Author: Zu Weiwei
In the fairy tale, "the prince and the princess have lived happily ever since", but what about after that? Mango TV's first marriage documentary observation reality show "Goodbye Lover" used 13 episodes to tell the other possibility of a happy life. Happiness can also not be "growing old together", but understanding each other and then staggering through.
"Goodbye Lover" brings the emotional variety show into a new stage from "happy sugar" to "emotional classroom", whether it is depicting the marriage state of modern people or the intimate relationship in love, it is obviously more cruel and realistic, but also more profound, so that the audience in the intimate relationship and the essence of marriage, but also see the fragility of emotions, the complexity of human nature and even the thinking of life. This program, which was rated as "the best cry of the year" and "the most surprising of the year", successfully achieved a spiritual fit and emotional resonance with the audience, and finally gained a high score of 8.9 on Douban, sweeping the major popularity lists of the whole network.
"Is this a show that scares people into marriage?" Producer Liu Le introduced that when this show was established, it was also difficult to record because of the sensitive program positioning and theme, and the most important thing was to choose divorced and divorced guests to participate in the show, which made many people discouraged, and even some people heard the theme when the response was "sick".
However, Liu Le believes that such a program has its necessity. "Many of our idol dramas and emotional variety shows have made everyone feel the beauty of love, but many programs have stopped at the time point of marriage. However, marriage is not the end of the relationship between husband and wife, how to manage the marriage well, how to say goodbye to the past lover, is also a perspective that we think should be shown to the audience. ”
"Goodbye Lover" focuses on three typical marriage samples, and gradually develops a unique narrative perspective in diversified intimate relationships, supplementing the discussion of social issues such as "original family", "fertility problems" and "communication problems" that were not available in previous emotional variety shows. The audience was suffocated by Wang Qiuyu's denial and suppression of Zhu Yaqiong's language, sorry for the communication between Guo Keyu and Zhang He, and disappointed by the lack of security between kk and Tong Chenjie.
These problems seem to be the emotional cracks of the three couples, in fact, they also reflect the typical problems in the generational marriage, but the program does not deliberately sell anxiety, does not repeat their pain points, and does not explain the conflict and rupture in the intimate relationship as the fault of one party.
In the "Love 36 Questions" session, the audience saw that Wang Qiuyu's attitude toward Zhu Yaqiong was inseparable from his past experiences; Zhang He and Guo Keyu "could not enter each other's world", but the two soft hearts behind the "protection mechanism"; and the quarrels and cold wars caused by KK and Tong Chenjie because of the bottom line problem also started from emotional problems.
The show realistically tells the audience that people and feelings are complex, and when solving marital problems, in addition to solving the contradiction with another person, it is more to solve their own problems. "Goodbye Lover" for the marriage of three couples is not to observe other people's stories, nor to complete some kind of social experiment, but to let the audience jump out of the logic and situation of the show, how to learn from an intimate relationship, and learn how to face later life. (Zu Weiwei)
Source: Beijing Youth Daily