I believe that many people have heard a sentence in their relationship with their parents or with their lovers: "I am all for your own good". This Saturday (June 5) evening "Do Not Disturb", a male guest confided in the impact of native family education on himself, and the three teachers also called for intimate relationships to respect each other, and as parents, they should strive to establish a new type of family relationship that "let children bloom their own posture". In the lovers to get along with more respect, mutual understanding, get along without tired is a good state.
"I'm all for your own good", and intimacy also needs to be respected by each other
Male guest Hu Haining grew up under his father's oppressive education since he was a child, and after studying abroad, he found that the mother of two children can also become the main force of the school club, and the aunt in her 50s is still continuing her studies, so he also decided to live a different wonderful life, and from then on he did not want to be defined and refused to be arranged, "My life, I want to go on my own." His father always said to him, "I am always for your own good", but it brought great trouble, "From childhood to adulthood, I have been denied, making me feel that I am not doing anything right, and there is always a feeling of fear." "Many parents will put forward various arrangements and requirements to their children in the name of love, and this self-based education method will make children carry the weight forward, even fall into anxiety and cannot be relieved for a long time."
Meng Fei believes that in intimate relationships, it is also necessary to respect each other, and true love should be to make the person you love bloom with their own posture, "In the intimate relationship of our traditional family, we don't talk about the word 'love', we talk about giving, talking about success, but more about strict and obscure care." As parents, we should establish a new type of family relationship, close companionship in the childhood when the child knows nothing, silent escort in the child's ignorant and reckless adolescence, and slowly retreat in the child's mature and independent youth. Meng Fei also said: "I decided to completely delete this sentence 'I am all for your own good' from the dictionary of communication with my daughter in the future, what I want to say in the future is that this is the life I want, I also hope that you will quickly find the life you want, I will respect your choice." ”
Understanding each other and getting along without getting tired is a good state for lovers
In terms of feelings, Hu Haining once talked about a more self-contained girlfriend, "For example, when I go out on a trip, I will carefully plan the strategy of playing, but she always sleeps until the afternoon to get up and go out in the evening; when I go to the restaurant to eat, I usually order as much as I want, but she must order a table full of dishes, and each dish only eats one or two bites." Although these may seem like small things, they are the whole thing that comes together. In the future emotional relationship, I want to find a girl who is psychologically mature. "Ordering is really not a big deal, but the point is that the girl lacks respect for the male guest and ignores the feelings of the male guest." True love should be mutual respect, two people's things need two people's opinions, and two people's lives need two people to run together. Meng Fei said: Lovers get along is an interactive process, to understand each other's inner feelings, more from each other's point of view to consider the problem, must be sublimated to love with the heart, learn to understand each other, two people together relaxed and happy, get along is not tired is a good state.
Huang Lan suggested that the two people's getting along is composed of details like "ordering", each other are judging and measuring the other half bit by bit, I hope that everyone will not ignore the "small things" in the run-in process, and pay more attention to the details in daily getting along, "True love is often hidden in the details, whether it is love or marriage, what we are constantly looking for is a person who always hangs his own small things in his heart." Chen Ming stressed that in the relationship between lovers, we cannot let the other party give up their preferences and persistence in the name of "good for you", and it is the love that comes from the heart and can make the two hearts really close.
Female guest Wei Xin insisted on leaving the lamp until the end, "I like gentle boys with good personalities, and male guests are particularly in line." The male guest said that he liked mature girls, I just looked a little mature, but the heart is still relatively small girl, I don't know if the male guests will like it. "In the end, can two people successfully hold hands?
Watching tips: Jiangsu Satellite TV's "Non-sincere Do Not Disturb" was brilliantly staged at 20:30 this Saturday (June 5) at night!