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Although it is very different from the background of the character's growth, my relationship with my mother actually has a similar feeling to the play.
I didn't live with my parents since I was a kid and didn't really live together until I graduated from college. When I was acting, I would substitute for me and my mother.
In the play, "I" found out that my daughter had stolen money, ran to the Internet café to play games, did not rush in and scolded her, but sat quietly in the car and waited.
This scene is what I suggested the director to deal with.
Because when my mother was disappointed or angry with me, she would not choose the form of extroverting.
Sometimes it's calm, with a greater impact.
——— Yingze
Between people, including mother and child, it is such a senseless conflict and mutual consumption, turning the usual warmth into the past tense little by little, and finally only the cold face is left.
The moment you know your parents are imperfect is the sign that you have truly grown up.
At this age, some people are 20 years old, some people may be 60 years old, and some people may not have the opportunity to grow up in their lifetime.
When we can objectively understand our parents, we can objectively understand the world.
Good people, all have strong systemic ability, the same view of a thing, they will quickly refine the framework, quickly grasp the key problems.
In fact, this is all the ability to exercise in the accumulation of repetition.
"Accumulation" in my opinion means that every day has progress, every day has a summary.
These progresses and summaries, like square bricks after square, are solidly "tired" underneath and become the foundation of tomorrow.
In time, the tall buildings will rise to the ground.
So how exactly should it be repeated? Three tips.
First, set the indicator.
To do anything, first clarify the most core indicators, that is, what must be done well, and to what extent each action must be done, which is the starting point of repetition.
Second, find the pattern.
In the process of repetition, along with the previously set indicators, continuous observation of which specific actions will affect these indicators, especially will have an incremental and positive impact.
Finally, grab the execution.
The problem for many people is that the brain is smart enough and reacts quickly enough, but the action is impatient.
Laws can be found, but it is difficult to translate them into concrete actions, let alone to teach them to teams on a large scale and in a standardized manner.
In this way, the law loses its practical significance.
Therefore, we must not only be good at discovering laws, but also be able to implement laws into action and really play a role.
Of course, occasional repetition and irregular repetition do not bring about essential progress and change.
What is needed is a lot of repetition with quality.
Repetition is the only way to mastery.
Precision is precise, precision is the indicator.
The general is universal, and the general is the law.
When you're always clear about what general laws can accurately influence an indicator, it means that you're really proficient in it.
This is also the highest state of repetition.
"If you read books that you can read every day, you only know the known worldview."
If you only read one stage of books, for example, your book list is full of books you like, or you read modern books, your thinking will stay around these 50 years.
Then don't ask, you must have cultural obscurity.
Because this time has already obscured your way of thinking.
People up and down these 50 years have had a kind of inertia and convergence of thinking.
How can we break this inertia and cultural obscuration of thinking?
Read famous books with a large span of time in ancient and modern China and abroad.
For example, in the West: Plato, Xenophon, Aristotle, Dante, Boccaccio, Francis Bacon, Adam Smith, Benjamin Franklin, Jane Austen, Charles Dickens, Balzac, Charles Darwin, Mark Twain, Max Weber, George Bernard Shaw, Jean-Paul Sartre, and his lover Simone de Beauvoir, Albert Einstein, Bertrand Russell, Winston Churchill, Ludwig, Wittgenstein, Piaget, Popper, and so on
If we can make an effort to put what these great people have written on the span of human history, which is only from the West, we can add things from the East.
From the pre-Qin to the two Han Dynasties to the Tang and Song dynasties to modern times, we can all pick some people to read, and at this time, the thickness of your thinking and the angle of your thinking will be much richer.
Because you know that people of different eras have their own limitations.
Reading at least one of these people's books is a very effective way to exercise their thinking.
Advice given by a psychiatrist:
(1) Don't compare yourself to others, don't expect others
(2) Don't act to get someone else's evaluation
(3) Have at least two hobbies
(4) Understand that the phrase "I am here for your own good" is often not for your own good
Keeping these words in your head will basically keep you emotionally stable.