No one stood with me at dusk, and no one asked me if the porridge was warm.
No one turned off the lights with me, and no one shared my book for half a lifetime.
No one accompanied me late at night, and no one shared the wine with me.
No one wiped my tears of lovesickness, and no one dreamed of me and the dust of the past.
No one accompanied me to Gu Xingchen, no one woke me up, my tea was cold.
No one listened to my heart, no one explained my dreams.
No one held me in tears, and no one worried about me walking alone.
Looking back at the place where it had always been, no one was waiting in the dim light.
This passage comes from the Autobiographical Essay "Six Records of Fusheng" written by Shen Fu, a Changzhou man of the Qing Dynasty, in the thirteenth year of Jiaqing (1808), which means that no one enjoys the dusk scenery with me, and no one asks me if the porridge is warm. The text describes himself as very lonely and sad because he did not have a lover.
For the vast majority of people living in this world, they are going to get married, and the premise of marriage must have a marriage partner, and now the problem of mate selection has become a serious social problem. It is difficult to choose a mate, it is difficult to choose a mate, it is difficult to go to the sky, although it is a bit exaggerated, but it at least reflects part of the reality.
At present, In China, from the perspective of population structure alone, the male population is close to 40 million more than that of women, more men and fewer women, single women have undoubtedly become fragrant, and many single men want to find the object of their choice, stand out from competitors, must use all their strengths, fully reflect their advantages, so that there are more opportunities.
Is it really that hard to find someone?
Friend Lao Wang has a son Xiao Wang, Xiao Wang is 35 years old this year, the appearance is average, the work is also average, Lao Wang's family situation is only ordinary working class, according to the current mate selection conditions, Xiao Wang belongs to the "difficult household", but what is surprising is that the girls that Xiao Wang has befriend belong to the category of beautiful women, and these girls also have their own jobs and are very independent.
A few days ago Lao Wang told me that the son was going to get married, Fengzi got married, originally the son still wanted to wait two years to get married, the girlfriend said that if he did not marry again, the child would be born, and the mother's family would not be able to say it at that time.
According to Lao Wang, everything about his son's wedding was from Jane, and the daughter-in-law looked at her son's heart well, and as for the car and house gold and silver jewelry, the daughter-in-law said that she would earn money and buy it later. Speaking of this, Lao Wang's face showed a smile.
I asked Xiao Wang the secret of finding a girlfriend, and Xiao Wang said: "Either there is "money" or "sweet heart", it is not difficult to find a partner! ”
There is a saying that money is not omnipotent, but no money is impossible, food, clothing, housing and transportation need to spend money, school and medical treatment need to spend money, people also need to spend money, as long as it is a home life, leaving money is simply impossible.
We don't over-whitewash the importance of money, but in today's world, money often measures a person's worth. Mr. Cao Dewang, a famous entrepreneur in China, is often talked about, although he is not the richest person in the world, but his tens of billions of charitable donations are awe-inspiring, he has created tens of billions of taxes for the country, and his business has supported tens of thousands of employees.
Some people say that the deceased academician Yuan Longping has no money, but he has no value? The value of Academician Yuan Longping can be fully reflected in money, but Academician Yuan Longping gave up, and it is said that there are hundreds of billions.
If people want to survive, they must first meet the needs of food and clothing, materially they can live a well-being, and having money can of course guarantee material requirements.
I have to say that some women in the current society hope that the man has a certain economic foundation, get married and live a "noblewoman" life, some people cover the wind and rain, and they do not have to struggle hard. There is nothing wrong with such a view, after all, everyone has their own concept of life.
A single man with a financial foundation, either from a wealthy family or has worked hard to obtain it himself, can meet the material needs of the other party in any case.
Zhu Xiaowei, the son of Coat Brother Zhu Yawen, if it were not for Brother Dayi's fame and economy, would the beautiful Chen Yanan look up to Zhu Xiaowei? This is a bloody social reality, and none of us should escape it.
Here, we are not exaggerating the role of money, but in the current materialistic society, people's concept of mate selection has undergone great changes, some people pursue materialism, some people pursue appearance, some people pursue academic qualifications, some people pursue three views, since some people pursue material, as long as you meet the conditions, marriage is naturally not a problem.
The so-called sweet heart is to please the other party, to be a "heart-walking" person, how to please the other party?
A humorous and funny single man, I believe that almost all single women will lose their defenses, he will think about what you think, he will think about you, when you are happy, he will share your happiness, when you are sad and depressed, he will silently stay by your side and share your sorrows and unhappiness.
Verbal expression does not cost anything, as long as there is a loving heart, boldly say your love, boldly share your happiness with her, boldly praise her beauty.
Many single male youth, in the face of the opposite sex, unwilling to express, and even lazy to open their mouths, they expect each other to understand themselves, expect each other to enter their hearts, just imagine, such a chance of success can be greater?
In addition to the expression of language, the more important thing is action, which is the unity of knowledge and action. Action is not about making you spend a lot of money, but about expressing your love for the other person.
The aforementioned old king's son Xiao Wang, he is a warm man, is a master who relies on subtle actions to hold the beauty of the return, passing by the flower shop, Xiao Wang does not hesitate to buy a bouquet of flowers to give to his girlfriend, on rainy days, Xiao Wang waited early at the door of his girlfriend's company, just to send an umbrella, and he got a heavy cold because of the heavy rain. From time to time, Xiao Wang's girlfriend will receive all kinds of small gifts that are very cute girls like in the company, and whenever she opens the gift, she will cast envious eyes around her.
Xiao Wang's girlfriend said that she knew that Xiao Wang had no money, but Xiao Wang was a very kind, warm, happy, and worried person, how could I give up such a good person?
Sweet heart, in fact, there is not much cost, as long as you are sincere, as long as you have love, as long as you dare to express, as long as you put into action.
"Fish and bear paws can not have both", most single men and women know this truth, so some people value money, some people value character, if you have money, of course, you have the capital to dominate, after all, money reflects the value of the individual to some extent. If you don't have the money, you can fully exude your personality charm and attract people you like.
All in all, for single male friends, either have "money" or "sweet heart", it is not difficult to find a partner!