Every woman wants to have a person who knows cold and knows hot and cold, and hopes that the feelings and beauty of each other can be happy and happy to go through this life.
For this reason, when many women choose a partner, most of them will consider honest people, thinking that they have a gentle personality and are worth entrusting for a lifetime.
Admittedly, honest men have certain benefits, he will not bring a lot of trouble to the marriage, and it is determined that you may also be a lifetime.
Such a person, although it looks good on the surface, you still have to be more careful.
Because, he may not only be "honest" in front of you, but also in front of others, simply put, there is no main heart, and living with such a man will only make himself more miserable.
If you meet these two honest people in your relationship, don't get close even if you love them.
In life, there are many men who are mommy boys, they have to consider the opinions of their parents in everything they do, and even obey the opinions of their parents, and they believe what their parents say, and they have no judgment at all.
It is true that parents are people who have come over and have more experience in dealing with many problems than we do, but times are changing, and we can't always solve problems with the previous methods, because now there are better ways.
It is difficult for a man who completely follows the opinions of his parents to communicate with you, in his eyes parents are the most important, you are secondary, usually do not get along well, once there is a problem, then it is your reason.
Some time ago, I watched a funny paragraph:
There was a young couple who had just married, and they were naturally very affectionate, and they were immersed in the ocean of love, but then the boy's mother told him to pay attention to moderation, which was best once a week.
In this way, when the girl had desire, the boy actually said:
"My mother said, you can't do this, otherwise it will hurt your body too much, and if I continue like this, I will be ruined."
Hearing her husband answer this, the wife was confused. After a while, she said somewhat angrily:
"Since you listen to your mother, go and talk to your mother."
After watching this video, Xiao Bei laughed unkindly.
To put it simply, this boy is also too boring, even this kind of thing also listens to the mother's arrangement, they are newly married, the frequency is normal, and even if one can't accept it, then he can bring it up, instead of listening to his mother's opinion.
This kind of man is to put it bluntly, there is no weaning in the spirit, everything depends on his parents, if you say more, he will be anxious with you, think you do not know filial piety, he thinks that he is very filial piety, in fact, it is foolish filial piety.
When they encounter things that are difficult to solve on their own, they will only seek parents, and how can they be happy with such a man?
Men who listen to their parents for everything, you better be careful, if you don't want to live more painfully in the future, just stay away.
We often say that blandness is a blessing, and we also know that marriage is bland, as long as we love each other well in marriage and operate hard, we can be happy.
There's nothing wrong with being bland, but it's wrong to be unmotivated.
Some men originally have no ability at all, and they don't want to work hard, to say that blandness is a blessing, and don't be confused by this illusion in the process of getting along.
Doing nothing is essentially not doing it in the heart, not wanting to work hard, not even trying when encountering difficulties, and when the worst result occurs, it will use Ah Q's spiritual victory method to comfort itself.
And bland is a blessing is that you have worked hard and fought for it, but in the end, people are not as good as heaven, and in the end they do not realize their own value, and then slowly release their feelings.
The difference between the two is attitude and action.
Friend Arvin talked about a boyfriend last year, but this year it split.
The reason for Arwen's breakup is simple, the other party does not have a little initiative, does not want to work hard, always complains about life, and is full of negative energy.
Talking about this topic, Arvin said:
"Xiao Bei, you know what? I've never seen a man who encounters difficulties and doesn't even solve them, who complains all the time, in his world everything is bad. ”
For Arvin's words, I especially agree, with such a man really can not see the future, not to mention the future happiness.
As a woman, you must know that at any time if a man loves you, he will naturally be aggressive, he wants to bring you the best life through his own ability, even if he does not have him, he will strive to try for you.
When you accelerate your growth and make yourself excellent, he will not stop moving forward, will make himself work harder to keep up with your pace, and create a beautiful and happy life with you.
Writer Su Qian said:
"The meaning of two people together is to grow together and appreciate together, not to let you slowly grow into a face that is bullied by life."
Choosing a partner is a big deal for a woman, so don't take it lightly.
If the other party is the two kinds of men mentioned above, you must know it in your heart, even if you love it, you must be cautious, and if you don't get it right, you will lose everything.
Some happiness is unattainable, since the honest person you like has not yet arrived, then you may wish to calm down and try to improve yourself, when you become excellent, maybe a good marriage will come.
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About the Author: Su Xiaobei is a cutting-edge emotional writer and marital psychological counselor. If you have a problem and don't know how to solve it, you can ask me a question and look forward to your consultation and message.