"My name is Lao Zheng, and I am eighty-five this year. The night before, in my sleep, I was gone.
My two daughters, both married, and two grandchildren, have listened to them cry for the past two days, and I have not wanted to hear them.
My wife is also more than eighty years old, her legs and feet are not good, I am most relieved, I am gone, she is old again.
……
This little girl's hands are really clever, this makeup is good, I feel that this is the most beautiful time after getting old.
Farewell party in life, this name is good, I also want to say goodbye to myself.
The daughter and grandson came, and the old woman also came, looking much better and feeling at ease.
Thank you for my little girl who has been with me these two days, she has worked hard. ”
What is your impression of death? Painful, confused, cold or out of reach, or secretive?
Life and death are as if they were two worlds that can never communicate.
But some say, not really.
For example, the little girl that Old Zheng wants to "thank" for.
Her name is Chen Yunqiu, and she is a mortician at Hangzhou Xiaoshan Funeral Service Center Co., Ltd.
And Lao Zheng is a type of deceased person who Chen Yunqiu serves.
Death is not cold
When I first met Chen Yunqiu, although she was wearing a dark blue suit uniform, through the mask, she could still feel the green onions of this little Sichuan girl born in 1995.
At this time, the family of the deceased has not yet come, and we talked to Chen Yunqiu about "why I chose this line of work".
Chen Yunqiu said that it has a lot to do with the recently re-released movie "Entering the Mortician".
"In junior high school, I saw the profession of mortician from the TV news, and I felt that this profession was not ordinary." Chen Yunqiu said that after watching "Entering the Mortician", he suddenly found that death is not as cold as imagined, on the contrary, it can be warm, "Through the deceased, you can make the living love life and love the family more." ”
A seed of future engagement in the funeral industry was planted in Chen Yunqiu's heart.
She resolutely filled in the modern funeral service and management major of a university in Beijing.
This decision was opposed by parents.
Chen Yunqiu, who had an iron heart, in order to avoid the persuasion of her parents, lived in the house of a sister and refused to answer the calls of all her parents, "Seeing that I can't help it, my parents reluctantly agree." ”
After graduating from university in 2018, Chen Yunqiu was assigned to xiaoshan funeral service center by the company.
Relic spa room
After the 30-minute burial ceremony, he seemed to have just fallen asleep
Compared with the bright sun of the past few days, today's Hangzhou is foggy and raining lightly.
At 9:30, the family of one of the deceased arrived at the funeral home, and an hour later, the farewell party of the deceased began.
Like all those who were sent here, he was first invited into the body spa, where he completed the cleaning and restoration of makeup, a process that his family could accompany. "We'll have two staff members to serve him, including shampooing, body washing, mask, shaving, nail trimming, makeup and so on."
Sometimes, Chen Yunqiu will also ask her family to help wipe the face or hand of the deceased, which may be the last face-to-face contact between relatives, and may also be a rare, close, focused contact before death.
The body spa room is divided into two sides by a white gauze curtain, and the general family is accompanied by the other side of the white veil, "this white veil can properly soothe their emotions." ”
On the operating side, shower gel, shampoo, etc. are placed.
Chen Yunqiu also described the burial process with us.
At each mortuary, two morticians will begin to make up for the deceased.
The first item used in the make-up process is a hair dryer that blows the stiff muscles of the face a little softer for easy makeup repair.
Hydrate, make up foundation... The reporter saw the makeup bag used by Chen Yunqiu, "There are more than 60 cosmetics of 3 different materials, some of which are exclusive to the deceased, and can be adapted to the skin type of the deceased." ”
At the same time, there are also staff members who put in flowers such as chrysanthemums and lilies, as well as clothes used by the deceased before they died.
After all this is done, the deceased feels "just asleep." ”
The burial process generally lasts about 30 minutes, except for the sound of operation, the entire body spa room is very quiet.
The girl was the same age as her, but her parents couldn't open their mouths for a long time
When Chen Yunqiu was seven years old, her grandfather passed away.
The sudden death of her grandfather made her feel that a person's life is too short. Because of her young age, she felt that she had not said goodbye to her grandfather.
During his university internship, Chen Yunqiu saw the body for the first time. At a funeral home in Beijing, an old grandfather.
Because it is the first time, Chen Yunqiu has made up a lot of scenes before, will it be terrible, will it be the same as the first time of the male protagonist of the movie "Entering the Mortuary"... The more I thought about it, the more nervous I became.
However, when he really saw the old man, Chen Yunqiu felt very calm: "The old man was very quiet and peacefully lying there. I also seemed to see my grandfather that day, and I had a chance to talk to him and say goodbye to him. ”
"Many people will feel that our work is cold, but it is not", Chen Yunqiu believes that he is not only a mortician, but also a messenger connecting his family and the deceased, "to transmit thoughts, so that the living can live well." ”
Chen Yunqiu made repairs and makeup for the first time and stood by the bedside for eight hours.
It was a girl, the same age as her, 21 years old, the age of the wind, but she never stopped breathing.
Falling from a high altitude damaged and dented the girl's face. The girl's parents were in tears and could not speak for a long time.
Chen Yunqiu's teacher leaned down and gently said to the girl while repairing the girl, "Little girl, don't worry, we are beautiful and shiny, and we don't let mom and dad be sad." ”
After the repair and plastic surgery is over, the girl's parents can finally shake and hold the child's cold hand, crying out their daughter's nickname and those words that are too late to say.
"We want the family to see a good her, a complete her", Chen Yunqiu felt, this is also his mission and responsibility, "heavy and gratifying", is the white-haired people to send the black-haired people heavy, is to be able to say goodbye with a peaceful face.
Chen Yunqiu, who is practicing on props
A silent salute came from a group of policemen
Chen Yunqiu still remembers a silent salute, which was the gratitude and respect of a group of policemen.
In 2019, three traffic police officers were killed in the line of duty on the way to handle the case, and the damage caused by the accident made the repair of the remains a problem. Chen Yunqiu and her colleagues drove for more than four hours overnight.
"We repaired it for more than three hours, and when we pushed it out, the wife of a traffic police officer said, 'This is the he I remember, this is the he I remember.'"
Less than a month into their marriage, the wife was finally convinced at this moment that this was the husband she had been with all day and night, and he closed his eyes and looked like he was just asleep.
The traffic policemen bid farewell to their comrades one by one, and they brushed together to salute Chen Yunqiu and colleagues.
Chen Yunqiu didn't hold back and cried.
What made Chen Yunqiu most uncomfortable was the younger lives that had passed away, "only more than two years old, and his body was so small."
"I remember the farewell party of a 5-year-old boy, at the request of his parents, we made a life commemorative book, and the background music was the "Prose Poems Written by My Father" recorded by the children with their fathers before they died." When the music came out, the boy's brother and the older brother sang, accompanied by crying, and the relatives of the audience also sang. This kind of scene is really tearing the heart and lungs.
She has also heard many "four ways of love": love, thanks, apologies, goodbyes, and most of all, apologies. "When the children grow up, they set up their own families, and they will have less love for their parents, and it may be that at this time, they will find that their parents are very old, and they have done too little as children."
The final farewell should be a full and warm farewell.
Just as Lao Zheng's "thanks" at the beginning, in the past three years, Chen Yunqiu has received many family members' "thank you" and "it is good to have you", "This is also my greatest honor and sense of gain." ”
Chen Yunqiu in life
24 hours on standby, female morticians account for half of the country
Chen Yunqiu's normal working hours are 6:00 a.m. and 4:00 p.m.
It is also because death does not know when it will quietly come, Chen Yunqiu is on standby 24 hours a day. On the phone, she and her colleagues were about to leave for work.
In the work encountered diffuse or difficult to express emotions, Chen Yunqiu will ask a friend to go out to eat, "There is nothing that cannot be solved by a meal." ”
After working for three years, Chen Yunqiu did not go home for the New Year for three years. Summer vacations are relatively empty, and she will return to her hometown at that time.
Chen Yunqiu's grandmother has Alzheimer's disease, and the last time she came home, she didn't recognize her, "Seeing her less than once, I hope to take time to go back to see her." ”
At the Xiaoshan Funeral Service Center, there are a total of 6 female morticians including Chen Yunqiu, accounting for half of the funeral family, all post-95s.
Family members who have lost their families are sometimes very sensitive and difficult to communicate, and at this time, the mortician needs more empathetic thinking, treats these hurtful families more carefully, and uses their professional ability to comfort the family, which may be the advantage of female morticians.
More and more young people are choosing the funeral industry, but there is still a big gap in morticians.
"Just as the color scheme of a funeral home is warm, the services provided by the mortician should also be warm, if you are interested in the funeral industry, come and join us." Chen Yunqiu said.
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