Wen | Zhang Ping
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Cheng Lisha's personality is really "magical".
Being a full-time wife for many years, can not cook, spend money lavishly, in addition to being spoiled, love to do, nothing.
However, in "The Wife's Romantic Trip", she is not like this.
According to her self-explosion, after getting married, she faded out of the show business circle, and since then she has become the man behind the actor Guo Xiaodong, the profession of full-time wife, she has been doing it for more than 10 years.
At that time, she would personally drive to the airport to meet her husband every time she returned, no matter how far away, as long as her husband returned home, she must be there at any time, in order to take care of Guo Xiaodong, Cheng Lisha was online 24 hours a day, properly a "qualified wife" appearance.
At first, she also felt a little wronged, after all, she was also born in The Class, and she also had a sense of enterprise, so she gave up everything for this family and whether it was worth it for this man.
But later she also gradually got used to such a life, after all, every penny Guo Xiaodong earned was managed by Cheng Lisha, and usually no matter how expensive she bought skin care products, her husband would not blame half a sentence.
What's even more amazing is that when she and her mother-in-law mentioned the issue of managing money, the mother-in-law made it clear that it was right for her son to give all the money to her, and that men should give it to their wives to manage when they made money, and the mother-in-law also said that Cheng Lisha bought expensive clothes and cosmetics, and she dressed up beautifully and had light on her face.
What a good mother-in-law, there are really few in the world.
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Women want to be spoiled, and their attitude must learn to be soft
Cheng Lisha and Guo Xiaodong were together, and it was she who chased him.
However, the first time they met, Guo Xiaodong was completely unimpressed with Cheng Lisha, they met because of the play, and Guo Xiaodong's impression of Cheng Lisha at that time was: This girl is too much.
But Cheng Lisha fell in love with the generous Guo Xiaodong at first sight, so she decisively opened the mode of backward pursuit, and the two also launched a 7-year love run.
However, the love between a poor boy and a rich woman will not be smooth sailing.
The disparity in family situation, the difference between the three views, when in love, they are divided and combined, every time Guo Xiaodong proposed to break up, Cheng Lisha took the initiative to redeem, until the last time, Cheng Lisha finally felt tired, she told Guo Xiaodong, this time if the division is completely over.
However, two years later, they unexpectedly reunited because of a concert, and on that occasion, Guo Xiaodong took the initiative to contact her to reunite.
At that time, Guo Xiaodong, who had improved at work, finally stopped being inferior, he finally gave the life that the girl he liked wanted, and after this reunion, they were no longer separated.
Now married for more than ten years, the two people are still very affectionate, Cheng Lisha often lied to her husband in front of the camera, in the face of Miss Cheng, who loves to spoil, Guo Xiaodong is also spoiled.
In marriage, a woman who will be spoiled is often more likely to achieve happiness.
Many women pay a lot in marriage, but why are they still not recognized by men?
The point is that she doesn't make the other person feel comfortable verbally. Strong women like to use imperative tones to ask men, and women who love to be spoiled will melt men with a soft tone, as a man, which one do you prefer?
So, don't underestimate the charm of being a spoiler.
A man like Guo Xiaodong, who is traditional and macho in his bones, would prefer his wife to be gentle and considerate and able to take care of the family than an independent woman.
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A good marriage must know how to make trade-offs and learn to cater to the needs of your partner
Marriage requires a certain amount of tolerance and compromise, a person who does not know how to tolerate in marriage, the road to marriage cannot be long.
Why many couples walk and walk and disperse, the fundamental reason is that they do not know how to give in to each other, they cannot argue in case of trouble, and two people with too strong personalities will be separated sooner or later because of personality incompatibility.
Cheng Lisha's personality is not soft, but she is very smart, she knows what Guo Xiaodong likes, and will try to meet the needs of the other party, so some people feel that she loves the humble.
Fortunately, this kind of thing is only counted by the parties themselves, even if the love is humble, as long as they feel happy.
Guo Xiaodong is a filial piety, she hopes to do a wedding in her hometown, for the city girl Cheng Lisha, of course, she can't approve of it, but she still does it, but it will make Guo Xiaodong feel a sense of guilt of "owing her".
The way they get along with each other, this "guilt" plays a big role.
One party is ashamed of the other, but will try to be good to her and try to make up for it.
If a woman wants her partner not to leave herself, she must learn to create this "guilt" and make the other party feel indebted to you from time to time, but he will do his best to be good to you.
Men have heroism in their hearts, they want to shield the wind and rain for the women they like, as a woman, you have to give him this opportunity, you have to learn to show weakness.
Why women who know how to show weakness are often easy to be happy, in fact, this is the truth, women's weakness will make men have a sense of accomplishment, will make him feel that you need him.
In relationships, it is important to release the information needed. Many women often release too many "no need" signals, so that men feel very strong, very independent, and have the same feeling that he is not like him.
When a man faces two women, of course, he will choose the person who needs himself more and makes him feel that I see pity, which is due to the nature of men.
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About author:Zhang Ping, psychological counselor, marriage and family counselor, well-known emotional self-media. I have wine, do you have a story?