I used to think that 30 years old was far away, but I found that 18 years old was a long time ago. Time is running out of time, and in the blink of an eye it is half a life. No matter what you are going through in your life, time will not stop it, it will only move forward at a rapid pace.
People say that 30 years old is a watershed in life, thirty and standing. People at this age cannot be willful, and no one is willing to continue to spoil you, get used to you, and you also shoulder the responsibility you should shoulder, and you are no longer the treasure in the palm of others. You need to grow up and you will be forced to grow up. But you know, it's never too late to work hard!
After the age of 30, because of the maturity of physiological development, it is easier for us to think rationally about many things, and it is often easy to insist on once a decision is made. From this perspective, thirty years old can be regarded as a watershed in adult life.
At the age of 30, at this stage you have entered middle age, you can't rely on your parents, you have to consider the problem of parents' pension; with children, you have to consider the problem of children's education; with a family, you must consider the operation of the family.
If you have a family and children at the age of 30, a car and a house, it feels very happy; the premise of marriage is a house, and after having children, you basically need to buy a scooter, so you need to buy a car and buy a house, get married and have children.
But life will never have the latest beginning, no matter what age, as long as you have enough persistence and courage, always against the wind, ride the wind and waves, success will naturally come to fruition.
Last year, a popular TV series "Thirty Only" was popular all over the Internet, Gu Jia, Zhong Xiaoqin, Wang Manni, this thirty-year-old woman who originally did not have much contact, under the arrangement of fate, became the closest girlfriend. "Thirty Only" leaves us not only with the plot, this drama leaves us with more thinking about life, love, and career:
1, marriage is not a safe haven, everyone must ride the wind and waves.
The mode of getting along between Zhong Xiaoqin and Chen Yu, a young couple, is actually the most similar to that of us in real life. Obviously, because Xiao was lucky to be together, but after marriage, the two people began to escape from reality, Chen Yu closed himself with fish farming, Zhong Xiaoqin went to work on time, chased after work, the two people washed their own clothes, and chatted only about the right thing. But such a life made Zhong Xiaoqin more and more powerless, and she could not feel that her husband's love was more fatal to her than cheating, and finally the two divorced under the blessing of cold violence. After the divorce, she began to use novels to record her life and feelings, and earned her first 1.56 million yuan by writing novels. Since then, she has found her own love, but also seen her own value, got rid of the "good old man in the workplace", and began to become more and more confident.
Marriage is really not a safe haven, whether for men or women, only by constantly riding the wind and waves, you can see a better self.
2, love marriage may betray you, invest in yourself is the last word
Gu family is a very sassy full-time wife, strong ability and good personality, whether in life or children's education every step is done to the extreme almost perfect, she assisted her husband to open a fireworks factory, for her son to join the circle of wives, identify "green tea" is not weak, every decision made is more courageous than ordinary people, but it is such a perfect woman who has not escaped the fate of her husband's cheating.
Many people say that many people say that Chen Junsheng cheated in "The First Half of My Life" because Luo Zijun did not have empathy, but Gu Jia was so good, why did Xu Huanshan cheat? But love and marriage are always full of unknowns and challenges, and also tell us a truth: whether a man cheats or not has nothing to do with whether you are good or not, he depends on the quality of a man. Fortunately, Gu Jia is a strong and tenacious woman, she herself runs for the tea factory, dares to break with the circle of the wife, although Xu Huanshan cheated and went to prison, she still helped Xu Huanshan deal with chores with kindness and righteousness, and also let her tea factory gradually go on the right track.
There is naturally no problem in being a full-time wife to concentrate on taking care of her son, but there is a problem after experiencing the wind and waves, but after experiencing the wind and waves, dare to transform and dare to bear, which is a woman's biggest confidence, after all, investing in herself is the last word.
3, may you work hard all your life and enjoy it.
Wang Manni works hard in Shanghai, relying on her own efforts and will to get acquainted with many high-class connections, far-sightedness and high expectations are her characteristics, in fact, it is also the obsession of every woman who works outside. After the love affair with "Sea King" Liang Zhengxian ended, she returned to her hometown in frustration, but she also found that her hometown was incompatible with herself, and she could not find her own home for a while. After the constant change of mood, when she returns to Shanghai again, she has transformed into a job that can complete the impossible with excellence, and she has also been given the opportunity to become the manager of Missia. But Wang Manni made a decision that was very different from what she would do, she refused the invitation of the store manager, but chose to study abroad and enrich herself. She wanted to go for a walk, to see if there were any other possibilities in life.
In fact, Wang Manni worked harder than Zhong Xiaoqin and Gu Jia in Shanghai, but she had found the wrong direction in life, but fortunately, she finally understood that only by constantly improving herself could she enjoy it.
At the age of thirty, I feel more and more that the people around me are divided into two categories, one type of people becoming a habit of decadence, and the other type of people are still changing. The first type of people's lives are not as good as a day, and the second type of people may not be very happy now, but they are getting better every day.
Thirty is a watershed moment, and before that, people's minds were easy to stereotype. For example, when some people think that they can't afford to buy something expensive and wanted, some people think that the world is really desolate, and some people will think about how I can afford it; for example, when there is a setback, some people immediately attribute that the world is really bad, and some people cling to themselves to find the reason. Some people are used to going against the grain, and some people love to reflect and summarize.
"Thinking determines the way out", what was once thought to be chicken soup, has become a naked truth under the long river of time.
Many words that we did not believe appear on our cheeks as we age.
In your twenties, if possible, be sure to accumulate more connections, knowledge, and wealth. In this way, at least not at the age of thirty, inexplicably nervous and passive.
The good habits developed in the twenties will be incomparably applicable to the thirty-year-old. For example, insisting on exercise, such as insisting on reading, such as maintaining humility about things that you don't understand, such as pursuing, having a sense of nobility, such as lifelong learning...
In fact, thirty is a hurdle for everyone, but whether this hurdle is better depends on how you spend every day in your twenties. While we can't stop the passage of time, we can keep the mind young. But the only thing you need to do is to stick to a heart of change, but when you decide to change, you must be brave and try to move forward, which is more important than anything.
I think what you need to do before you turn thirty is to make yourself a little better today than yesterday, and make this year's self stronger than last year.
The days before the age of thirty are the imprints of growth, the traces of youth, and the diaries of time.
Youth in your twenties is the motivation not to be like others, the effort to continue to change, and the endurance to persist in hard work.
So, as long as you are still on the road, you will eventually see a better self, do not stop moving forward, look at the sun, illuminate everything around you.
Thirty years old, your life has just begun, life still has infinite possibilities, you can become what you want to be. As long as you never go against the wind, ride the wind and waves, and run on your own road.