This is the 96th original content released by Chenma in 2021
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Love is the eternal theme of human beings.
Throughout the ages, countless literati and rioters in ancient and modern China and abroad have been pursuing the true meaning of love, what should love look like?
What is love?
In general psychology, the definition of "passion" is particularly simple:
Intense emotion is an intense, explosive, short-lived emotional state.
For us, love often stems from the moment when we feel that we are in love, so we fight for ourselves, we are oblivious, and we are willing to give everything we have.
But, don't forget, the definition of passion is clearly written: "Short time"! Yes, the passion is intense, but also explosive, in the moment of passion, the person's adrenaline is high, emotionally agitated, blood pressure rises... In fact, people's weak muscles cannot actually withstand the physical reaction in the state of passion for a long time, so the passion of course will pass, and even the best love passion period will gradually flatten after the end.
Cover of The Little Philosophy of Love
Recently, I read the book "The Little Philosophy of Love on Love, Sex and Marriage" (hereinafter referred to as "The Little Philosophy of Love"), which caused a sensation abroad, which is a typical philosophical reflection on love created by foreign authors under the frank and courageous writing style, and it is worth reading.
Vito Mancuso, author of The Little Philosophy of Love, was born in 1962 and teaches at several Italian universities. His works have been reported by newspapers, television, radio and other media for many years, attracting the attention of millions of readers. His notable works include God and Me, Passion: The Driving Force of Love, The Secret Life of Jesus, and The Doctrine of Catholic Radicalism: An Introduction to Theology of Vito Mancuso. After the publication of "The Little Philosophy of Love", it once again caused a sensation.
Chinese traditional teachings, love is sacred, sex is private and avoidant, and marriage is a matter of two people who are happy with each other.
In this "Little Philosophy of Love", the author Mancuso not only describes different types of love, but also triggers a major discussion about sexuality, marriage and contraception. His exposition is from point to point and aspect, layer by layer, not only closely following social phenomena, but also running through theoretical interpretation, which is an interesting, enlightening and ideological three-in-one masterpiece.
Love is our nature, a product of nature. Love is a primordial force, the expansion of the dominant force that has existed since the birth of the universe, and falling in love is a special manifestation.
Everyone craves love, everyone craves love, and has the ability to love, it's instinctive. Everyone may encounter "love at first sight" in their lifetime, no need to be taught, you see that person and you know yes, this is instinct.
"Love at first sight" love
People who have courage and good luck enough will seize the opportunity of "love at first sight" and may eventually have an unforgettable love.
However, there are still many more people who cannot seize the opportunity in time, and even the object of this "love at first sight" is only the reality of the psychological state at that time.
I prefer this statement: love is unpredictable and completely impossible to be rational.
In the first chapter of The Little Philosophy of Love, Mancuso says: "Scientists say that many strange and completely unpredictable things can happen in the quantum world, and in the face of these things, the causal linear logic of classical physics and the logic and language of everyday life cannot be used, and this is in line with the phenomenon of love." ”
Mancuso said: "We are free people, so in the treatment of love, in addition to taking responsibility, we may also be influenced by the more powerful and often conquering natural forces that conquer us, mature love, is the freedom to intervene with will and wisdom." ”
This statement is very mature.
The balance of love
In completely unpredictable love, human instincts produce passion, and in a state of passion, sex is likewise an instinctive act. In the current worldview, sexual openness in Western culture has gradually impacted the conservative concept of sex in China. However, in The Little Philosophy of Love, we can clearly see the attitude and insistence on sex and marriage in other Western cultures described by Mancuso.
The perceptions and perceptions of sex in different denominations, the attitudes and practices of different peoples and histories towards love, instinctive love, instinctive sexual impulses, the state of passion, whether or not there is still a rational marriage, we need to find the right balance between giving and receiving, and this balance is the expression of intelligent human beings.
Everyone is the beneficiary of love, everyone is also a desire for love, since we can not do without love, so it is better to explore the little philosophy that love brings to us in Mancuso's book.
The Revelation of Love
What is the meaning of the existence of love itself? Love is a special perspective that allows us to see the meaning of life.
This meaning contains balanced wisdom, includes giving, contains acceptance, and contains the inheritance and evolution of generation after generation.
Love, unlike faith and hope, is a form of the soul, the form of those who know that there is something more important than themselves and pursue it with absolute enthusiasm.
This love is seen as an irrepressible need for a true and just relationship that detaches itself from self-centeredness.
For a great love story, the passionate passion of the body and feelings is not enough, there is always a need for a passion of spirit and wisdom, that is, respect.
Respect each other, respect love, this is the inspiration that love brings to us!
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