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First, let's tell you a true story:
Yu Fen is a very good woman in the eyes of others, but only she knows: everything at the moment is what she deserves. The 62-year-old Yufen has a bit of a dashing life, finding a few old friends to play small cards, watch TV, and then waiting for the children to call her one by one. Yu Fen is very special, her relationship with the child is very good, it is a natural closeness. Yu Fen would never kidnap children to be filial to herself, filial piety or not was all voluntary, and it was purely voluntary not to give money, but she knew that children would be good to her.
Before the Eleventh National Day holiday, the children returned, and Yufen worked for a while to make delicious meals for the children. At the end of the holiday, the daughters had to return to the city with their grandchildren, and when they left, they suddenly hugged Yu fen and were reluctant to give up. Yu Fen smiled and said, "How convenient it is now, if you think about it, you can also make a video call, and you will know at any time whether you can live well or not." Mom still has a lot of things to do so she won't haunt you. ”
The 62-year-old Yufen wants to be open, and she raises her children not to prevent aging, but to make them independent personalities, so that they have their own careers and worlds. It is precisely because of Yu Fen's good mentality and very positive three views that several children are unusually blessed for her. From time to time, she would be asked if she had any money to spend, and would also offer to give her money. Yu Fen is not short of money to spend, because she knows that several children are sincerely good to her, and she is not willing to suffer a little grievance, and her concern for her is also sincere.
Yu Fen, who has lived to this age, looks back at the past and will say: "Fortunately, I have never given up in my marriage, and I have worked very hard to have today's happy life." ”
In fact, Yufen is a very bitter woman, born in 59 years, she lived in a very bitter era, plus it is a rural area, we can imagine how poor her life is. She has been suffering since she was very young, but Yufen is very strong, no matter how hard the days are, she can survive. The difficult and difficult environment has also created Yu Fen's perseverance, she has never conceded defeat, and even cries rarely.
When Yu Fen was still a girl, she was the most hard worker, and she thought that she could find a good family to marry, who expected that the family she was looking for was also too poor to do it. How do you change the status quo? Only if you are willing to endure hardships and work hard can you change the status quo.
Yu Fen's husband was quite macho, and he was also a mother treasure man, where did the men in the countryside know that they were worried about their wives, and it was good not to beat their wives. Yu Fen had just married and had a fight with her husband, and when her husband started to move, she lay down on the ground and said with tears: "You fight, I see how you live your life, now the life is so bitter, you still argue with me." ”
Yufen gave birth to four children, her mother-in-law did not bring it, her husband did not bring it, she had to do the family's eight acres of farm work alone, but also had to take care of the children. How to raise? How to bring? How do you work? Yu Fen was pregnant with four children who were still working when they were about to give birth, and had not sat in any confinement, and took care of themselves a few days after giving birth.
The first child was a boy, but the next three were all girls, and the husband of the "son preference" was so angry that he did not even buy brown sugar. Wait, Yu Fen's suffering is something that no woman can stand now. But what do you do? You were born in that era, you can't rely on your husband, you can't get divorced, it's hard to live. Yu Fen said that she confessed her fate and did not recognize sex, and heaven gave her a bad card, and she must play it well.
How did four children grow up? The eldest took the boss to work in the fields, the boss was a boy, and the mother-in-law took him for a day or two. Later, the second and third and fourth elders were born, and the children behind them were all brought by the second elder, and at that time, the care of the children was not so fine, and they grew up in this way.
There were four children, the family was poor, and there were three girls, so she was persuaded to send the children away. Yu Fen was reluctant to say that even if she picked up the rags, she would have to feed several children, not to mention that she still had eight acres of land, so she would not be unable to feed even a child. Yu Fen is very strong and very capable, and when the four children reach school age, she let them go to school.
The eldest was not very good because he was a boy or spoiled, but the three girls were particularly sensible and had excellent academic performance, and they were even admitted to key high schools all the way and were admitted to key universities. When she was studying, some people also told Yu fen that the female doll's reading was not useful, and she went out to work. But Yu Fen disagreed, and Yu Fen said that everything should be provided for several children to read.
Nowadays, several of Yufen's children have established a family, and several children are also particularly filial and obedient, and they are all doing well. Yu Fen's old age is hopeful, and her wife is now good to her, her wife is strong to 40 years old, he is afraid after the child understands things, and now he has to please Yu Fen even more, because the child has a good relationship with Yu Fen.
Yufen said: "A woman's greatest reliance in this life is by no means her husband, but what kind of mentality you have, and your children, your children are your dependence." Women must remember that if you raise children well, you will be blessed for the rest of your life. Men who steal laziness in their children will be returned to them in their old age. ”
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I agree with Yu Fen.
A woman, who has thought well in the second half of her life, has never fought a man.
Do you know what a woman wants to do well in the second half of her life and fights for what? It is whether you have a strong and optimistic attitude and excellent ability to make a living; whether you have a healthy body and whether you have excellent children; whether you have a mature mind, whether you can avoid losses in the jungle society, you yourself are the biggest reliance. Excellent women are the most love they give themselves, and having the ability to perceive happiness is the supreme cultivation of a woman.
I especially admire Yu fen, because she never complains about her unhappy marriage, unreliable husband, "widowed parenting", and her mother-in-law is unreliable, but she can be reliable herself. Her husband is out messing around all day, she doesn't care too much, she has to take care of several children, do the farm work at home, and have to live a good life. She knew that she would have to rely on her children for the rest of her life, so she insisted on letting several children read, reading for the sake of the children themselves and for her later life.
She is strong, optimistic, and has an extremely strong inner strength.
Don't look at the fact that she hasn't read books for a few years, but she knows a lot of truth, she has the ability to perceive happiness, and her cultivation is very high.
The 62-year-old Yufen understands that a woman's true happiness comes from her strong "endogenous force", which is related to the beautiful qualities of independence, self-confidence, courage, responsibility, perseverance, kindness, open-mindedness, and pattern. Life gave Yu Fen a "bad card", but she played the card as "Wang Fried". This woman is really not simple. Although it is said that we have lived most of our lives in exchange for today's happiness, but to be honest, what is our true happiness? It's the same as having children in your old age who are genuinely good to you, and your own good attitude.
People with a good mentality are very full of heart and content, and they will not complain that they are unhappy; even if they have everything, they will complain that they do not get enough.
Can you have a good life? What kind of person you are yourself is crucial.
Don't take marriage too seriously, even if your marriage is unhappy, you can make yourself happy, not a dead end.
"Women want to live well in the second half of their lives, and they never fight men", which is worth pondering.
The poet Bartók once said: "Setbacks are stepping stones to success for the strong, but for the weak, they are endless abysses." ”
This article is for all women, don't let marriage and men define your happiness, you can be strong and make yourself happy.
If life makes you uncomfortable, there must be something that needs to change. Either go out with a cruel heart, or take the grievances back, why should they be crooked. The road is your own choice, choose it and walk well.
A woman who only knows how to complain about life can't live this life well.
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★ Author: Yibao; emotional original author, writing about the warm emotional affairs of this world.