Beijing, March 18 (Reporter Shangguan Yun) Choose a good childcare institution, go to a good school, study hard and get a good score... For many families, from the birth of a child, "education" has become one of the most worrying things for parents.
But for some children, the "imperfection" of birth can have a huge impact on them. Recently, the documentary "I Am Not a Stupid Child" went viral, it focused on families with three children with "dyslexia", as of now, Douban scored 9.4.
Some people say that this is a documentary, and it is also worth everyone's viewing: everyone's shortcomings in life, learning to accept their limitations, and embracing a more ordinary and happy life is a compulsory course for everyone.
Stills from "I'm Not a Stupid Kid."
Try to catch up with the child
For children, childhood often means innocence and carefree. But for children with dyslexia, they may not experience so much happiness, and the incomprehension of parents and the strange eyes of classmates will bring pressure.
In "I'm Not a Stupid Kid", all three children have their own unspeakable troubles. For example, the school is very smart, but it is difficult to concentrate, and it is easy to wander in class and immerse yourself in your own world.
The problem of dyslexia is silent, and no matter how hard the school tries, it cannot achieve the ideal goal. Fruitless efforts made him instinctively choose to escape, even resist reading and writing.
Another example is Qunxiao, who can review until 11 o'clock the night before for an exam. But when compared with children of the same age, the backwardness is very obvious, it may be just a simple single paragraph of text, "can't read it, or read serially".
Learn every day, learn not, Qun Xiao has become a "stupid child" in the eyes of others. The bigger taunt comes from his peers, and there are children who bully him in front of their parents because he is stupid and unresponsive.
What about The Tide? She is a child who is often ignored by teachers, has never received an award certificate, her academic performance has not been ideal for a long time, and she is under a lot of pressure inside.
"The three children endure and resolve the problem of dyslexia in their own way. For Ruo Xi, her biggest difficulty is to face an external environment that does not understand her, and the child is actually very resilient. Li Ruihua, director of "I Am Not a Stupid Child", said.
Parental anxiety
When children face all kinds of unhappiness brought about by learning and growth, parents often face anxiety that they cannot escape.
Fan Qipeng, another director of "I Am Not a Stupid Child", mentioned that at present, there is not much research and understanding of dyslexia in China, and children with dyslexia symptoms often lack systematic support from society.
Because it is not known to the public, it is easy for children with dyslexia to be discriminated against because of poor grades. According to the film, about 5% to 8% of children of school age have dyslexia, and they are often mistaken for stupidity or laziness.
The parents of the school, Qunxiao, and Ruoxi are all worried about the problems in their children's learning to varying degrees, worried about the lifelong impact on their children's growth, and at the same time struggling with how to protect their children's mental health.
Be the best version of yourself
In order to present the difficult process of parents and children self-relieving anxiety and growing up together as completely as possible, "I Am Not a Stupid Child" was filmed for three years.
At the beginning of the preparation for filming, another director, Li Ruihua, through the introduction of Li Hong, the academic consultant of "I Am Not a Stupid Child", planned to find suitable characters and stories. Some children's parents simply refused, and then sifted out similar characters, leaving 3 examples.
In the process of tracking the shooting, Li Ruihua and his colleagues found that families who are willing to accept the film often have some common characteristics: they do not avoid problems, and they are willing to provide people with channels to understand "dyslexia", so that people with the same disease can take fewer detours.
An open-minded attitude is also an encouragement to children. She noticed that the three families' stories, while with different emphases, had a common denominator: both children and parents struggled to integrate into the school and overcome difficulties.
The school mother knows that it is difficult to counterattack the grades, but still tries her best to cultivate the child's good habits and attitudes, so she accompanies the child to make progress every day, and the grandmother who graduated from Tsinghua University also began to "rotate" and supervise the school to write homework.
Qun Xiao's parents painstakingly choose schools, so that children are less affected by "dyslexia" and develop their intelligence as all-round as possible; if Xi's grades are not good, her mother will issue a special award to encourage her... Gradually, children find a way to grow up that suits them.
Li Ruihua said, "Although the process of growing up is a bit heart-wrenching, we see a kind of energy that children have themselves. Just give them time and space and they will all be the best version of themselves. ”
Learn to accept "imperfection"
After "I'm Not a Stupid Kid" aired, it quickly scored a rating of 9.3 on Douban, and later rose to 9.4 points. In the perception that people share, in addition to the attention to children's education, one of the most discussed topics is "how to accept imperfection".
Some netizens commented that they thought it was a children's film for children before watching it, and after watching the parent-child film that they thought was for parents at the beginning, they watched three episodes in one breath and found that this is a documentary for everyone to watch. It's about how to get along with others, and it's also about how to get along with yourself.
"In the film, the parents of the three families accept the imperfections of their children and firmly believe that they are not stupid and can survive well in society when they grow up." Li Ruihua said that "acceptance" is the theme word of the film.
Pushing into life, the term still applies. Including work, skill learning, etc., we may encounter many difficulties and need to work hard, but we must also learn to accept our imperfect selves and imperfect lives.
Fan Qipeng said that whether facing friends or family, people are not an island, in interpersonal communication need to understand and understand other lives, even if we do have too many differences, but there is no need for 'Versailles', nor do you need to be inferior.
In his view, each of us is imperfect, learning to accept our own limitations and embracing a more ordinary and happy life is a compulsory course for everyone, and this is also the extended meaning of "I Am Not a Stupid Child". (End)
Source: China News Network