A female colleague of the company shared a very touching little thing.
One day a colleague left work, and that day she was just very annoyed, because during the day she was tortured by a stupid B customer, and almost had high blood pressure.
After work, she went to the kindergarten to pick up her daughter, and when she was driving, she was still thinking about the troubles of work, and she was very silent.
The car was walking in traffic, and when it came to a stop at a red light, her daughter suddenly said to her:
"Mom, don't be sad, look at how beautiful today's sunset is."
The colleague looked up, and there was indeed a large piece of fiery red and beautiful sunset in the sky, which was really as her daughter said, very beautiful.
Later, colleagues were very emotional:
"The same thing, children can always find the beauty of it, but adults will be insensitive to it, turn a blind eye." 」
Is this not the case for all post-80s, when post-80s are exhausted in order to live, life is gradually leaving us.
Every day, there is only busy work, endless money, endless scolding and endless anger.
There is only endless pressure left in life, the anger that spews when you see people, and the sense of despair that lies in the darkness of the road ahead.
But is the whole picture of life really only these negative and dark things?
In fact, many times, it is not that there is nothing to look forward to in life, but that adults can only temporarily block those "switches" that can find beauty due to huge life pressure.
It is recommended that friends may wish to try the following three methods.
First, try to keep a daily record of your life.
People who have the habit of writing a diary, and people who do not have the habit of writing a diary, are almost two states of life.
In the past, Xiaobian did not have the habit of writing a diary, all year round, thinking back on what he did this year, he always felt very empty, as if there was nothing to think about except work.
Later, after watching a lecture on the concept of life, I began to try to make a little record every day, and when I waited until the end of the year, I looked back and looked at it, and it felt very meaningful!
Because our modern life is relatively fast-paced, this is not a requirement for you to write thousands of words at length every day.
Even if it is only a few dozen words, or even a few words, to record the most worthwhile things of the day, or mood, and look back, it is a very valuable experience.
Whoever it is, anyone must have that kind of time when it's very difficult and they can't last it any time.
At such a time, if you can see the things in the past diary, those things that have left good memories for themselves may rekindle their hopes for life.
When you are desperate, you may wish to look at the previous diary, and you will find that fate is fair to most people, and it cannot give you everything and cannot give you nothing.
Sometimes people just need this little bit of hope to survive.
Second, take a break, go outdoors more, get close to nature, and make memories.
I heard a colleague say one thing before.
The father of the colleague is a very loving person and usually likes to take the family out to play.
Colleagues' families are ordinary wage earners, there is not much money, usually parents are very frugal, in order to give colleagues marriage to buy a house.
But
One thing about their family is that they have to take a little time every week to find a beautiful place nearby to relax and play.
In order to save money as much as possible, most of them go to some parks that do not cost money, or ordinary scenic spots with more than a dozen yuan tickets.
When leisurely playing outside, parents also take a lot of photos.
Later, the colleague's father died of illness, and when the colleague looked at the previous photos, he felt that his father was still around, and the memories came to life.
When I watched many American dramas before, I found that the families in Europe and the United States were full of photos, and it was not the kind of refined studio photos wearing gorgeous costumes, but life photos without any modification.
Now I understand that the original photo carries a very important meaning, that is, to tell the world, to tell the people around me:
This world, I have come.
The older you get, the more you may develop a feeling:
Nothing in this world is real, only the experience of this moment is real.
In order to retain every moment you love, be sure to leave time for yourself and your family to relax and entertain outside of work, and it is best to leave memories that can prove this moment through various forms.
In this way, we can offset and confront the nothingness of life.
Third, cultivate a "useless" hobby
Our people generally have a misunderstanding, that is, we must resolutely do things that are not "useful."
It seems that everything we do, we must find use value from this thing, or hope to use this thing to make money and obtain material benefits.
But as you get older you'll find:
It is precisely because we always have the mentality of "benefit", "benefit" and "useful" all the time that we live more and more tired in life!
Our problem is that we are "too pragmatic", so we should try the opposite of pragmatism - "retreat".
Start today and cultivate a "useless" hobby, such as reading, exercising, writing, drawing...
From these "non-utilitarian" behaviors, perhaps you can better appreciate the preciousness and beauty of life.
【Conclusion】
In the past few years, I have always listened to friends around me that I am very tired, every day in addition to work is work, the company's things can never be done, it is difficult to rest for a day, but also to be filled with family trivia.
Xiaobian feels that because of this, the post-80s generation should learn how to discover the beauty of life and the beauty of life.
Some people will say, I am busy and exhausted every day, you still let me look for the beauty of life, where there is that energy, ah, with that kung fu I might as well sleep a little more.
However, if you think about it:
In fact, this is not a pretentious pretense, but the best gesture of resistance to this absurd and nihilistic world.
The more bitter life is, the more we must try to find a little sweetness in life.
Life must be decades old, do not make joy empty to the moon.
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As a post-80s generation, is your life stressful, and what methods will you use to resolve this pressure?
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