When you enter the store, if the stranger in front of you helps you hold the doorknob, you will definitely say "thank you", but if it is a friend or relative who is traveling with you, you may not say it.
When we face strangers, we often maintain respect and gratitude, and we will keep saying "thank you!" at a small point. Thank you! But when people close to us do these things, we may feel that they should be taken for granted.
While the phrase "distance produces beauty" isn't always true, we have to admit that it does make a lot of sense.
Perfect Stranger poster
The movie "Perfect Stranger" nakedly shows everyone how terrible the debunking of secrets is for intimate relationships from a dinner party between seven friends, and the secret is only a small mobile phone.
In the movie, the mobile phone is compared to the black box in people's lives:
"These things are ruining our lives, they're robbing us of our privacy, and we're left to it, day in and day out, numb."
Because there are too many secrets, but people are very fragile, especially the relationship between people is the most fragile.
The main character of Perfect Stranger
The whole film takes the "lunar eclipse" as the clue, which is why seven friends get together to eat, and everyone hopes to enjoy this wonderful scene together. Unexpectedly, as the moon's luminosity decreases, everyone's relationship becomes precarious.
The Perfect Stranger
At the beginning of the meal, Eva offered to play a game, and everyone put their phones on the table and shared every message, every phone call, and every notification.
Rocco, Eva
Cosimo and Bianca had just married and were preparing to have children;
Bianca, Cosimo
Carlotta and Lyle have been married for a long time, but the two have always had differences over the issue of elders;
Lehrer, Carlotta
Eva and Rocco's daughter is almost seventeen years old, but they have different ways of educating their children;
Daughter and Eva
Pepe is a physical education teacher who has just been fired from school, but fortunately has a new partner.
Pepe
However, what is said above is only the appearance, after sixteen messages and calls, sixteen secrets, the relationship between them is like the mobile phone on the poster, becoming broken.
Carlotta, Lehrer
Cosimo not only had a leg with Eva, but also got his colleague pregnant;
Eva, Cosimo
Bianca is also in touch with her ex-boyfriend and occasionally helps him solve emotional problems;
Cosimo, Bianca
Carlotta met a netizen on Facebook, although she had never met or talked on the phone, but would play some intimate mini-games, and she also secretly learned about the nursing home, because she couldn't stand living with Lehrer's mother;
Lehrer also knows a netizen, every night at ten o'clock will send him some more exposed photos, and his previous car accident to kill people is actually caused by Carlotta drunk driving, he just to minimize the loss, choose to help her to face the crime, but this makes Carlotta has been guilty, so the two are not separated;
Lehrer
Although Eva is a counselor, she is not good at communicating with her daughter, the relationship between mother and daughter has dropped to the freezing point, and in order to save the relationship with Rocco, she also quietly contacted a plastic surgeon for breast augmentation surgery, although her husband Rocco is a plastic surgeon;
Rocco has received psychological treatment for half a year in order to maintain his marriage with Eva, because there is a gap between Eva and his daughter, so he takes on most of the responsibility of educating his daughter, and also has some small secrets with his daughter, and the content of his call with her daughter in the film is even more touching to everyone;
Rocco and daughter
Pepe's other half is not a girl, so he does not dare to bring him to meet everyone, he was expelled from the school is not because of fat, but his sexual orientation was rejected by the school, but what hurts him even more is that his friends do not seem to accept this fact, and he finally found that he never received a text message notification from a football game only because he was ostracized by everyone.
I think the movie poster is very interesting, everyone is in the same mobile phone screen, but they are separated, each occupying a small piece of glass of their own.
One of the most ironic scenes in the film is the mobile phones of Eva and Rocco placed at the head of the bed, which are obviously put together voluntarily, but the middle is still separated by the earrings sent by the third party, Cosimo.
Probably everyone thinks that there is the greatest possibility of secrets between husband and wife, but what they did not expect is that there are so many things between brothers who play from childhood to adulthood that they do not know about each other.
"Between the actual man and his friend, even the most intimate one, is far away, at most it can only be like the sun and the moon, and it is always impossible to go to the moon, because in addition to the thin atmosphere, there is a vacuum." ——Zhu Shenghao
During the meal, Lehrer exchanged his phone with Pepe's, and because it was the same model and style, no one noticed. As a result, the text messages and phone calls from Pepe's boyfriend Lucilia led everyone to think that Lehrer had come out.
The biggest reaction to this was Cosimo, who even began to get angry. But when Lehrer asked him why he was angry, he didn't know how to explain it, because his behavior had shown his dislike for the crowd.
Lehrer, Pepe
When everyone said the word, it was as if they were inserting a knife into Pepe's body, and at the end of the meal, he finally couldn't help but tell the truth, but at this time he was more disappointed and angry:
"The person who confessed tonight is you, not me."
Like Lehrer said, we usually want to have such a friend, but when we find out that our friend is really like this, we can't accept it. He understood why Pepe didn't introduce Lucilia to everyone, because he had been a "Pepe" for two hours, and it was enough to suffer.
And Rocco, because of his trust, told Cosimo about his counselor, and Cosimo told Bianca... Just like that, one by one, everyone finally knew.
We can't help but wonder, how much loyalty is left between friends?
Rocco is the only one who does not have unbearable secrets, and the words he said to his daughter on the phone were mentioned earlier, which not only showed his loyalty to his wife, but also showed that he was very attentive to the education of his children:
“ There are some things I still have to say This is a momentous moment You will remember it for the rest of your life It's not the kind of talk I'll have with my friends tomorrow If you think about it later Whenever you think about it, it makes you laugh So do it But if you don't want to or are not sure Forget it first Because you still have a lot of time ”
Rocco was the one who objected to playing the game in the first place because he knew he wasn't doing anything unfaithful, but he couldn't be sure if his wife was the same:
"I'm worried about what secrets you're hiding, and I don't want to know if you're cheating."
If we don't directly reveal the secret, maybe we still have a chance to change each other, but once we debunk it, there will always be mustard. The reason why short-sighted people will feel better when they see things is not because they can't see clearly.
At the end of the film, the moon is lit up again, the dinner is over, everyone goes downstairs, and everything changes back to the way it was before the stupid game started.
Secrets are only called secrets for familiar people, that is, gaps in intimate relationships, which may create estrangement and give each other more personal space. So, in fact, there are two sides to the secret, and we have to weigh whether we really need this perfect relationship and whether it is necessary to "turn a blind eye" to it before making a decision.
But I don't think the perfect stranger is all about whether we need secrets or not, but I hope that through this story we can think about why these dangerous secrets arise between intimate relationships.
In order to maintain our own image, we will always pay attention in front of unfamiliar people, and if there is a misunderstanding, we will immediately explain it. But when we enter an intimate relationship, we slowly go from excitement at the beginning to burnout, and we become indifferent to misunderstandings. For example, the idiom "respect each other as guests" refers specifically to the relationship between husband and wife, indicating mutual respect for each other as guests, but in reality, the more intimate and casual.
Therefore, if we want to maintain a perfect relationship, we must use the attitude of treating strangers - taking the initiative to explain clearly when there is a misunderstanding, and always having a heart of respect and gratitude, which is the real "distance produces beauty".