongren as he wished.
Because there is too much age difference between the two of them, there are always bad voices from the outside world, in the face of doubts from the outside world, Hu Yousong chose to face it calmly, when she came to the Li family mansion, first of all, he publicly stated to the staff around Mr. Li Zongren: "I will take care of him, the keys and passbooks don't care, these things, you just look at them." ”
That's what Hu Yousong said, and that's what he did.
She herself is a medical student, so she is very experienced in taking care of people, she will personally cook for Li Zongren to cook, learned that Li Zongren likes to eat dumplings, she asked the master to learn how to adjust the dumpling filling, learned that he likes to eat fried dumpling skin, Hu Yousong will wrap more every time and freeze it in the refrigerator for him to eat next time.
She cares about him, and he cares about her.
After getting married, Li Zongren sent a group photo of the husband and wife to relatives and friends at home and abroad, and wrote "This is my wife Hu Yousong" on the reverse side of each photo.
The delicate part of Li Zongren is also reflected in his daily life with Hu Yousong.
Li Zongren has always had a habit of drinking one or two glasses of warm water in the middle of the night, in order not to disturb Hu Yousong, who was sleeping, he always deliberately took off his shoes and got out of bed to walk, even in the cold winter, Li Zongren is the same.
Hu Yousong said: "Many of Mr. Li's relatives live abroad, and as his wife, I naturally have the responsibility to take good care of him and take care of him, and I have no regrets." ”
Hu Yousong's sincerity also touched Li Zongren's children, especially the eldest son Li Youling, as Hu Yousong's stepson, he has always maintained a good relationship with Hu Yousong.
Li Youlin is a very filial child, he once had an estrangement with Li Zongren's previous wife Guo Dejie because of his mother, and it can even be said that he looks down on Guo Dejie very much.
Guo Dejie is a very selfish person, tradition, family etiquette, and generational relationships seem to be non-existent in her eyes, so when facing Li Youlin's mother Li Xiuwen, she always shows a posture of no one in her eyes, and her attitude makes Li Youlin feel angry, not to mention, it is also because of Guo Dejie's appearance that his mother fell into loneliness.
Although the days when their mother and son were under the same roof as Guo Dejie were only a few years, all this also left a lot of trauma on Li Youlin's heart.
When he saw that his father would send his living expenses every month, and sometimes he could also see that his father left more living expenses for his mother, but at this moment, Li Youlin already knew that money could not buy a warm life.
It can be seen that Guo Dejie's existence left a childhood shadow on Li Youlin, and he couldn't treat her as a family.
But for his stepmother Hu Yousong, Li Youlin has a different attitude.
When Hu Yousong married his father, he was already a mature adult, he understood the loneliness in his father's heart, and he also knew that his father needed someone to accompany him, and Hu Yousong took care of his father in his eyes, through the daily bits and pieces, Li Youlin also realized that Hu Yousong was a simple and good person, in this regard, he bluntly said: "My father's last days were taken care of by her, I thank her, she is our Li family." ”
In the eyes of ordinary people, Hu Yousong and Li Zongren are a very incompatible couple, but living behind closed doors, only they know the ups and downs.
Hu Yousong and Li Zongren have not been together for a long time, and if you calculate carefully, their married life lasted less than 4 years.
At the beginning of 1969, Li Zongren died of illness, and when Li Zongren died, Hu Yousong was only in his 30s.
For Hu Yousong, the years with Li Zongren were precisely the easiest period of her life, after Li Zongren's death, Hu Yousong also confided: "With Li Zongren, I have never regretted it, in those years, I really felt that he really loved me, and he was also my ideal husband." ”
It can be seen that as Hu Die's daughter, in the emotional part, Hu Yousong did follow his mother, sober and knew what he really wanted.
After Li Zongren's death, Hu Yousong treasured the relics left by Li Zongren, which belonged to the memories between them, the thrifty Hu Yousong always maintained a thrifty and honest style of life, Even in the most difficult time of life, she never thought of selling these things.
From 1969 to 1982, Hu Yousong successively handed over the inheritance and relics left by Li Zongren to the state treasury. Back then, under the care of Premier Zhou, she met Li Zongren, who loved her, and also had a warm time of her own, although it was short, but it was beautiful enough, and Li Zongren was with her, for Hu Yousong, it may be destined by God.