"Blue scars" are more terrible than violence: parents tune into silent mode, babies are slowly forced into desperate situations "Blue scars" are more terrible than violence: parents tune into silent mode, babies are slowly forced into desperate situations "Blue scars" are more terrible than violence: parents tune into silent mode, babies are slowly forced into a desperate situation with cold violence to teach children is the incompetence of parents! The consequences of cold violence against children will be catastrophic.

If your child made a mistake when you were in a bad mood and you didn't have the patience to communicate, what solution would you choose?

Why is "blue scars" more terrible than violence? What does "blue scar" mean? Below I would like to share with you a French animated short film "Scars Club":

The boy met a group of friends who had similar "marks" to him, although the marks on their bodies were different, the little boy especially liked the "marks" on his body, which were blue like stars, but in fact, the four children in the short film were children who had suffered violence, and these "marks" were the scars on their bodies.

He didn't understand why others looked at him strangely, and one day the little boy had a disagreement with three other friends, who thought that the reddish-purple scars on their bodies were ugly. Only the little boy with the blue scar was very optimistic, thinking that it was a star that had quietly come in the night. But in his heart, he had begun to realize the difference between these "stars".

The boy and his friends broke up and returned home, still watching TV. There was nothing in the house except the sound of tv. He walked up to his mother and asked her why his injuries were different from the others.

Mom ignored the little boy. Impatiently, he directly turned up the volume of the TV and signaled the child not to speak again. The little boy who didn't get a response pulled on his mother's clothes and shouted "Mom" over and over again, but his mother pushed him away!

The little boy collapsed to the ground, and all the scars turned into dots of light and engulfed him. It wasn't until that moment that the boy realized why the wounds on his body were different from the others. The other children were all fuchsia after being beaten, but he was a neglected blue.

The "residue" that had "swallowed" the indifference remained in his body, which made him begin to doubt himself and dare not get close to people.

Now do you know what "blue scars" represent? The "blue scar" is actually cold violence, it is more terrible than violence!

The "cold violence" of parents against their children is a new type of domestic violence, and its lethality is even worse than scolding.

In recent years, everyone has realized the great harm caused by domestic violence to children, and has begun to criticize and suppress the use of violence, and the improvement of the law has also put a protective umbrella on children, but "cold violence" has been ignored.

The law punishes parents who are "hot violence", so they turn to a more covert way to punish their children - "cold violence". Parents do not talk to their children, do not fight or scold, but turn them away. This new type of domestic violence is unfolding, and children are slowly being forced into desperate situations.

I don't know if you have seen "Mom Listens to Me", there is a way for a mother to punish the child for making a mistake, that is, to lock the child in the bathroom, let the child shout and even plead without responding, when asked how long the child is "longest locked up", the child said "half a day", the child cried that he would have nightmares every night, dreaming that the mother did not want him: "Mom, I want to say to you, I did wrong, you can punish me, but please don't lock me in the bathroom, okay? "

Le Jia couldn't speak after reading it, and Li Xiang directly rebuked it, "Too cruel!" However, the mother also said that her son was her own flesh and bones, and she was unwilling to scold him. That was the only way to punish him.

Fan Deng said: The nightmare of a child's life is that his mother ignores him and his father does not want him.

Do you realize that your cold violence against children has become routine?

➤ The child rushes to the parents, showing the skills he has just learned, because you are busy at work or have something to consider, let the child play by himself, and then ignore it.

➤ You want to accompany your child, but you are sitting and playing with your phone where they can see it, you think it is companionship, but your child thinks that the mobile phone is the person closest to you.

It's all cold violence against children, but you've made it a daily routine. There is a short video "Accompanying ≠ Companion" with the following passage:

Always think you're young and don't know that I'm perfunctory to you; think you can spend a good time alone; I've always thought that being with you every day is enough. You, on the other hand, are accustomed to loneliness in our minds.

Wu Zhihong said that "a home without a response is also a hopeless situation", without emotional investment, the nurturer will eventually raise children with emotional deficiency and psychological distortion. #中国式家庭教育 #

So parents, don't use busyness as an excuse to ignore your child's words, and your child needs our company. Companionship is not simply staying in the same space, but high-quality with children, putting down mobile phones, putting down work, really playing with children, reading together, these are the real companionship.

For children, parents are the best teachers, parents high-quality accompaniment can accelerate the child's intellectual development, if we can't go away during the day, it is better to accompany the child to read the story book before going to bed at night, this "Andersen Fairy Tales" is a classic, this book intimately adds a pinyin logo, convenient for children to read. It only takes ten minutes a day to read a story to your child and accompany him to sleep.

Fairy tales are indispensable reading for children when they grow up, but they have endured the erosion of the years, and every time they read, they have different feelings.

This book selects the fairy tales of Hans Christian Andersen's various periods, and selects the most wonderful stories such as "The Daughter of the Sea" and "The Ugly Duckling", and also has a great enlightenment story for children, so that children can learn love and strength in reading stories.

The book is equipped with full-color illustrations, large characters, more convenient to read, and there will be special annotations for some strange words, so that even if we are not there, children can read the book on their own.

Rongjing Premium Andersen Fairy Tale (Hardcover Pinyin Color Plate) Parent-Child Bedtime Storybook ¥39.8 Purchase

I hope that every child will not have "blue scars", after all, a book, a story, as long as 10 minutes a day can give children high-quality companionship.