In 2004, at the "Phoebe Ordinary" concert in Beijing, Faye Wong once said: If one day I stop singing, I hope everyone will forget me.
However, over the years, she has never been forgotten.
Although she has retired in recent years, only occasionally releasing a new song, it has attracted great attention every time.
She was most recently seen singing the song "Bay" at this year's Mid-Autumn Festival Gala in the Greater Bay Area. Faye Wong, who is over 50 years old, her eyes are still clear and bright, and her voice is still ethereal and long.
It was also at this party that Faye Wong and Nicholas Tse shared the stage for the first time after many years of reunion, which attracted countless people's curiosity about their emotional life. Most people thought they would get married again, and even rumors that Faye Wong had a baby for Tse had been circulated many times.
After the party, the Hong Kong media asked Nicholas Tse, "Have you ever thought about when you will get married?" Nicholas Tse's answer was "I won't get married."
Nicholas Tse and Faye Wong: Will not get married
This is beyond the expectations of many people. Two people who have missed and reunited, should not the end of love be marriage?
After my shock, I admired their sobriety and transparency.
After experiencing the ups and downs of life, you can still have love, but you don't have to have marriage, probably they have reached middle age, the most suitable choice.
This decision, from the life experience of Faye Wong and Nicholas Tse, actually has a trace to follow.
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Faye Wong was born in 1969 in a courtyard house in Beijing to a coal engineer and a soprano from a coal mine literary troupe.
Faye Wong showed a talent for singing since she was a child, entering the CCTV Galaxy Children's Art Troupe in middle school, singing "The Sea, Hometown" and "Song of the Little Lark" on CCTV at the age of 14, and publishing her first album "The Wind Comes From There" at the age of 16.
First album
And Faye Wong's mother did not agree with her to take the road of singing, because her mother, as a singing actor, understood how difficult it was to break out of a world by singing, and did not want Faye Wong to go her own way again.
However, Faye Wong, who truly loved singing, did not give up because of her mother's strict discipline.
In 1987, Faye Wong gave up her admission to the Biology Department of Xiamen University and followed her father to Hong Kong to study vocal music under Dai Sicong, who is known as the godfather of music.
Becoming a student at Xiamen University or a singer means two completely different lives. In 1987, college students meant a bright future and a stable life, while singers meant a life of uncertainty and turmoil.
Faye Wong chose the latter.
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In those days, mainlanders were looked down upon by Hong Kongers. For example, Liu Jialing, a Suzhou woman from Jiangnan Water Town, went to Hong Kong to make a living, and was nicknamed "Beigu" by the Hong Kong media.
When Faye Wong first arrived in Hong Kong, the first problem she faced was the language barrier. Hong Kong speaks Cantonese, and Faye Wong has to practice Cantonese pronunciation with the TV set every day.
In the 1990s, Hong Kong was at the peak of popular music, but if you want to make a name for yourself, you need strength and opportunity.
In 1989, Faye Wong released her first album "Wang Jingwen", but the response was soon mediocre, and in desperation, Faye Wong left Hong Kong to study in the United States.
When she returned to Hong Kong again, her fourth album "Coming Home" brought an unprecedented sensation, and Faye Wong began to embark on the peak of her career and won many awards.
When Faye Wong received the Golden Melody Award for Best Female Singer, there was a classic quote:
I also give full affirmation to the affirmation given to me by the judges of the Golden Melody Award
At that time, her annoyance was "too red".
After Faye Wong became popular, the Hong Kong media asked her about her views on love and the standards for future boyfriends. She replied: Mainly to see if there is a feeling, maybe I met a plumber in the elevator and fell in love.
The reporter asked again, can you describe the appearance of your future boyfriend? She said in a mysterious and happy tone, "There are no special conditions." However, it is important to understand Chinese. Also, I like people with thin eyes and single eyelids, which is a very ordinary northerner.
This northerner with thin eyes and single eyelids is Dou Wei.
At that time, Dou Wei was the lead singer of the Black Panther rock band, talented, untamed, and known as a musical talent.
In order to be with Dou Wei, Faye Wong flew back to Beijing from Hong Kong when she had time, and lived with Dou Wei in a dilapidated hutong in Beijing, where she was photographed by reporters wearing slippers to go to public toilets. This love, at that time, can be described as vigorous.
However, this love is not optimistic.
Dou Wei's attitude has always been wavering, in essence, he did not love Faye Wong so much.
Until Fengzi got married, Dou Wei was still saying: Actually, I am not a good choice for you, and you should think clearly about whether to marry me or not.
In many loves, the efforts of two people are not equal, obviously, Faye Wong loves the one who loves more.
But as Faye Wong wrote in the song "Obsessed with No Regrets":
Even if you are tired, even if you are tired, you can only cling to it without regret.
This is Faye Wong's concept of love, love is love, follow the heart, do not regret.
However, this moth-fighting love came to an end soon after the birth of her daughter Dou Jingtong.
Faye Wong has a song called "The Way Out" with her own lyrics, and the lyrics at the beginning are:
I heard that 1999 was the end of the world, and when that time came, we must get married and have children
In 1999, Faye Wong and Dou Wei divorced.
03
In 2000, Nicholas Tse was just 20 years old. At the concert at the Hung Hom Stadium in Hong Kong, he said in front of many fans: "When I was 25 years old, I must marry Faye Wong. ”
At that time, Faye Wong was 31 years old, and the 11-year-old age difference between the sister and brother fell in love, and their hand-in-hand photos caused a huge sensation.
The first photo of Faye Wong and Nicholas Tse holding hands
As Faye Wong sang in "Will Love":
Our love is like a war, we have not shed blood but have been sacrificed.
Tse Ting Feng's goddess from childhood to adulthood is Faye Wong. At the age of 15, he wrote down his favorite female singer on his notes, that is, Faye Wong.
When you're young, who doesn't yearn for love? Yearning for a fiery innocent relationship and a happy family.
The love of young people is the most enthusiastic, but because of their uncertain hearts, it is difficult to last.
So, love also needs timing. Meet the right person at the right time to achieve a love. If you meet the right person at the wrong time, you can only miss it.
Without waiting for Nicholas Tse to turn 25, they broke up completely in the middle of a split.
Indeed it is
Get together and leave, sometimes, nothing will last forever
04
After the breakup, Faye Wong met Li Yapeng.
The two men that Faye Wong loved: Dou Wei and Xie Tingfeng, are very musically talented, talented, personality, and untamed personality, and Faye Wong also belongs to this type of person.
Li Yapeng is a popular student who has become popular in the mainland by relying on film and television dramas, but after becoming popular, he turned to business. He has said more than once in public that he is a traditional man with the greatest desire to become a successful businessman.
Obviously, Li Yapeng and Faye Wong are not the same kind of people.
Perhaps li Yapeng's depiction of the married life for Faye Wong is very warm, in 2005, Faye Wong and Li Yapeng got married.
In 2012, Li Yapeng and Faye Wong were interviewed in "Interview with Yang Lan". Li Yapeng said that before getting married, the family bought a full set of kitchen utensils, from small pots to large pots. Faye Wong said that she was thinking about cooking, but now it is all decoration.
Therefore, Faye Wong really thought of being a housewife who washed her hands and made soup, and after all, she could be a good singer, but it was difficult to be a good housewife.
Through the "Interview with Yang Lan", many people also feel that Li Yapeng and Faye Wong are "not all the way".
When Yang Lan asked Li Yapeng which song Faye Wong liked the most, Li Yapeng thought about it for half a day, and finally said that it was "Legend", and Faye Wong's expression was sarcastic.
Couples who do not have common hobbies and have huge differences in personality and concepts are difficult to last.
In 2013, Faye Wong suddenly posted:
In this life, the relationship between husband and wife is as far as this. I'm okay, and you take care of yourself
Li Yapeng also responded:
I want a family, but you are destined to be a legend
Faye Wong once said that she believes in love, but she also does not think that love is long-lasting, when love comes, she will not hesitate to enjoy love, when love is no longer, she will turn around and say goodbye to the past.
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Ni Ping once asked the writer Haiyan a question: "You seem to write love stories of young people, why don't you write about the love of middle-aged people?" ”
Haiyan answered:
I don't like to write middle-aged love stories, and I always feel that middle-aged people's love is dirty
Many people feel that only young people can have love, and the life of middle-aged people should only be left with the two things of making money and raising children, and even x life is not worthy of it.
This is also the real life state of many middle-aged people.
And Faye Wong and Nicholas Tse let us see another possibility for middle-aged people: there can be love, but there is no need for marriage.
Faye Wong and Nicholas Tse, who have experienced marriage, childbirth and divorce, got back together in 2014.
Who says middle-aged people's love is dirty? They, like the young men, walked together, their hands clasped tightly. Skiing together, going home together, they also have the right to enjoy love.
Faye Wong put her hand in Xie Tingfeng's pocket
It is still an age gap of 11 years, but the middle-aged Nicholas Tse and Faye Wong are incomparably compatible in terms of hobbies, personality, and three views.
But after experiencing the betrayal of marriage and witnessing excessive integration, marriage is no longer a must, but only an option.
Marriage has never been just a matter of two people, but a matter of two families.
For young people, marriage also has to go through the integration of both families, not to mention the middle-aged people who have children behind them.
Nicholas Tse said that when he entered the age of 40, he saw a lot of things, a lot of things could be put down, and after life entered the age of 40, the changes were too big, many things were unpredictable, and he liked his current state.
No matter what age, not blindly marrying, is the greatest responsibility for yourself.
As middle-aged people, we can still believe in love, but love has nothing to do with marriage.