Many relationships only have one chance, and many people are eager to be single-minded and then devote their best selves to this relationship, but time and reality will always inadvertently set us some problems. These problems will not only test ourselves, but also test the person we choose, so almost every relationship has a lot of sweet and sour, and the direction and result of the relationship will also change because of these sweet and sour, you can win the feelings, you can not survive you need to bear the consequences, which is full of many variables, and it is easy to make the following constellation difficult.
When in love, it is single-minded, but the result is difficult to be optimistic, and this zodiac sign is easy to choose the wrong path
Speaking of which, I haven't received private messages from Cancer friends for a while, maybe this is related to the content I wrote about Cancer before (just kidding), but recently Cancer friends have begun to be active again, these days received several Cancer private messages, the content is related to the horoscope, but the end of the content they write is strikingly similar: "I may not be suitable for love, I am not good with anyone, I may really have some problems."
Cancer's rhetoric will basically end with such words, I believe that friends who have been in contact with Cancer should also know, and the problems in the hearts of these friends may also be the problems in the hearts of many Cancers. "The first thing that needs to be explained for this problem is that when you encounter a problem similar to this, the last thing you can do is to think wildly or even escape, because once you do this, then the result of your next love may be the same as this time, which is equivalent to harming yourself." Let's analyze this problem in depth from three aspects.
This concept is not a problem for most people, but it must be a problem for Cancer, why do you say that? Because cancer's psychology and thoughts in passively selected love situations are completely different from those in actively selected love situations. Let's first talk about passive choice, if a Cancer is being pursued, then Cancer needs a lot of security and recognition, if these points can not meet the standard, then you will only see the state of Cancer "dragging".
Simply put, you ask her to go out to dinner and she's too lazy to go. You told her to go out to the movies, and she didn't bother to go either. Then when you run out of patience and you think Cancer doesn't feel anything for you, you don't take the initiative. At this time, Cancer has an idea in her heart, and Cancer will think that you have no feelings for her, that you are not sincere.
But often at this time, Cancer will most likely suddenly bubble up to say a word to you, to test what you think. But at this time, you may have changed your goals, or even lost hope, so many people's tone of reply to Cancer at this time is low, and Cancer can only think more and more badly.
Secondly, even if Cancer agrees to fall in love with you, this is only the beginning, because you have to continue to pay to make Cancer feel that you are really for her, and if you have a period of time because of other things busy or cold, then Cancer will start to think again, and when you are not busy and normal, you will find that Cancer is not normal.
Let's talk about the active choice, if Cancer likes a person, then you can rest assured, they will have their own attitude, which means that Cancer will pay a lot when pursuing a person, whether it is a big direction or a small direction, Cancer is generally very good in this process, such as idle time will be given to you, and for example, will be very careful to take care of your diet and living, these bits and pieces are Cancer's pay. But for Cancer, if their efforts are not recognized by your attitude and recognition, then they dare not continue. So how is this judged? That's the two words "reward"!
Yes, Cancer can only be safe and secure if you see the attitude of the other party and return it. So if Cancer keeps being nice to you and you don't react much, then Cancer backs off. At this point, you either have to coax or you have to prove your attitude. But this kind of thing is actually very difficult to do, because once such a thing happens once, it can happen many times after that, even for the same reason every time, but the degree of Cancer's "seizure" is getting higher and higher every time.
Many people say that Cancer is central air conditioning, especially Cancer men are more prominent, so what about the fact? In fact, friends who have seriously considered the above paragraph should already have the answer in their hearts. Cancer has no way to resist warmth and care, and because of this problem, Cancer lacks a sense of boundaries at some point. So what if a Cancer has an object, but at the same time a female colleague in his company takes good care of him and cares about him?
Rejection is unlikely, so two people may have a closer relationship in their daily lives, and chat more frequently, so what if such a thing is known to his girlfriend? This is bound to brew contradictions, so how can Cancer solve it? It's basically an escape, and his girlfriend is cold because of this matter, so it is not as good for him as before, so what will Cancer think?
And when Cancer encounters this kind of thing, his heart is very contradictory, on the one hand, his girlfriend, on the other hand, his colleagues are good to him, so who does he really love? In fact, Cancer loves himself, so he is more inclined to give him warmth and security of people, and this can also explain another problem, that is, his girlfriend has not been identified by him, why not by him? That's because being given the goodness of being given to him is beyond what he realizes his girlfriend is good to him.
Of course, if Cancer identifies a person, then his heart will not be so contradictory, and this is just a special example. Cancer, which has actually stabilized, is very suitable for living a life.
If this question is in front of Cancer, it will often make them very difficult. For example, "Do you want someone who is good for you, or someone you think is good for you?" "Cancer wants the latter. At the same time, cancers will not normally express what kind of security they need when they encounter contradictions, in addition to yin and yang weirdness. So what's the result? Two people have a conflict, most of the mistakes will be held by Cancer on each other's head, how can this be conducive to getting along? Isn't that what the pit is? To put it bluntly, when encountering earth elephants, they are still a little more patient. If they had encountered fire elephants, wouldn't they have exploded earlier?
And Cancer is not in love, the reason for the bad feelings revolves around these points, they can indeed be single-minded when in love, but they will always change their ideas and positions because of these problems, so Cancer is easy to choose the wrong path in the relationship. So how can we make Cancer's love and relationship smooth? How can we get them not to say those sad words? Then this requires introspection and change!