"My love for little love has not changed since the first day of acquaintance." On the evening of March 4, Fukuhara's love storm ended in a sentence of love from her husband.
The dynamic is accompanied by a video, a family of 5 celebrating the birthday of Fukuhara's mother, the children running happily, the old man wearing red clothes smiling, everything is like it never happened.
But when I typed three words into Ai Fukuhara in the search engine, "did she cheat" and "did the man have verbal violence" or like a barb that was uplifted for no reason, scratching people and hurting.
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01
Ai Fukuhara,
Some people describe her as japan as a panda to China.
30 years ago, Japan's Mt. Fuji TV focused on this girl, a girl who embarked on a table tennis journey at the age of 3.
It was 24 years until she was 28 years old and married.
A total of 3,000 videotapes were edited into the documentary "Ai Fukuhara: A Quarter Century Under the Lens", in which the image of Xiao Ai is warm and sticky, and when he looks at it, he laughs out loud.
She would reach the microphone and make a long "ah" sound to tease the staff present; When the mother asks to shake hands with the opponent, the twisted grip immediately rushes into the mother's arms, "Why shake hands?" ”； Then she showed her palm to the camera and wrote a row of small words, which was the agreement between her and her mother before the game to "concentrate, timing"; But when the real game was lost, she changed back to the little girl and ran to her mother's side crying;
The appearance of losing the face, the stubbornness of crying and playing, the stupid appearance of running away from Mickey's canvas shoes after winning, I don't know how many people's hearts are burned...
Fukuhara love, so warm, so hard, and so sincere girl.
It's the girls we watched grow up.
It is also the countless girls around who have been raised by their parents with love.
How, suddenly, is not happy?
02
Afternoon of October 21, 2018
"I, Ai Fukuhara, am retiring."
A few words of thanks, a few words of thought, she Weibo official announcement, decided to devote herself to the family wholeheartedly.
A message in the highlight position under the dynamic, and then look at the still tearful eyes, "Today's love sauce is not allowed to be sad, we all support you." ”
"With a strong sense of enterprise, what is it like to choose to be a full-time wife?"
"I'm so anxious that I can't sleep all night."
That is the person who really understands her, will understand her choice, from then on there is no "porcelain doll" in the Japanese table tennis world, she will be the mother of a boy and a girl.
And the lover of the clever Jiang Handsome Brother she called.
In 2018, the variety reality show "Happiness Trio" was popular, Xiao Ai really married the man who would spoil her, the two interacted sweetly, and also made a small agreement to kiss enough 100 kisses.
But no one knows, when the plot is red, a message from a simple person is buried in thousands of blessings: "The good of the husband and wife, many of them are acted, Fukuhara Ai is interpreted for Jiang Hongjie to see, Jiang Hongjie is interpreted for the audience to see." ”
Later, the dentist incident in 2019 was exposed by insiders, Jiang did not allow Xiao Ai to see the dentist wear gorgeous clothes, after the simple clothes were changed, it was even more disdainful after seeing the dentist to "open his mouth, like a tease, is a b." ”
"Most of the time, marriage doesn't collapse from blushing, it starts to deteriorate from a meal, a good night, a dress, an early rise.
Boredom, impatience, loss of confidence, insecurity, these negative feelings, from small moments of life, subtly grow, and eventually dominate the direction of marriage. ”
Have the feelings changed, or has the essence of men been exposed, or that beauty has always been mannerism, they are just ordinary couples, heading towards the destiny of marriage?
All I know is that Xiao Ai's ring is no longer worn, and the happy girl in Tang Yuanyuan's mouth who is "much simpler than children of the same age, and every day except for training is play" is gone.
03
Li Yinhe once lamented that the marriage system would die out sooner or later.
Elaborated from sociology, physiology, economics.
Her friend Meow Ji was also helpless to "the essence of marriage: there is no cheating partner." ”
The opening paragraph uses the passage from "I Like Life As It Is":
Sex is physical life, following the principle of pleasure. Love is the spiritual life, following ideal principles. Marriage is social life, following the principles of reality. These are three completely different things. The difficulty of marriage lies in how to unify the three in the same opposite sex, not to let the temptations and pleasures that are accustomed to paralysis, and not to let trivial reality damage the passion and ideal of love. The difficulty of marriage is that marriage is a social organization that by nature demands stability, but sex, which is its natural basis, is naturally inclined to trade.
It's always hard to run a good marriage, and I believe in that conclusion.
It also makes me envious of the story of the plain as a beautiful dress, the ordinary men and women who do not abandon each other in the chaotic world.
In her later years, Mikoto suffered from Alzheimer's disease, and Rao Pingru specially made a small painting of the story of herself and her lover and compiled it in the book "Pingru Meishou: The Story of the Two of Us".
There is a detail in the book, Meitang, who is very ill, wants to eat horseshoe cake, and Pingru rode a bicycle for dozens of minutes to buy the cake.
After buying it back, Meitang stopped eating it.
Pingru writes in the book:
"I was eighty-seven years old at the time, and when my children learned of this, they all blamed me for not riding out at night, knowing that my mother was confused. But I always couldn't get used to what she told me to do, and I couldn't rely on her. ”
As long as you think, even if you forget, I just want to satisfy you, lingering true feelings overflowing with words.
Of course, only a small detail describes the half life that the two have walked through is still too shallow, the war is as if caught, Meitang alone carries the burden of raising 5 children, and dozens of pounds of cement bite their teeth and their backs are a few years;
Ping is like "labor reform", when the most bitter still does not forget to hold the book and read at night, quite like the taste of self-sustainability in "The Shawshank Redemption".
It also confirms the interpretation of the best marriage in Yang Lan's mouth: In addition to love, there must be a righteous spirit of liver and gallbladder, a tacit understanding of not abandoning, and an unforgettable kindness.
04
Looking at the present,
Without war, without suffering, people could not get any closer, and no matter how hard they tried, there was nothing they could do.
Sometimes, I even think that if marriage is really open to a choice that everyone will not hesitate and struggle with, what kind of person is suitable.
Or what kind of person is definitely not suitable for marriage.
The first thing that came to my mind was the recent hot topic on Weibo:
#吸渣体质的女生有什么特点? # A strong sense of giving, a weak sense of giving.
Excessive paying does not ask for returns, excessive inferiority feels that they are not worthy of each other, and if they receive a little good, they will double their return.
"Admittedly, how many people will regard the good that can be obtained without paying, and how many people will regard it as a treasure?"
Finally, about small love, too sensible to not be valued, or trivial became the cinnabar mole...
Rifts have been made, so apologize if you can, if necessary.
Hard work, trying to love people, but not yet cherished their own
Hard work, poured everything out, but forgot to leave something for yourself...