Wen | a good pregnant sister
With the full opening of the national two-child and three-child policy, more and more elderly women have joined the team of post-birth. Having children is a happy thing, but it must be at the right age to do it, too early and too late. Especially women don't have children after 40 years old, and the bitterness may be far greater than the sweetness.
A distant relative of mine, both of whom were public servants when they were young, were limited by the family planning policy and had only one only child by their side. Later, after the opening of the two-child policy, the two sons are people in their forties, the eldest daughter is also in college, the two are a heart to fight for a son, the result is also a wish, the second child is really a son, the two are happy.
But the younger son is weak and sick, three days two ends to the hospital, and the two sons because the child suddenly got a lot older, and then the child's father died of a car accident due to fatigue driving, the family collapsed at once, the child's mother took the young son alone, the daughter because the parents did not listen to the advice to give birth to a second child, and the family is not very close. Watching this family become what it is now is quite regrettable. People's heartfelt words: women should not have children after the age of 40, which is really not alarmist.
There is a problem with the quality of the child
We all know that the quality of eggs and jingzi deteriorates with age. The older a woman is, the worse the egg quality. The best age group for female egg quality is between 25-35 years old, and after the age of 35, the egg quality is plummeting. Women after the age of 35 are also known as advanced maternal age, generally do not recommend having another child, even if you have a child, there are more precautions and more times during the obstetric examination.
At the age of 40, I really don't want to have any more children. The quality of the egg is reduced, the chance of miscarriage of fetal malformations is greatly increased, and pregnancy is more likely to suffer from various pregnancy syndromes. Moreover, the fetus is born, which may be born in the mother's womb, weak and sickly, and have poor physical fitness. The elderly mothers have limited energy and physical strength, coupled with the frail and sick children from a young age, the pressure and worry can be imagined.
Old age is not necessarily good for children
Having children in old age can be a good thing for many parents. More than half a hundred years old, you can still have children, not only a symbol of your own ability, but also bring fresh vitality and vitality to the family, and inject fresh blood into the family. Parents also feel motivated and energized.
But as children grow older, parents get older. Parents are becoming more and more incompetent in their children's education and growth, the age difference between parents and children is too large, the generation gap is too large, it is difficult to achieve effective communication and communication, and the relationship between the two is difficult to maintain health and intimacy. And many parents who have children in the old age are too spoiled by their children, and they are spoiled from an early age, and it is easy to get used to their children being lawless, which eventually leads to big mistakes.
The most important thing is that by the time your child goes to college, or when he or she has just started a family, his parents may have been nearing the end of their lives or left earlier. And this time period is when children need the help of their parents, so that they can gain a firm foothold in society faster and better, and let their small families run better. But the parents who have children in old age at this time are already old and have limited ability, and they cannot provide much help to their children. Even some parents are plagued by diseases and need their children to take care of and support, resulting in children who have just entered the society and have not yet established a foothold, they have to support their parents, and the pressure on their children is even greater. Not to mention, the years when they started a family were difficult times, and their parents could not provide any help, and their children would live harder than other children.
So the child's kind of thing is still done when he is young, and he works harder when he is young, which is good for the child and the family.
Do you have an elderly mother around you? 】
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