The ancients said: "Once in a lifetime, one or two, half drunk, half awake and half floating.".
In this short sentence, the road is full of our ardent expectations of love, but also full of our affectionate confession to another person.
The beauty of knowing each other for a lifetime, like the red fruit on the distant mountain, is tempting but also implies a bitterness that is difficult to pick.
On April 28, Hong Kong star Gillian made a guest announcement for a variety show in which a 20-year-old young man fell in love. When she has a bumpy road and can't love, she is asked, if she can go back to 20 years old, what will she say to herself?
There were only four simple words in her answer, "Be a good person." A few words are staggering, and we have no way of knowing whether they are calm and undaunted by the old things or have not yet reconciled with their past selves.
What you may guess is that in the face of the girl who once smiled like a flower, she must have hidden a lot of regrets in her heart.
When you are young, in the face of love, it is the heat of the moth to make up for the fire, the impulse to announce to the world, and the full devotion to losing thinking.
The thrill of the first encounter with love brings great inner impact, making us choose to run to each other desperately.
But love, not a donut, but a bottle of spirits that needs to be tasted slowly. A mouthful of sullen enthusiasm may bring down your whole ego.
When the ego disappears, the harm will come sooner or later. It's like the Nude Photos Gate incident of Gillian back then. If you give up all your bottom lines because of love, you will become a weak underbelly of being hurt.
Young people have not tasted love, so there is a desire and expectation of "love and not see, scratching the head", there is "and shy to go, leaning on the door to look back, but the green plum sniffing" shyness and panic, but also have recklessness and collision, can not distinguish what is love, do not know how to love.
If you meet the wrong person, it is a journey of mistakes and mistakes. The cherishing and longing for love that is born in youth will become distrust of love and doubts about whether they are worthy of love in hurt.
Gillian's marriage, which lasted less than a year, is a concentrated embodiment. Mr. Lai said she didn't love me at all. Perhaps, it is not that she does not love, but that she can no longer open her heart to a person in the name of love.
Today, at the age of 40, looking back at the beautiful 20-year-old of youth, there should be more gentle messages, not just the warning of "being a good person".
This can only show that the past road and the wrong fork in the road have left indelible scars in her heart to this day.
But time will only move forward non-stop. We can only learn to move forward from hurt. Step by step, with the knife of time, we carve out what we expect.
"Silicon Valley Iron Man" mother Meyer Musk has not yet found someone to spend her life with at the age of 70, but she feels that life is no longer regrettable, because the love of family and friends is enough to support her full life.
So, if we've gone from the darkness of the past to the sunshine we have today, please don't look back at the shadows behind us.
20-year-old love is too hot, then add 40-year-old mature calm, and then go to meet the second half of love. There, perhaps we can find a trickle of affection and companionship.
But please don't give up on opening your heart in the name of love. Even though we have read thousands of sails and encountered all kinds of difficulties, the courage of 20 years old still retains its preciousness in the years after 40.
The girl with the smile like a flower will eventually grow into a beautiful person with light in her eyes and a light smile under the blessing of this courage.