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I have seen such a question on Zhihu: Will you deceive your other half?
Some people say: If it is a white lie, it may be said;
Some people say: I think it is more terrible to be debunked than to be deceived;
Some people also said: People who come here faithfully warn you not to do something that some are not, and there is nothing that the old husband and wife cannot say.
The protagonist of the recent hit drama "I Am Yu Huanshui", Yu Huanshui, is a person who likes to lie to his other half, not only to his wife, but also to leaders and others.
Forgot to buy milk for his son in the morning, lied to his wife that the supermarket sold out;
Because I was late for work to buy milk, I was bumped into on the way to the boss, and I was eager to help the uncle;
Late to my father-in-law's and mother-in-law's house, lying that the company was engaged in a fraternity party, but I didn't know that my wife had already called her company;
In order to save face in front of his father-in-law's family, he lied about bringing two thousand bottles of red wine, which was uncovered on the spot.
Whether it's a small matter in life, a work unit, or a family with his family, his lies to everyone are open.500.
And his wife Gan Hong's emotions also completely exploded after one of his lies, she said:
"Won't you lie and die?" Don't you lie and get angry? Does it make sense for you to lie to me like that? ”
After the divorce, Yu Huanshui explained the reason why he kept lying: "I've been lying to you all these years, and I know that men are annoying like this. I want to make the image a little more positive in your heart. ”
Just to make his image in his wife's heart better, so he lied one sentence after another. The typical death is to face the guilt.
Yu Huanshui only thought of hoping that his image could be better, but he did not expect that the marriage that had been in a lie would really be very tired.
Lying is the biggest taboo in marriage.
—02—
Some people want to use cheating to make marriages a little more decent, and some people want to cheat with cheating.
Friend Xiao Shen and her husband have been married for 8 years, have a five-year-old son who is cute and loving, and she has always said that her life is very happy now, until she found an abnormality.
When Xiao Shen took his mobile phone to transfer money to himself, he inadvertently turned over his transfer records, and there were several ambiguous records of 520 and 1314.
Some things are like this, and when you look at it with your heart, you will find that it is all flaws.
When Xiao Shen questioned him, he said:
"I don't want to hurt you, I lied to you because I didn't want you to break down. Didn't you find out that you were also very happy and happy before? Is this life bad? Do you have to make everything so ugly? ”
Packaging the matter of cheating and cheating so grandly, under the guise of being good for you, it hurts you deeply.
The so-called deception is like a knife fiercely piercing Xiao Shen's heart.
I've even heard a girl say:
"I wasn't angry that he lied to me, but I felt sad. If you really want to lie to me, can you lie for the rest of your life? Not cheated by the kind I found. ”
Lies cannot accompany you for a lifetime.
Liars are thin-hearted, and they love to compile one short-term good future after another, and then turn around and go to others.
Whoever can tell a lie for a lifetime is a dreamer.
—03—
In the book "Throwing Sound", it is written:
"Love can be talked about without life, but marriage is not, marriage is life."
There aren't so many touching moments in life. In most cases, it is a compromise between two people in the face of reality, accepting each other's shortcomings and completing each other's existence. ”
What is marriage?
It was we who thought about it for a long time and finally decided to spend a lifetime with each other;
It is health or illness, wealth or poverty that says to be together forever;
It is no longer to separate each other, but to continue to walk as one with honor and disgrace;
It is my willingness to accept everything from you, and I hope that you can embrace all of me.
From the moment they entered the marriage, I believe that the girls understood that the person in front of them would not be perfect, but most people still gladly accepted it, because this is marriage, this is love, this is life.
No one can be perfect in a marriage, and no one can live without flaws. But two imperfect people can also have a happy life.
I accept the occasional fragility of your one-meter-eight big man, and you also feel my tears of one meter six small;
I accept your small shortcomings of not dividing grains and not being able to cook, and you are also willing to rush to wash the dishes after eating, and the division of labor is clear;
I accept that you will be angry, that you will curse people's violent temper, and you will not accuse me of not speaking when I am angry.
We are all ordinary people, we all have countless shortcomings, but we are a pair made in heaven and earth, the one that is missing in each other's lives.
There is no one in this world who is more suitable than us, and no one loves each other more than we do, so it is good.
If we have to live by deception, what will we use to embrace love?
—04—
There has never been a shortage of liars in this world, and there have always been many deceived people in this world. But even if the world is cold and thin, and people's hearts are unpredictable, we are still doing our best to love.
We don't lack love, we lack sincerity. Sincerity in love, sincerity in marriage.
We should all be responsible for marriage, serious about life, refuse to cheat, and then love well.
Don't fall in love with a lying man, don't be a victim of a lie.
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